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Old 11-29-2018, 06:30 AM
 
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I dont assume anything.This is what you are doing.Not everyone is trying to figure out your political association just by asking what church yo go to.
If you are African American as I am ,this question has nothing to do with politics as most blacks vote Democratic.

Again its not even that often this even happenes.Bu continuing this dialog it makes it seem like this is an every day occurrence simply is not.
Its an excuse and not a valid one at that.
You're correct. It's not an every day occurrence but I can honestly say that noone has asked me that question since I left the South and that includes all of the other regions although it's limited to the major cities. Also, I said perceived assumption from the party being asked, not the one doing the asking. Think of it like asking someone who isn't White where they are from.. often times but not always it means what country they came from and often times they are actually from here. Just don't ask, let it go the way of asking if a woman is pregnant or someone is gay.
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Old 11-29-2018, 05:22 PM
 
Location: Clemson, SC by way of Tyler,TX
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You're correct. It's not an every day occurrence but I can honestly say that noone has asked me that question since I left the South and that includes all of the other regions although it's limited to the major cities. Also, I said perceived assumption from the party being asked, not the one doing the asking. Think of it like asking someone who isn't White where they are from.. often times but not always it means what country they came from and often times they are actually from here. Just don't ask, let it go the way of asking if a woman is pregnant or someone is gay.
Yeah, when I lived in Texas, if someone asked me where I'm from, I say Texas. Their immediate response would be "no, where are you really from, or ok, where is your family originally from?"
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Old 11-29-2018, 06:15 PM
 
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Right.Then why complain about a different culture in their own environment?You said you didnt like it.
ff thats the case why be somewhere you dont like how something is done?Sounds like you want to just tell other people how they should live.
Its already been explained to you this is a part of culture in some parts of the South.Mostly rural at that

What are you talking about?
I never told anyone how to live. I said can understand if people thought of the south as too religious and conservative. And I gave examples.


It was you who seemed to have an issue with other people preferring the pacific northwest over the south and citing my above mentioned reasons. You first claimed that these reasons were false or try to dismiss them, then changed it to people should accept them.

So I'm not sure what point you are trying to make. Remember the topic was/is



"Where would you live and Why Pacific Northwest vs Southeast?"


And as it stands it seems some people prefer the northwest and in part because for them the south is too religious. I for one can see their point, does not mean I have an issue with the south or the culture there.
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Old 11-29-2018, 07:54 PM
 
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Yeah, when I lived in Texas, if someone asked me where I'm from, I say Texas. Their immediate response would be "no, where are you really from, or ok, where is your family originally from?"
Wait, what parts of the country? I always tell people I was born in Dallas, but people always clarify they mean the country my parents ir grandparents are from. I get that reponse everywhere, from New England to Seattle, Houston to Cleveland, and the Deep South to San Francisco. No one, regardless of region, cares what city I'm from, they just want to know which Asian country my ancestors lived before the US. This is true in person and on line.
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Old 11-30-2018, 01:58 AM
 
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What are you talking about?
I never told anyone how to live. I said can understand if people thought of the south as too religious and conservative. And I gave examples.


It was you who seemed to have an issue with other people preferring the pacific northwest over the south and citing my above mentioned reasons. You first claimed that these reasons were false or try to dismiss them, then changed it to people should accept them.

So I'm not sure what point you are trying to make. Remember the topic was/is



"Where would you live and Why Pacific Northwest vs Southeast?"


And as it stands it seems some people prefer the northwest and in part because for them the south is too religious. I for one can see their point, does not mean I have an issue with the south or the culture there.
Im aware of the topic but you dont need to remind me but those that made it about people asking about "where you go to church" and also and yourself as you are the one suggesting people changed there behavior in their home region not make others feel more comfortable.

So you actually think all the people who said they didn't like heat or even the politics of the South as I said nothing but when someone says they get offended by a simple question about what church they go to ,now Im mad because people prefer the Pacific Northwest?No that makes it simple for you to ignore what I actually said.

What did I say in any of my post where I had a problem with anyone preferring another region over the other?Simply false and dare you t find a quote where I have eluded or said anything like it

I don't understand why you cant understand that if you are in another country,you abide by those customs or at least respect for the community in which culture they are accustomed also
Every region of the US is different.When people simply said the South is too religious compared to other regions,I agree but the exaggerations. are ridiculous.
Which again simply asking the question doesnt mean people are being nosey rather but friendly.This is common in the South and no where else.So you may not like it,but dont knock the region because of an exaggerated sense of what you deem is problematic to a point where its simply people encroaching upon your right to not engage you in this manner.. This is why I said just stay put and dont go South if that bothers you by the small off chance it might happen.
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Old 11-30-2018, 07:27 AM
 
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As a person of color, I'll take living in the South ANY-DAY a thousand times over than living in the PNW because I feel like I'm apart of the community and growth as I see people who look like me in every aspect of society. And the amount people of African descent of all nationalities would suggest that something must exist in the South for so many to move here than other places
I'm white, but I have to say that if you are black, the southeast offers more career opportunities. Especially Atlanta. If you want to see successful black people all day long, that's where it's happening.

I'm currently in the North Georgia mountains, and had to drive an hour and a half south to Jasper to see an ear specialist. My new ear doctor is black, and he divides his time between Atlanta and Jasper.

It always amazes me the difference in the black experience in "racist" Atlanta verses a liberal city like Oakland, CA. The divide in hope couldn't be more stark.

I'm not sure that liberal-leaning white people realize the difference for blacks. I know of a black couple who are scientists in Minnesota with good careers there. The husband is from Atlanta. They constantly hunt for jobs in Atlanta because they know the level of acceptance is so much higher. Plus, they want their daughter to grow up without feeling like the only black person in her class.
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Old 11-30-2018, 07:37 AM
 
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Even in the tiny rural religious towns I've lived in, in the North Carolina/North Georgia mountains, I've been asked what church I go to one time in 17 years.

I said I didn't go to church and the subject never came up again. I wasn't being judged. The lady was simply going to offer an invitation to her church if I was so inclined as a way of being welcoming. She wasn't the least put off by my answer.

I am not Christian and it's not an issue. This area is strongly "live and let live". The mountain culture considers it extremely offensive to interfere with how other people live.
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Old 11-30-2018, 09:12 AM
 
Location: Clemson, SC by way of Tyler,TX
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Wait, what parts of the country? I always tell people I was born in Dallas, but people always clarify they mean the country my parents ir grandparents are from. I get that reponse everywhere, from New England to Seattle, Houston to Cleveland, and the Deep South to San Francisco. No one, regardless of region, cares what city I'm from, they just want to know which Asian country my ancestors lived before the US. This is true in person and on line.
The south, including Texas. Not one person in Denver or DC ever asks me where I'm from, for better or worse.

"Hey what are you, where you from?"

"From here, I'm an American and Texan."

"......uhm, where are you really from or where are your parents from?"
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Old 11-30-2018, 03:54 PM
 
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Im aware of the topic but you dont need to remind me but those that made it about people asking about "where you go to church" and also and yourself as you are the one suggesting people changed there behavior in their home region not make others feel more comfortable.

So you actually think all the people who said they didn't like heat or even the politics of the South as I said nothing but when someone says they get offended by a simple question about what church they go to ,now Im mad because people prefer the Pacific Northwest?No that makes it simple for you to ignore what I actually said.

What did I say in any of my post where I had a problem with anyone preferring another region over the other?Simply false and dare you t find a quote where I have eluded or said anything like it

I don't understand why you cant understand that if you are in another country,you abide by those customs or at least respect for the community in which culture they are accustomed also
Every region of the US is different.When people simply said the South is too religious compared to other regions,I agree but the exaggerations. are ridiculous.
Which again simply asking the question doesnt mean people are being nosey rather but friendly.This is common in the South and no where else.So you may not like it,but dont knock the region because of an exaggerated sense of what you deem is problematic to a point where its simply people encroaching upon your right to not engage you in this manner.. This is why I said just stay put and dont go South if that bothers you by the small off chance it might happen.

Nobody is suggesting for people to change anything. If the question is where one prefers to live and one decides one over the other citing as a reason that the other place is too religious (asking about what church one goes to as an example) then that is just that, a reason. Why would you take that as demanding or wanting to change the behavior?

You took and continue to take offense to people who have a problem with being asked about what church they are going. Again for you it should not be considered a big deal for others it is something they prefer not to happen and that is why they prefer other regions. What is so difficult to understand in that?



Also it is not about what I see as problematic as the only here who seems upset about this is you. You can't seem to accept that not everyone shares your opinion on what is friendly, nosey and what should be considered what or what is a viable and good reason.

Whether I stay put or where I would go, is of course up to me and as opposed to you I can appreciate and accept other POV's and opinions so I can, could and have easily adjusted in the south when down there. Which has nothing to do with what region I would prefer. Which is the topic which I'm still not sure you quite understand despite your claims.
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Old 12-01-2018, 07:56 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I live in the South now but I wonder how I would adjust to the Pacific NW culture. I'm pretty well-adjusted to southern culture despite being from the Northeast. The Pacific NW would be a big change for me but it does seem interesting as someone who's a creative person.
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