Good Places for Gays (house, buy, law school)

[wallstreet1986]

Hi I'm your atypical gay male.

I could not stand to live in a San Francisco or Washington or New York. It is super stressful to me and super expensive.

Tell me about gay stuff I dont know -- like Asheville or Tulsa (from what I've heard Tulsa has a good gay population.) I want a liveable place. A nice affordable place. And as much as I would like to live say in South Carolina I'm afraid that my sexuality would hinder my ability to be successful in my career of law because of discrimination and that I wouldnt be accepted down there. So do share.

I'm a very masculine guy with the same interests and stuff as any other straight guy. God just happened to make me gay and it makes it hard. I love having a romantic time with another guy and to me it feels quite normal. I dont like the stereotypical gay community nor its trappings.

[Mrs.Bewitched]

You probably wouldn't like philadelphia for the same reasons as the other places you mentioned, but it is a good place for gay people.

[tallrick]

Who wants to live in a "gay" city? It's just going to be full of attitude, overpriced and disease-ridden. Look for a city in an educated area with good income opportunities. Find a boyfriend or friends with benefits and enjoy. If you avoid the bible belt or other ultra conservative cities I don't think you'll have a problem. A ***** friend moved to Minneapolis and is perfecly happy. Plenty of guys to choose from, good job and he's as happy as can be. This from a guy who was living on South Beach and ended up hating it. Another place he mentioned was Houston, but I am not sure why he said it was becomming overrun with undesirables.

[Down Logan]

I'd check out Portland, Oregon. I hear they have a really vibrant gay scene and it's a nice, slow-paced, affordable city.

I live in DC and have never met a gay person here who doesn't love every minute of living in the area. It's got just about everything for every taste.

[ScranBarre]

Originally Posted by wallstreet1986

Hi I'm your atypical gay male.

I could not stand to live in a San Francisco or Washington or New York. It is super stressful to me and super expensive.

Tell me about gay stuff I dont know -- like Asheville or Tulsa (from what I've heard Tulsa has a good gay population.) I want a liveable place. A nice affordable place. And as much as I would like to live say in South Carolina I'm afraid that my sexuality would hinder my ability to be successful in my career of law because of discrimination and that I wouldnt be accepted down there. So do share.

I'm a very masculine guy with the same interests and stuff as any other straight guy. God just happened to make me gay and it makes it hard. I love having a romantic time with another guy and to me it feels quite normal. I dont like the stereotypical gay community nor its trappings.

Wow! You and I have a LOT more in common than I thought! We're both born in 1986, we're both currently in college and pursuing professional degrees, and we're both currently masculine gay males. I'm in the same boat as you---I'm so straight-acting that I can't get any of Scranton's large "in the closet" gay population to ask me out. LOL! (Perhaps if I just gave up the hockey games and working out and put on a tiara I'd have more luck?)

As far as gay-friendly places are concerned, check out Scranton, where we have Pride Welcome Wagons, rainbow flags, and gay night clubs on every block! (You can probably just smell the sarcasm eminating through your monitor! LOL!)

[wallstreet1986]

I think in Scranton you would die permanently single. I felt that way about my hometown near Philadelphia a much bigger city.

I went to a gay bar in Binghamton last summer -- it was miserable and pathetic. There were a bunch of old bears and then a couple nice looking younger guys that were effeminate and cliquish and a couple of *** hags.

It seems to me to be a very isolating place to be gay. In general, being gay can be an isolating thing.

Did some research and saw a bunch of gay clubs and stuff in Oregon State. Hiking outings, volleyball, skiing, looked to be pretty friendly for it. Politics aside maybe I would be happy in Oregon -- moderate cost of living and good salaries plus all the skiing and outdoors stuff I like to do. I can buy a house and find a boyfriend. Yes a good life is possible.

The places where you have higher chances for having a boyfriend are not good places to live that is right. I thought about Palm Springs once but then I was like what am I going to do for a job and a decent house costs like 800K bucks there. It's also not good for young guys. Not much of a scene.

Well Scranton we do have a lot in common. Hockey, eh? Big boys with sticks?

[Chaparral]

I'll throw out the ABQ/Santa Fe area for your consideration. However, if you're looking more on the affordable side you'll probably want to steer closer to ABQ. Both areas have an established gay presence and are well accepted in their respective communities. Additionally, we have a good law school (UNM) and great weather year-round.

Chap

[tallrick]

It seems like the more gay an area is, the worse the cost/saleries ratio. That happened to Key West. Once the gay guys drive the prices up, they move on to the next coastal "up and comming" area. I have a feeling that in other places they are "in the closet" and you'll need some insiders info to find them. Maybe you can just find a tolerant place and then search around the gay ghettos for a boyfriend. Most likely there's someone there with a strong desire to leave such a community. case in point, a gay bodybuilder friend who lived in Coral Gables withhis parents and searched south Florida for boyfriends for 6 years, and found one while visiting relatives near Duluth MN. He's the typical "johnny Bravo" looking blond muscle hunk that the Latin guys would go for. But he wanted a tall white guy, something you can't find in Miami. He found one while visiting a friend in Minneapolis and they met at the bowling alley for gay bowling. They are a couple now and have been sharing in some pretty good business investments. My friend who was going nowhere in Latin America (south Florida) now owns two businesses, gyms and makes a lot more then he did here. They live in a small town away from the city, are a couple and have no problems. Don't limit yourself to the gay ghettoes.

[christina0001]

Milford, PA has a moderate gay population that is overall accepted by all. It is a cute little town on the NJ/NY/PA border, appx. 2 hours from NYC and Philly. If you like country living it might be a good choice for you.

[sailaway6]

Originally Posted by christina0001

Milford, PA has a moderate gay population that is overall accepted by all. It is a cute little town on the NJ/NY/PA border, appx. 2 hours from NYC and Philly. If you like country living it might be a good choice for you.

Are there any gay bar/clubs/coffee shops in Milford?