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Old 02-06-2017, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Somewhere extremely awesome
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I live in a small sized metro (about 460 K) and from a daily life perspective, it's great. There are things to do and decent people. Being gay doesn't seem to be an issue in terms of acceptance or anything like that.

What can be a problem are dating options. There are probably about 400 single gay men within +/- 3 years of my age, most of whom will not show mutual interest. So living in a larger area for that reason might be beneficial. There is a large metro area, a medium-sized metro area, and a few other smaller metro areas within 80 miles of me, and nobody from those areas seems interested from a distance perspective, because they mostly don't have to be.
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Old 02-06-2017, 04:59 PM
 
Location: Minneapolis, MN
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I live in a small sized metro (about 460 K) and from a daily life perspective, it's great. There are things to do and decent people. Being gay doesn't seem to be an issue in terms of acceptance or anything like that.

What can be a problem are dating options. There are probably about 400 single gay men within +/- 3 years of my age, most of whom will not show mutual interest. So living in a larger area for that reason might be beneficial. There is a large metro area, a medium-sized metro area, and a few other smaller metro areas within 80 miles of me, and nobody from those areas seems interested from a distance perspective, because they mostly don't have to be.

Yes, it makes a difference whether you're single or not. I'm not single (even when I was, I was in a committed non-official relationship) so my criteria isn't the same as someone else's. But I agree, the one disadvantage is for single gay folks; less dating options. Once you're in a relationship, its not an issue.
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Old 02-06-2017, 05:48 PM
 
Location: northern Vermont - previously NM, WA, & MA
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I'd probably have difficulty adjusting to single life in Albuquerque and may not have considered living here otherwise if I were. I was single the whole time I lived in Seattle for five years, and I lived right in the gay neighborhood during my 20's. Looking back it was an ideal place to experience being single and the advantages that come with that. During that time I wanted to find a partner, but as I got older I realized the less I worried about being single and hunting for the right guy is exactly when my guy came around. Cliche, I know but true nonetheless.
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Old 02-06-2017, 06:03 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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Gay people are everywhere, even in my small country town there are gays who hold high level positions at the local bank, work at Wal-Mart and Kroger and cut hair at Great Clips.

The notion that gays only exist in major cities is quite outmoded in 2017.
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Old 02-06-2017, 06:22 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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I'd probably have difficulty adjusting to single life in Albuquerque and may not have considered living here otherwise if I were. I was single the whole time I lived in Seattle for five years, and I lived right in the gay neighborhood during my 20's. Looking back it was an ideal place to experience being single and the advantages that come with that. During that time I wanted to find a partner, but as I got older I realized the less I worried about being single and hunting for the right guy is exactly when my guy came around. Cliche, I know but true nonetheless.
Oh I don't worry about it anymore. I already know how things will be. I mean, the fact that I'm 32 and never had a single relationship in my life is basically writing on the wall lol.
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Old 02-06-2017, 09:00 PM
 
Location: Erie, PA
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I'm a gay male in my mid-20s who lives in Erie, PA. The metro is home to approximately 280,000 people. I moved once (to Phoenix, AZ) but have since moved back because I missed family and friends. I'm pretty neutral about it. Obviously we don't have the amount of LGBT folks that larger cities have, but it could be worse...I'm not to worried now. I would like a relationship.
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Old 02-07-2017, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Center City
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What's behind your OP? Are you looking to move somewhere? Are you simply wanting to find out if your life is better or worse than others?

Being gay is just one dimension of my being. It has not driven where I live. Why is it important to you? Do you want to surround yourself with gay friends and acquaintances? Do you want to party every night?

Or do you simply want to find a place where you can be yourself? If so, you can be yourself pretty much anywhere. That depends on you and not where you live. You will find happy gay people in villages of 500 people and miserable gay people in NYC.
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Old 02-07-2017, 10:33 AM
 
Location: East of the Sun, West of the Moon
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I imagine that it could make a big difference depending on whether you are L, B, G, or T.
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Old 02-07-2017, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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My home town is a metro of 300,000 people. There is a small gay scene there (1 bar) and the people are almost all very happy. I'll say though that the happy ones generally moved there with partners they found elsewhere.
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Old 02-07-2017, 02:19 PM
 
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I imagine that it could make a big difference depending on whether you are L, B, G, or T.
Not really with L, G, or B however very definitely for T.
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