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Old 10-22-2018, 08:57 AM
 
Location: Wonderland
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I think values vary widely but goals don't, if that makes sense. That's where the differences and similarities come into play. Whether we choose to focus on similarities or differences boils down to each individual.

That being said, sometimes the pursuit of common goals (less stress emotionally and financially, joy between people who love each other, health, things that interest us being available to pursue or enjoy) is accomplished using different value systems and that's where the conflict begins. Personally, as an adult, I'm fine with mentally competent adults doing whatever they want to do to accomplish their goals, as long as they don't hurt people who don't want to participate, or expect me to subsidize their efforts. I MAY subsidize their efforts, but the minute I'm forced to, we've got a problem.

So - Hindus living next door - no problem. Buddha statue in their garden? No problem. Family and friends attending Buddhist celebrations next door? No problem. Parking in my driveway, blocking the street, trash in my yard, loud music keeping me awake at night - now we've got a problem.
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Old 10-22-2018, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Clemson, SC by way of Tyler,TX
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I think values vary widely but goals don't, if that makes sense. That's where the differences and similarities come into play. Whether we choose to focus on similarities or differences boils down to each individual.

That being said, sometimes the pursuit of common goals (less stress emotionally and financially, joy between people who love each other, health, things that interest us being available to pursue or enjoy) is accomplished using different value systems and that's where the conflict begins. Personally, as an adult, I'm fine with mentally competent adults doing whatever they want to do to accomplish their goals, as long as they don't hurt people who don't want to participate, or expect me to subsidize their efforts. I MAY subsidize their efforts, but the minute I'm forced to, we've got a problem.

So - Hindus living next door - no problem. Buddha statue in their garden? No problem. Family and friends attending Buddhist celebrations next door? No problem. Parking in my driveway, blocking the street, trash in my yard, loud music keeping me awake at night - now we've got a problem.
This is happening in your hood? How sad.
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Old 10-22-2018, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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In this day and age, you're going to find people on their cell phones more than anything else.
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Old 10-22-2018, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Mars City
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I often hear that "people are the same everywhere".
I've seen firsthand that this is completely untrue. Cultural and regional differences are huge. And the more perceptive and intuitive you are, the more you will see and experience the differences.
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Old 10-22-2018, 10:18 AM
 
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I often hear that "people are the same everywhere". That when the socioeconomics, politics, religion, ethnicity, etc. of a community are looked past, the general assortment of characters in any given community is the same.

What do you think? Is any given community in the US as similar as any other? Or is that just a platitude?

For the most part yes.
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Old 10-24-2018, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Sometimes it depends upon the ethnic culture that dominates parts of a city. Many that have an Eastern European population as in Chicago where I grew up have a culture where the men will greet each other with a hug or maybe even a little kiss on each cheek. That's what they did in the Old Country.

But one does not find that everywhere in the US where just a handshake is more common.

Things like that influence the social dynamics of places making them different from each other. The more physical welcoming might make people feel more warm and friendly towards other people in general whereas the handshake more aloof and restrained.
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Old 10-27-2018, 04:50 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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People are the same everywhere. Except in indiana. Those hoosiers are a different breed of cat, possibly not genetically related to the rest of us.
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Old 10-28-2018, 10:53 PM
 
Location: Appalachian New York, Formerly Louisiana
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There are regional differences, such as accents, slang, food preferences, climate effects, racial groups, and so forth. But in general terms all Americans are the same.

A rural man from Massachusetts and a rural man from Alabama would have more in common than either would believe at first. Ultimately more in common than in difference, regardless of how stark the immediate differences may seem to be.

America is a melting pot and for the most part that's pretty evident. Most of the time the differences are based more in blown-up stereotypes and outdated assumptions than reality.

That's speaking for the masses, of course. Individual differences are too nuanced and vast to discuss properly.
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Old 10-28-2018, 10:58 PM
 
Location: Appalachian New York, Formerly Louisiana
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In this day and age, you're going to find people on their cell phones more than anything else.
Depends on where you go.

I notice that more in the urban and urban-wannabe sets. Especially in women.

For the most part people around where I live don't bury themselves in phones. They like to talk, occasionally ad nauseum.
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Old 10-29-2018, 05:59 AM
 
Location: Williamsburg, VA
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Are people the same everywhere? I certainly hope not! We retired to a small town to get away from the type-A career driven people of northern VA. It was great living there during my career years, but now that I'm retired it's great to be living down here where the people are much more relaxed.
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