Best places for gays to live?

[nate14ri]

Originally Posted by Angel and The Dolphin

I don't know if "diva" is a word I'd use to describe me. I like attention and all, but I don't demand it

Nate,

I used to live in Warwick and I LOVED Providence. I still think of moving back there sometimes; I just can't get used to the idea of winter again **shudder**

Grew up in Westerly, now live on the East Side. Not a huge fan of winter either, so I always make a trip to Ft. Lauderdale every winter just to get away from the cold and depressing winter and get some sunshine. But Providence is truely a great town to be young (23) and gay as providence gets better and better.

[britches]

Originally Posted by Jimrob1

The longer gay people feel they have to go to a particular place or a certain region to live. You have to ask yourself are you really living. I see nothing but basically a glorifed ghetto or the development of them. The hell with the ones that make one feel they can't live someplace, let them move then. I look for places that are affordable and a climate more appealing. I look for places where I don't have to completely depend on a car as the world changes and we become priced out of so many places. Most of these gay friendly places ,not all but most are extremely overpriced and not for the average person. We all know that, why not find other places and mix in with the population, or this will always be the same thing. Don't move to the south, don't move to the midwest, they are to conservative and gay unfriendly. They are probably unfriendly to a point and there will still be some that are not so bad. If this is suppose to the be the United States, I don't see anything United in thinking someone gay has to live in Palm Springs or San Fran etc to live in their own country. You have to ask yourself if you feel so limited in areas to live in, are you living in the right country.

I just wanted to contribute my two cents and say the whole thing that brought me to this forum (well, to google "gay friendly cities") isn't that I want to live in a gay community, but I don't want to live in fear of a gay unfriendly community. Someone I know was living in Minnesota and actually had their house set on fire for being out. Their daughter was killed in the fire. They've moved since then but that kind of thing scares the crap out of me. I'm actually bisexual, so I could end up with a man (I'm a woman) but I want to be somewhere that I can wind up with whoever I want without fear of being victim of a hate crime. I can even deal with being treated differently (I'd prefer not to but I was raised in a conservative part of Indiana so I'm used to it), but I just want to be free to feel safe being who I am.

[Chicagoland60426]

Believe it or not, Chicago have one of the largest gay population in the country. I think Chicago is the gay capital of the midwest. The midwest is not as homogeneous and conservative as people like to believe.

[Jimrob1]

Originally Posted by britches

I just wanted to contribute my two cents and say the whole thing that brought me to this forum (well, to google "gay friendly cities") isn't that I want to live in a gay community, but I don't want to live in fear of a gay unfriendly community. Someone I know was living in Minnesota and actually had their house set on fire for being out. Their daughter was killed in the fire. They've moved since then but that kind of thing scares the crap out of me. I'm actually bisexual, so I could end up with a man (I'm a woman) but I want to be somewhere that I can wind up with whoever I want without fear of being victim of a hate crime. I can even deal with being treated differently (I'd prefer not to but I was raised in a conservative part of Indiana so I'm used to it), but I just want to be free to feel safe being who I am.

I understand where your coming from. It is difficult to find these places where you can just be yourself. I hope the country improves and all of this is a non issue in the near future. For now it seems difficult to find these places. I hope for the next generation this is easier. Now it is not, trying to find a place when one is hitting retirement age is brutal. Anyplace that would feel comfortable and or practical means being priced out. Good Luck.

[At1WithNature]

where is jluke when you need him? He is very knowledgable on Houston and its' different scenes. i give him rep all the time.

[britches]

Originally Posted by Jimrob1

I understand where your coming from. It is difficult to find these places where you can just be yourself. I hope the country improves and all of this is a non issue in the near future. For now it seems difficult to find these places. I hope for the next generation this is easier. Now it is not, trying to find a place when one is hitting retirement age is brutal. Anyplace that would feel comfortable and or practical means being priced out. Good Luck.

Thanks, and I totally agree. I pray that our country gets to a place where everyone can feel safe and free being who they are. I know what you mean about practically every place feeling comfortable/practical being priced out! Good luck to you too.

[nate14ri]

just saw Milk w/ Sean Penn this weekend. AMAZING movie. def would love to check out the castro and the Haight.... understandably that was 30 years ago but still a very welcoming and free-spirited area.

[Sandy Springs Rep.]

Originally Posted by tokyopapa

Oh my goodness! Are you kidding?! Small southern towns are the absolute WORST place for gays to live! You wouldn't believe, being a citizen of a small southern town myself, how many gay bashings I've seen and the incredible amount of gay profanities and snide remarks towards homosexuals...Please, if you value your social, emotional, and very possible physical well-being, stay away from the south at all costs...big city or small

That's actually not true. Both Dallas and Atlanta have big gay populations and are very cosmopolitan cities. Any major metro area will be fairly tolerant of gay people, some more than others.

Dallas has some very conservative/very fundamentalist areas, though, so I'd say Atlanta more than Dallas, but then again, I'm biased since I've lived in Atlanta my entire life.