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Originally Posted by myfask
I have been reading allot of the posts for different cities
Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand why I have seen so many posts (mostly negative) for areas from people that have never lived there.
Maybe the best way is to ask yourself before posting:
"is this first hand accurate information"
"am I posting this because I need to vent"
"am I just very unhappy here but others find it a good place to live"
"am I adding my "2 cents" because I'm bored and there is nothing else to do  "
I think we have a certain "responsibility" as human beings to really think about what we post.
Karla |
My observations:
1. Too many people don't/won't/can't even do the most basic internet research on a major decision like relocation. "What's it like in (fill in blank)?" should get a response of "Look it up," because those same people will ask the same question about every town imaginable if the first one doesn't pan out. If they are obviously search engine deficient (as opposed to lazy) instead of giving them an answer, tell them where they can find the information and/or give them the search engine words to use so they don't keep asking the same questions over and over with different towns.
2. Too many people don't know how to get to the next page on these forums or they wouldn't be asking the same question that was asked two days earlier. They also don't know how to find/use the "Search this forum" feature. Instead of answering their question, tell them how to do these things.
3. People who ask "feelings" questions about relocation deserve "feelings" answers. Asking relocation questions like "Is there
too much snow in (fill in blank)?" or, "Are the schools
any good in (fill in blank)? Or, is there
a lot drugs in (fill in blank)? are going to get opinions based on the responder's perspective. Instead of giving them "feelings" answers, give them data (or a link) and let them figure out if it's worse/better, too much or too little. Just think, if someone recently moved to your potential new town of 50,000 people, from NYC and another has recently moved there from Mayberry, do you think you are going to get the same answer from them, to the question, "Is it too congested in (potential new town of 50,000)?"
They aren't lying to you. NYC guy won't think it's congested and Mayberry guy will think there's way too much traffic.
4. People don't use their heads. If you were sitting in your home and wanted to know if there were any pizza places in your town, you'd pick up the yellow pages directory, right? So, if people want to know if there are any pizza places in (fill in the blank) they should go to the online yellow pages and
look it up. If you want to know what's happening in your town this weekend, you'd pick up the newspaper, right? So if people want to know what's happening in their potential new town, they should go to the online newpaper of potential new town and read it.
5. If school teachers are looking for jobs and they post - Do u no weather their are any teaching jobs in (fill in blank with potential town)? - they shouldn't be surprised when parents don't rush to volunteer their kid's school as a possible place of employment.
6. If you move your family to a place:
a. without either you or your spouse having a job, first, spend months with no luck finding one, and then say the locals are "too stupid" to hire you or pay you what you think you are worth, or they're all obviously hiring their cousins because how could they turn their backs on your dazzling resume;
b. or you get to a place for which you are obviously ill-suited because it doesn't have the "culture you are used to" and you say, the locals are "too stupid" for your supposed intellect;
c. or you get to a place in the country and think the locals are "too stupid" because they fraternize within their church and how could they possibly not like you when every word out of your mouth is what a backwards place this is, how it doesn't have (insert anything here) that you used to have where you came from or "OMIGOD, they allow smoking and shooting here!"
-- then please, think again about who is "too stupid." They aren't the ones that made an costly move and disrupted their family for the wrong place chosen with so little practical application of that supposed intellect.
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