Something I don't understand (renting, high crime, home)

[KwaK]

"When I tell people around here that I had a great time living in Boonton NJ from 1990 to 1993, they look at me with a blank stare."

recycled - my aunt and uncle lived in Boonton for years
good luck to you with your job search I have heard the NW is really, nice one of the places on my list of cities to visit.

Square peg- I love vermont, I enjoyed the many times I have been there on ski trips.

karla

[CURT]

Originally Posted by myfask

thanks for the nice comments and positive feedback.
I agree that people tend to judge someone on where they are from, I moved here from NJ and people expect me to be brash and harsh.

Blue grass- my husbands family is from the UP of Michigan they can't say enough how beautiful the area is and how friendly everyone is. I wil get up there to visit one of these day
kimmie I am there with you on the sandals and barefoot. I finally broke out the socks when it went down to the 30's here in NE FL.
I keep checking the weather report for Phila on Christmas they are saying it will be in the 40's yay no socks lol
Cil thanks
I have been kicking this around for a couple weeks and finally said I need to post this.
thanks again for the support
hugs
karla

wow...a post and no gun fire??? very nice post. I too came from nj but was mostly teased about my accent??????????????

[KwaK]

"wow...a post and no gun fire??? very nice post. I too came from nj but was mostly teased about my accent??????????????"

I thought about it but what could they say negitive all you have to do is read the posts, it's honest and true

yeah curt I still go back to jersery accent when ever I talk to someone from there

[Bear Creek]

[quote=gizmo980;218848] I love wearing sandals & going barefoot too, LOL. I actually spent a night in Kentucky once (Louisville), when my plane got diverted because of a tornado in Chicago. I admittedly believed some of the stereotypes, but didn't think you were all hillbillies or anything! I was pleasantly surprised to see it was a beautiful area, and the few people I met were soooo friendly. I arrived hungry & frustrated at the motel around 2am, and the front-desk guy was really sweet... he called the security guard & asked her to drive me to a minimart, since there wasn't food available anywhere else. I'm guessing you wouldn't get such nice treatment in most towns out here! I'm sure Kentucky has more "hillbilly" types than San Francisco, but I also realize most of you are just like anyone else.

I'm a hillbilly. A real one. What is wrong with being a hillbilly?

[Cosmic]

Originally Posted by myfask

I have been reading allot of the posts for different cities
Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand why I have seen so many posts (mostly negative) for areas from people that have never lived there.
If you have never lived in the area how can you justify saying it is "over priced" "crime ridden" "over built" "too many green or blue people" "the Karla

Hey, they don't restrict it to not living there. I just found out WV is so humid, you can't hold your head up in summer. Just think they will never see some country in lil nooks and crannies that you could swear is part of Ireland.

But they probably never have been to Ireland either. I would not like to live in some of those nook / crannies or just about any place in WV

[kimmieyky]

" What's wrong with being a Hillbilly?" Absolutely NOTHING! I am a firm believer in being who you are and not getting above your "raising" to impress others. I know God made us all different and allowed different experiences for a reason - so that we could all work together to make this life experience a better thing for all of us.

We all have our issues and faults, but looking past those and seeking out the true good in people is something we have to work at sometimes.

"Life Skills" are not taught in school, and unfortunately our perceptions (being 90% of what we believe) are not often true. Red, yelllow, black, white, hillbilly, southern, yankee, pink purple or polka dot - my dream is for all of us to learn to "Pay it Forward" each day, and help as many as we can.
I wasn't raised to believe this way - being in elementary school when desegregation(? - aka "Busing") became the hot topic in Louisville back in the 70's - I just couldn't agree with my "Archie Bunker" biological father, even at the age of 9.

Whats wrong with being a Hillbilly? Not a thing. Being honest about who and what we are is what counts in this life.

Wow - what a soapbox I have jumped onto! Somebody pull me down, please!!

Christmas Happiness and Joy from Kentucky (where it is very cloudy today and making me dream of my Anne Marie Island beach in Florida, with the sand squishing between my toes, and not a worry in the world - except to not get a sunburn! lol!)

KimmieyKY

[Georgia]

Originally Posted by myfask

"When I tell people around here that I had a great time living in Boonton NJ from 1990 to 1993, they look at me with a blank stare."

recycled - my aunt and uncle lived in Boonton for years
good luck to you with your job search I have heard the NW is really, nice one of the places on my list of cities to visit.

Square peg- I love vermont, I enjoyed the many times I have been there on ski trips.

karla

No blank stare here... Old Booneytown NJ.
Always passed the place on my way across the line to the Japanese "I forgot the name" Restaurant on top of the mountain Now that's a cool place

[Georgia]

Originally Posted by myfask

I have been reading allot of the posts for different cities
Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand why I have seen so many posts (mostly negative) for areas from people that have never lived there.
If you have never lived in the area how can you justify saying it is "over priced" "crime ridden" "over built" "too many green or blue people" "the neighbors won't accept you unless you_____(fill in the blank)"and so on.
Also just because the city you live in may have some issues, that doesn't mean the whole state is that way. Yet I continue to see posts that say "I live in "xyz" city and it has crime so stay away from the whole state".
I use to live in PA & NJ and like to read what they have on their forums, but do I feel "qualified" in posting about certain areas? No because I haven't lived there in 15 years and things have changed.
Other people wonder why posting comments on areas in a state they have never lived in "irks" the folks that live there. This is simple, you don't or haven't lived there. It might be different if you were to post "I don't live in "xyz" city but have read ........,so I have these impressions". But to go in and say "xyz" is a bad city don't move there, is doing an injustice to the people who are looking for information from actual residents of the area, it's also not likely to win you lots of friends.

I think these forums are great and I have received LOTS of wonderful information.
I just wanted to point out that there are people out there that use the information they receive from forums like these to make what they consider "big" decisions.
Maybe the best way is to ask yourself before posting:
"is this first hand accurate information"
"am I posting this because I need to vent"
"am I just very unhappy here but others find it a good place to live"
"am I adding my "2 cents" because I'm bored and there is nothing else to do "
I think we have a certain "responsibility" as human beings to really think about what we post.

Before I get "slammed" I am not pointing fingers and any one person or city this is just my impression from reading the different forums.

Wishing everyone a blessed and peaceful holiday season

Karla

I for one comment on places of which I have either lived in a home, lived via Army base, or lived via hotel on business. Many of those towns I talk about are ones I have spent more times in hotel rooms than my own bedroom.

Now for Jersey. Hey! it's still Jersey. Was there the other week. Only thing that has changed in 15 years are the taxes, they have went way higher
I always find some good in everyplace I talk about with the exception of my hometown, only because it has turned into yucksville from what it used to be.

Everything is like a battery. Has a positive and negative side.

[mystree]

Just like people putting down oil city pa....it is a nice small town,and there are things to do and it is not in the country. If I could find a town like that minus the snow I would be there,I don't understand bashing somewhere you've never lived it really does aggravate the heck out of me.

[Snuzyaluz]

[quote=Blue Grass Fever;217267]Thanks for mentioning this Karla-aka myfask!

I can point out two examples right off the bat!

One being Michigan-lots of people in this forum equate Michigan as being a "bad" state to live in because of the sagging/slumping economy based in southeast Michigan, otherwise known as Metro-Detroit! Outside of the Metro-Detroit region is beautiful,.. (i tend to think Michigan is one of the most underrated states in the union!)..friendly people and plenty of tight-knit rural communities!

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Actually even Detroit is seeing some gentrification at this time and I do have family that live there--my niece and her husband. She's a CPA, he's in Finance, I think--both love it there. He grew up in NY state, she in Downers Grove, IL and Kalamazoo, MI. We also have relatives in Ludington-we get to see them in July--only month they aren't snowed in .