Relocation for a relationship (living, moving, budget)

[bchris02]

What is your opinion on relocation for a relationship? Have you ever done it? Did the relationship work out once you relocated? If not, did you regret moving?

I was so close to packing up and moving 8 hours away for a relationship. That relationship failed before I got a chance to move, but I had a friend who moved clear across the country for a relationship and was back within a month because it failed. I think a lot of people have long distance relationships and try to relocate to make them permanent, then find out things are very different than they seemed. This seems to be more common today with more people meeting online, etc.

[seattlenextyear]

I imported my husband from the West Coast 3 years ago. We were long distance for 2 years before that, after meeting on the internets. We married now, so I'm pretty glad he moved.

[bchris02]

Originally Posted by seattlenextyear

I imported my husband from the West Coast 3 years ago. We were long distance for 2 years before that, after meeting on the internets. We married now, so I'm pretty glad he moved.

Its great it worked out for you. I have found through experience that you can think you know and love somebody online but until you have not only met them in person, but spent enough time with them to develop the emotional connection that online-only relationships lack, you don't truly know them.

[Gil3]

Originally Posted by bchris02

What is your opinion on relocation for a relationship? Have you ever done it? Did the relationship work out once you relocated? If not, did you regret moving?

I was so close to packing up and moving 8 hours away for a relationship. That relationship failed before I got a chance to move, but I had a friend who moved clear across the country for a relationship and was back within a month because it failed. I think a lot of people have long distance relationships and try to relocate to make them permanent, then find out things are very different than they seemed. This seems to be more common today with more people meeting online, etc.

Yes..I recently moved back to Pa and in with my GF after living 2 hrs apart for almost 5 years. Believe me. Any long distance relationship can take it's toll, be it distance, time wise and financial. Two hours apart compared to a cross country relationship is like comparing apples to oranges, but in the end, many of the same challenges must be encountered.

As for things being different, yes, that can be the case. However, our biggest obstacle was actually getting used to living together since we each were independent for a long time. Plus, sharing space on a permanent basis, getting used to each others personal habits, creating a budget, daily routines, work schedules and TV preferences can create friction initially.

Trust me. Seeing someone for 2-3 days on the weekend is vastly different than living together every single day of the week. You do get on each other's nerves, but if you love one another, I feel all of these aforementioned things can be overcome.

I have no regrets whatsoever. On the same token, our relationship is a lot better than it was prior to my relocation. If one feels it's worth the risk, then take it.

In summation, if it's meant to be, then it will.