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Old 02-27-2017, 11:21 AM
 
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You are clearly mixing me up with the wrong person.

It isn't even about Indians, I saw a thread posted by a latino on a similar topic being deleted, the double standard is just insane. It's a travesty that you and like 3 or 4 people have a say in what threads get locked and which ones don't.
I don't have any kind of say in what threads get locked and which don't. I'm not a moderator nor do I report those posts.

And yeah, I do think you're the same guy that keeps posting the same stuff over and over again about darker skinned guys (whether they are Asian Indian, Latino, Black, etc.) having a hard time dating blonds. You're supposedly a new member yet seem to be well acquainted with the history of these types of posts on CD. That's not a coincidence and you seem to be pretty emotionally invested in the subject.
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Old 02-27-2017, 11:34 AM
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Yup and that is a dynamic that plays a part in things like this topic. I'm glad you brought up age, as people look at this in totality without considering life expectancy.

Also, that source also showed the percentage of Black males and Black females that have never been married and I thought that information was interesting. With that we have to also consider the incarceration/prison industrial complex/War On Drugs/crime/law aspect as well and what gender tends to be involved in that as well.
Age plays a big factor. The military just makes that even more so. As for life expectancy, you touched on another good point. Women live longer than men. And Black have a lower life expectancy than Black women or White men. With Black men having among the lowest life expectancies in the USA, that really skews things the further one goes up in age.

The drug war put alot of men in prison. Alot of young men died.

I found it ironic than that 51% of Black men have never been married. A higher percentage of Black men are married than Black women. But then, it might not be. One can be married and then get divorced.
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Old 02-27-2017, 11:58 AM
 
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Age plays a big factor. The military just makes that even more so. As for life expectancy, you touched on another good point. Women live longer than men. And Black have a lower life expectancy than Black women or White men. With Black men having among the lowest life expectancies in the USA, that really skews things the further one goes up in age.

The drug war put alot of men in prison. Alot of young men died.

I found it ironic than that 51% of Black men have never been married. A higher percentage of Black men are married than Black women. But then, it might not be. One can be married and then get divorced.
I don't know, as I took it as never been married. That may include men that are in cohabiting/long term non married relationships as well.

Another aspect in terms of military that gets overlooked is that there are military bases around the world. So, I think it would make a difference if those men were stateside. So, that may be another thing that people don't think about.
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Old 03-01-2017, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Norfolk, VA
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Hi I am in many ways a very unstereotypical black man with a bachelor's degree and I was honestly wondering where a black man like me would fit in best in the United States. Currently living in Washington state and to be honest I am planning on getting out as fast as I can. It seems like in the northwest as soon as you get outside of Seattle or Portland you are in redneck territory. On top of that I don't think these "progressives" are as open minded as one would think and they seem to have very seriously in stone ways of thinking about black men. An educated brother who isn't on the government plantation and is ambitious seems to boggle their mind.

I'm seems like there are enough black men out here that choose a life that is glamorized by the media that in addition to being a ridiculously small percentage of blacks out here that I am fighting a losing battle for the most part.

As far as dating I don't know if I would describe it racism but I have been told I am very good looking plenty of times, but time and time again it seems a woman out here would rather be with a broke, socially awkward white man before even considering being with a brother. I mean there are the overweight fat white women with kids that are always looking and forward at that but that's never been my cup of tea. Seems like most of the good looking black women would rather date a white man out here too.

I'm not trying to come off racist and I have been raised in private schools and a predominately white environment my entire life so it feels a little weird even asking this. My logic is simple, If so many women state "no black men" on their profiles, even in real life they say that they " just don't find them attractive". And this being the majority of good looking white women out here which again is the majority, am I better off looking somewhere else? I'm not saying it's all women out here because some attractive women do approach me and I have had girlfriends out here but it does seem like I am fighting some culturralt forces out here and I have to put in like 5X the effort than I would if I lived in a more suited area.

If so where could this be? I've considered the Cleveland Pittsburgh area but I would love any suggestions if anyone had the time. I don't really care about crime. Lived in or around rougher areas my entire life just don't want to live in a somalia
Virginia, Atlanta, Washington DC. Black women still date Black men in Virginia. Hell, you'd even fare better in Ohio than you would out in Washington state. Virginia I'd stick with the larger metro areas; Richmond, Hampton Roads and Northern Virginia. Anywhere else your chances with White women would be greater than they are with Black women.

I'm from Northeastern Ohio. Cleveland is good if you have money and you can afford the nicer areas. Far as Black women, you shouldn't have any issues there. But Cleveland is a place you need to know what neighborhoods to avoid. Doubt that will ever change with that city. Pittsburgh; it can be a little weird, like the Pacific Northwest, but you should be okay otherwise.

For what it's worth, Cleveland and Pittsburgh are NOT in the same area. Pittsburgh is Western Pennsylvania. You leave the Pittsburgh metro area you're in a completely different place. Cleveland is Northeastern Ohio. Totally different things. Cleveland is in the same area with Youngstown, Akron and Canton. You shouldn't have any issues anywhere in Northeastern Ohio but again, you need to know what areas to avoid. I've heard the whole "I don't care about crime" thing. You should if you care anything about property values and appreciation; you can easily throw your money away in Ohio on depreciating properties.

You're also going to be in the minority in both areas, but the attitudes are a bit different there than what you're experiencing in the Pacific Northwest and it should be easier to navigate. I would go back to Northeastern Ohio myself but my wife hates it up there, property values are really low, and wages are incredibly low, but if you have your degree, and experience, you should fare far better than I would there.

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Old 03-04-2017, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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That's some really awesome advice right there man. Thanks!
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Old 03-04-2017, 03:28 PM
 
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That was something I was really keen on in the Cleveland area. I was looking at houses for fun and saw you can buy houses on the lake for dirt cheap. On a lake!Wages didnt look to bad for degreed jobs. But living in the Seattle area it's such a godsend to see property that isn't priced up to the heavens.
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Old 03-04-2017, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Norfolk, VA
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You'll like Cleveland. You can get something for a fraction of the cost of what it costs to live in Seattle and the people are easier to get along with.
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Old 03-07-2017, 08:22 AM
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I think certain TV shows have made it more acceptable. Ten years ago it was still frowned upon by many black women. You cannot expect for them to just sit on the sidelines while black men increasingly choose to date and marry other races. Often times when my wife and I went out.....it would be groups of black women going out to dinner or to movies, while I would see black guys with white women at the same places.

I live in Minneapolis now. Chris Rock did a show here a while back. He joked that as soon as a black person arrives at the MSP airport that you are immediately given a white girl. "here is your white girl"!. Lol. I have a nephew here who has NEVER dated a black girl and does not even entertain the idea. He only looks for white girls....period. There is something wrong with that of interracial relationship. If you are attracted to a trait that you cannot reproduce, through reproduction, with that person, then its not a healthy attraction.
Well, funny you mention all of this. I have a younger sister who is around 26. She has never been with a Black man, ever. She has been in relationships only with White males. I seldom remember Black females frowning upon dating a White male. I've heard stories of Black women asking "Where are the good Black men". However, the "I don't date White men" thing was rare in comparison

One show I found that put this topic front and center was Scandal. And it didn't really intend to. It just did. It was a hit with Black women. The President, and a Black female being the President's side woman.

I've heard of Minneapolis being called one of the best cities for interracial couples. Your nephew might have a parallel to me, except for one thing. I've never been with ANY woman. I've been single my whole life. Most women of any race have never found me to their liking in terms of romantic relationships, that I know of. Now, if I ever do get into an interracial relationship, this can be counted on. I know I can't reproduce certain things. I'll be happy with whatever I reproduce, said child will have part of me in those traits. Whatever relationship I get into, it won't have anything to do with "what will the child look like?". It will be about my personal happiness. At the end of the day, it is me, that woman, and whatever children come from that marriage (if I ever get married).
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Old 03-07-2017, 08:23 AM
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I don't know, as I took it as never been married. That may include men that are in cohabiting/long term non married relationships as well.

Another aspect in terms of military that gets overlooked is that there are military bases around the world. So, I think it would make a difference if those men were stateside. So, that may be another thing that people don't think about.
And with military populations, there is a bit of transiency. Those men around the world might come stateside.
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Old 03-08-2017, 01:04 PM
 
Location: Seattle
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I'm beginning to think that indentured servant is actually a woman. She keeps bringing up interracial dating like it's the only thing being discussed in this thread. Seems kinda fishy to me.
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