Which cities and/or states are the opposite of where I currently live and hate? (low crime, transfer to)
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I have the opportunity to transfer to one of my company's branches in any of the other lower 48 states and I want to move out of the current state I am in because of the following reasons...
1. Cliques - my social life has suffered hugely moving here. A lot of the people still act like they are in high school and I find a lot of the people here very immature and too focused on partying rather than careers.
2. Too Much of a Party/Club Scene - I am a career-driven person and when I was in college I used to hang with my friends in coffee shops and bars. I used to have such a great time. But when I moved here (a new city for a good job away from everyone I know) I made friends at work and in random places but they are obsessed with going out every weekend and drinking alcohol and going to a packed dance club to have casual sex. Not my scene at all. I am not a total bore; my ideal night would be drinking and hanging out with my friends in a bar or a coffee shop and occasionally toking.
3. I don't feel like there are any likeminded people around here - when I was at college I had such a big circle of friends like me but when I moved to work here everyone is so different. I'm liberal and atheist and most are conservative and religious (ironically they love to party!). I am also more into music than sports but this is a big on college football and sports (I am a casual sports fan and a big soccer fan).
4. Lack of people with degrees - most of the locals are not educated. I want to be in a more intellectual city that is politically active and liberal.
I have the opportunity to transfer to one of my company's branches in any of the other lower 48 states and I want to move out of the current state I am in because of the following reasons...
1. Cliques - my social life has suffered hugely moving here. A lot of the people still act like they are in high school and I find a lot of the people here very immature and too focused on partying rather than careers.
2. Too Much of a Party/Club Scene - I am a career-driven person and when I was in college I used to hang with my friends in coffee shops and bars. I used to have such a great time. But when I moved here (a new city for a good job away from everyone I know) I made friends at work and in random places but they are obsessed with going out every weekend and drinking alcohol and going to a packed dance club to have casual sex. Not my scene at all. I am not a total bore; my ideal night would be drinking and hanging out with my friends in a bar or a coffee shop and occasionally toking.
3. I don't feel like there are any likeminded people around here - when I was at college I had such a big circle of friends like me but when I moved to work here everyone is so different. I'm liberal and atheist and most are conservative and religious (ironically they love to party!). I am also more into music than sports but this is a big on college football and sports (I am a casual sports fan and a big soccer fan).
4. Lack of people with degrees - most of the locals are not educated. I want to be in a more intellectual city that is politically active and liberal.
Mostly you're describing needing to find different friends, which you might be able to do where you are.
You don't give enough other info on what you want in a geographical area.
Intellectuals are generally found wherever there is high tech industries, or colleges.
True but I have tried to branch out (i.e joining similar interest clubs) but mostly everyone is the same. It seems inherent in this city's social culture
In a geographical area I want: not too hot, four seasons preferably, nice downtown area, good setting, low crime
Think cities, not states. People don't live in entire states. They live in cities, and more than that, in neighborhoods in (or suburbs of) particular cities. Look at
San Francisco/Oakland/Berkeley
Seattle
New York City
Washington DC
Boston
I love Chicago, but it is in many ways still a very Middle-American, blue-collar type of place -- that's part of its charm and delight. But it certainly has its share of intellectuals, hipsters, and soccer buffs. Find the right crowd there and it can be wonderful. I just wonder how easy it would be for you to do that.
Try Lexington Kentucky. It's a liberal conclave in a conservative state. If you're a liberal in Kentucky, you move there. It has a gay mayor. It is also one of the most educated cities in the country. And people there aren't snobs.
I have the opportunity to transfer to one of my company's branches in any of the other lower 48 states and I want to move out of the current state I am in because of the following reasons...
1. Cliques - my social life has suffered hugely moving here. A lot of the people still act like they are in high school and I find a lot of the people here very immature and too focused on partying rather than careers.
2. Too Much of a Party/Club Scene - I am a career-driven person and when I was in college I used to hang with my friends in coffee shops and bars. I used to have such a great time. But when I moved here (a new city for a good job away from everyone I know) I made friends at work and in random places but they are obsessed with going out every weekend and drinking alcohol and going to a packed dance club to have casual sex. Not my scene at all. I am not a total bore; my ideal night would be drinking and hanging out with my friends in a bar or a coffee shop and occasionally toking.
3. I don't feel like there are any likeminded people around here - when I was at college I had such a big circle of friends like me but when I moved to work here everyone is so different. I'm liberal and atheist and most are conservative and religious (ironically they love to party!). I am also more into music than sports but this is a big on college football and sports (I am a casual sports fan and a big soccer fan).
4. Lack of people with degrees - most of the locals are not educated. I want to be in a more intellectual city that is politically active and liberal.
Where should I go?
Thanks
I would say first and foremost, Washington DC fits your criteria best. Cities like NYC, Boston and Chicago are very pro sports-oriented which doesn't seem to be something you want constant involvement in.
I have the opportunity to transfer to one of my company's branches in any of the other lower 48 states and I want to move out of the current state I am in because of the following reasons...
1. Cliques - my social life has suffered hugely moving here. A lot of the people still act like they are in high school and I find a lot of the people here very immature and too focused on partying rather than careers.
2. Too Much of a Party/Club Scene - I am a career-driven person and when I was in college I used to hang with my friends in coffee shops and bars. I used to have such a great time. But when I moved here (a new city for a good job away from everyone I know) I made friends at work and in random places but they are obsessed with going out every weekend and drinking alcohol and going to a packed dance club to have casual sex. Not my scene at all. I am not a total bore; my ideal night would be drinking and hanging out with my friends in a bar or a coffee shop and occasionally toking.
3. I don't feel like there are any likeminded people around here - when I was at college I had such a big circle of friends like me but when I moved to work here everyone is so different. I'm liberal and atheist and most are conservative and religious (ironically they love to party!). I am also more into music than sports but this is a big on college football and sports (I am a casual sports fan and a big soccer fan).
4. Lack of people with degrees - most of the locals are not educated. I want to be in a more intellectual city that is politically active and liberal.
Where should I go?
Thanks
I would recommend Seattle, Portland, Columbus, or Austin based on your preferences.
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