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Old 05-06-2017, 09:39 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I've researched and visited a few cities, and asked questions on these forums (everyone has been so helpful) and I still can't make up my mind. I'm starting to think I can't make this decision, and I'm afraid of moving somewhere that I end up hating.

I hate where I live now. I love NJ, but where I am now is high drugs and crime and pollution. I need to drive 30-40 minutes to walk my dogs in a nice and safe area. My mom wants to move south, because mostly of the high taxes in NJ and she doesn't like the heavier snows you see in north NJ.

She's left the decision up to me, as long as it is on the east coast or PA and not north, and she'd prefer a community setting. She's made it clear she does not want to move again though she wants to find her permanent home.

We don't have family left here. Our family had a huge falling out a few years ago and they don't communicate with us, or my family members have died like my grandparents. So there is no family to move to that would influence the decision.

I'll graduate next year with a BSN so I am lucky that I can probably find work easier than other occupations. I really loved Raleigh and Chapel Hill when I visited...but I wonder if I'd be happy there long term. How do you know?
How do you make this decision? What if my mom is miserable because of a choice I make? Honestly she says she will move where I decide, I mean she has said no to certain cities I picked, but there's plenty she'll agree to. I don't want to move from somewhere bad to someplace that ends up just as bad.
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Old 05-06-2017, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Clemson, SC by way of Tyler,TX
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..but I wonder if I'd be happy there long term. How do you know?
How do you make this decision? What if my mom is miserable because of a choice I make? Honestly she says she will move where I decide, I mean she has said no to certain cities I picked, but there's plenty she'll agree to. I don't want to move from somewhere bad to someplace that ends up just as bad.
You don't know......
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Old 05-06-2017, 10:13 PM
 
Location: City of North Las Vegas, NV
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....well one can never escape their problems where ever they move. Make sure you have a good job or source of income set up where you move and plan on staying there for a bit.

Also, why east coast? Plenty of nice places further west
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Old 05-07-2017, 05:58 AM
 
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Sometimes you just have to do it. Home is what you make of it. Go with your gut.
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Old 05-07-2017, 06:10 AM
 
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I'll graduate next year with a BSN so I am lucky that I can probably find work easier than other occupations. I really loved Raleigh and Chapel Hill when I visited...but I wonder if I'd be happy there long term. How do you know?
I lived in the Chapel Hill-Carrboro area for seven years and can tell you by far it's been my favorite of all the places I have lived (also FL, PA, DC) and of my many friends I met there who moved to varying cities for work. It has a very welcoming vibe as most living there are from somewhere else and it doesn't have that cliquishness many cities have that is sometimes hard to overcome, people seem generally interested in meeting others and forming friendships. The cost of living is moderate and it's quite safe with virtually no bad neighborhoods or places where one would feel unsafe walking at night. I can't say enough good about it and if you have any questions regarding the area feel free to send me a direct message.
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Old 05-07-2017, 07:49 AM
 
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What are you looking for in a new location and community/neighborhood?
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Old 05-07-2017, 07:51 AM
 
Location: Nashville TN, Cincinnati, OH
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No place is perfect, the nicer the place the higher cost of living.
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Old 05-07-2017, 09:01 AM
 
Location: East Coast
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I like the Raleigh area...I lived in Cary, a suburb, years ago it was very nice and with many job opportunities. Also the Richmond area is great don't be fooled by what you see on either side of 95 it's a wonderful place with lots of medical and Fortune 500 companies.
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Old 05-07-2017, 09:10 AM
 
Location: Cbus
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No place is perfect, the nicer the place the higher cost of living.
Not necessarily.
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Old 05-07-2017, 01:23 PM
 
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Its hard for me because there are differnt places and different priorities and factors like scenery,culture and economy/cost of living.
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