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As a post referenced earlier in this thread, yes I am talking more about the hip scenes such as modeling or pop, at what point you become too old to take part in a lot of crazy trendy wild parties as well as that sort of a social life in big cities. Yuppies is what they call them I guess.
Seems like 30 is a good cut off point for that, hope it lasts a couple more years after that as well but it does seem like as soon as you leave your 20s you're too old for that sort of fast nightlife. Sucks if you're a broke guy like me who can only find work in smaller cities for the moment being, thinking he might be too old to enjoy big city life in his 30s or really fit in with that sort of a party crowd.
Then yeah 30 or so, whether you have kids or not. That's why I like that many of the places I've been to have a mix of patios and lounges either outside or on the top floor, then the dance floor with strobes and a bar inside or on the bottom floor. Everyone can enjoy the nightlife.
I'm still pretty young. When I go out, I've seen older people on the dance floor, at the bar, or leaning on the wall and it's kind of uncomfortable. Not because they're older in general, but because many of them try hard to act younger and it comes off sketchy, especially when it comes to trying to dance with younger girls (who don't want it). It's like a senior in college trying to party and be hip with high schoolers.
I think the more casual setting is better for 30 and up. You can still talk, laugh, drink, flirt, and even dance without having to go full on rage and twerk mode. Leaving places after last call, it's looked like a warzone with people puking everywhere and stumbling all over the place. That's not a good look for anyone, but its really not a good look if you're 32 lol. That should be out your system by now lol.
But that's just my opinion. If you want to be 45 and go rage at Club Nocturnal then be my guess. Just personally for me, I wouldn't want to be surrounded by a bunch of people so young they can't even rent cars yet.
Olbrooks if you still want to go out that's fine, just don't "try" to look and act young. That's what makes it uncanny. A 35 year old guy at the bar doesn't bother anybody, but a 35 year old guy trying to push up on everyone and trying to dance to music he obviously doesn't listen to is what makes it weird. Just be you and have a good time.
I was broke in Manhattan in my 20's, and the city was my playground. Between guest lists, open bars, and any number of free events, New York is actually one of the better cities in the country to be young and broke. What you don't want, is to be middle-class and middle-aged in Manhattan... unless, of course, you scored that rent controled or stabilized apartment in your 20s.
I'm on the low-end of upper middle class, and New York is far less appealing for me, now.
Manhattan is much different than when I was first there in the early 90s. I agree that you could have fun being broke but nowadays it's a huge outdoor mall. It doesn't have the energy it used to have. All my friends who live there feel the same. One says it's vanilla.
Depends. I'd rather live in Manhattan now in my 40s than I did in my 20s bc I have money to do stuff. It would be torture to know everything is outside your door but you can't afford it. I'd rather be in BFE if I was broke.
My friends in the city go out a lot and do everything you mentioned except nightclubs. They do meet for drinks but it's not like 20 year olds.
Ugh. This is a real thing. This person gets it ^^^^^^
There are still plenty of things you can do in NYC without having a lot of money, but I definitely feel this way sometimes. Actually a lot of the times.
That's true. I've been a city dweller all my life and probably always will be. I was born and raised in a city, a big one, Chicago. My family didn't live there just to drink and party.
This may vary somehwat by region as well, it may be more common in the south for example for a Gen Xer to live in a McMansion. In the northeast/midatlantic most Gen Xers seem to be living in townhomes, condos, or smaller SFH.
People buy not only what they want but also what's offered in their market and what they can afford. Everyone makes compromises of some sort or another.
Ugh. This is a real thing. This person gets it ^^^^^^
There are still plenty of things you can do in NYC without having a lot of money, but I definitely feel this way sometimes. Actually a lot of the times.
I moved to South Beach at age 39 with the same idea. I can now afford to take advantage of what it has to offer and I could take my job with me.
My issue is I never had the chance to get the partying out of my system. Grew up in backwards religious town for high school where people were uber religious and strict, everyone was in everyone's business, felt like the Scarlett Letter.
Went to college, had to work and was a STEM major so not enough time to party and all of that stuff revolved around Greek Life at my school anyways.
Now in my mid 20s, entering grad school soon, will have a nice paying job when I enter my late 20s but haven't had the chance to really taste my limits with alcohol, get wild at a bar, and do all that crazy stuff. Would like to know how much time I have left for it because I get too old for it.
My issue is I never had the chance to get the partying out of my system. Grew up in backwards religious town for high school where people were uber religious and strict, everyone was in everyone's business, felt like the Scarlett Letter.
Went to college, had to work and was a STEM major so not enough time to party and all of that stuff revolved around Greek Life at my school anyways.
Now in my mid 20s, entering grad school soon, will have a nice paying job when I enter my late 20s but haven't had the chance to really taste my limits with alcohol, get wild at a bar, and do all that crazy stuff. Would like to know how much time I have left for it because I get too old for it.
Yes, because there is nothing like waking up with a hangover. You didn't miss out on much.
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You didn't miss out on much.
