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Old 01-29-2007, 06:44 PM
Location: Concord, NC
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Originally Posted by Alanboy395 View Post
dullnboring is right on the money with NoVA. there are people from over 100 countries here. Trust me you will not stick out as a interracial couple. My church First AG has a lot of interracial couples. If you can afford a house here i think NoVa will be a blessing to you.
I attend First A/G in suburban Charlotte (Concord), and we have many mixed race couples/families.
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Old 01-29-2007, 09:12 PM
Location: In exile, plotting my coup
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Originally Posted by kdizzle View Post
Well, I just want to add to this conversation. There is a difference between being accepted inter-racially as a black man and white woman versus a white man and a black woman IMHO. Many people in black communities openly scoff at a white man being with a black woman, and I've personally experienced this. This doesn't seem to happen much at all the other way around (black man/white woman). I'm from the west coast and I think it is incredibly tolerant compared to most regions of the US (I'm now living in the midwest), even in the smaller towns. Just my 2 cents. Good luck.
I've actually found the opposite to be true. While it's much more common to see black men with white women than white men with black women, it seems to provoke more hostile reactions, particularly from black women as there are a good number who feel that white women are stealing their men and that black men (particularly those who are successful) are selling out by dating them. The difference in treatment may not be in terms of verbal insults or physical threats, but in terms of glances, body language, treatment and gossiping, whereas I haven't seen that behavior with WM/BW. I think different racial combinations provoke different reactions within different communities. For example, it's fairly common everywhere to see white men with East Asian women and no one really bats an eye. In border areas, whites and Hispanics have long dated one another. In New York, blacks and Puerto Ricans. And so forth.

Back to the topic at hand. I know that I recommended DC but I'd have to agree that the most hospitable part of the country for interracial couples is the West Coast, and it also happens to be home to the highest proportion of interracial couples as the number of residents identifying as "multiracial" on census forms can attest to. In addition to those areas, college towns and communities with large military populations (San Antonio, Hampton Roads, San Diego, etc.) tend to be very accepting of interracial couples.
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Old 01-30-2007, 02:13 PM
Location: Chandler, AZ
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I'm going to jump into the fray here Now this is coming from an interracial magazine which conducted its own research so take it with a grain of salt.

10 best/worst cities for interracial couples


1. San Francisco, CA
2. Seattle, WA
3. Minneappolis, Mn (sp)
4. Denver, Co
5. Phoenix, AZ
6. San Diego, CA
7. Honolulu, HI
8. New York, NY
9. Los Angeles, CA
10. Oakland, CA


1. Birmingham, AL
2. Detroit, Mi
3. Philadelphia, PA
4. Cleveland, OH
5. Atlanta, GA
6. Cincinnati, OH
7. Pittsburgh, PA
8. Jacksonville, FL
9. Memphis, TN
10. New Orleans LA

I believe the survey was done with metros of 500,000 or more. I tend to agree with all of these picks due to the diversity and culture of the best cities and the lack of diversity culture and history of the worst cities.
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Old 01-31-2007, 10:34 AM
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Thanks for posting that, tt. Interesting results and I would tend to agree with your comments.

Definitely notable is none of the worst cities are located in the western states.

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Old 01-31-2007, 10:51 AM
Location: Journey's End
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tt - do you recall the name, month and year of the publication.

It is indeed interesting and I would probably add and subtract some.
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Old 02-01-2007, 09:40 AM
Location: Chandler, AZ
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I believe the magazine was called interface and I believe it was listed 10 years ago 1997. Again I think the poll only had major metropolitan areas in mind. I'm sure if you go to individual places within those metros it will vary from place to place.
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Old 02-12-2007, 10:48 PM
Location: Alexandria, VA
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WOW! I have to say this is a great topic. Hard to find information on this one, at least using Google.

I'm Black / Cherokee and my wife is Jewish / French-Canadian. My wife and I (married for three years now, together for seven) met and began dating in Pittsburgh. We both attended Carnegie Mellon University there, and had been in the area for several years when we met. I do not want to trash the city in anyway because we both really love it and plan to take more than a few vacation getaways there. But we don't want to live there right now. Recent hate-crimes and the active hate organizations in that part of the country make it volatile right now. And I agree that Pittsburgh has ENORMOUS potential. It's starting to turn, but it will take a decade or two I think. In the six years I lived there I saw the climate improve for the interracial couple, then slide backwards again with the re-vitalized Neo-Nazi movement in the traditionally "blue-collar" states. PA is one of the worst in that respect, having a very active online community and recruitment practice. I know because I was good friends with a reformed Neo-Nazi and you can do a search for skinhead and Pittsburgh and pull some interesting results.

Diversity isn't a huge problem in that city, especially because of the interesting mix of higher education options in the region. All walks of life can be found in Pittsburgh. What I noticed during my six years there is that those paths don't often cross outside of the venues of education and youth. As I've found in many places, people of the same ethnic backgrounds tended to drift to the "clique" mentality and limited their interaction with other races.

Just to quantify my experiences a little more, we (my wife and I) grew up in New Jersey, I in the south and she in the north. South Jersey and Pittsburgh are similar in the overall attitude to interracial relationships.

We have decided to call NoVA / DC Metro area our home for now. We've been here since 2000, and have not had a single problem. The looks we do get are not threatening at all. And we had our first child about 10 months ago, and we get nothing but warmth and smiles with him as well. It's shocking considering I personally found a "Whites Only" sign in a building my company was renovating. It's hard to believe this was Jim Crow South at one time.

If I recommend anywhere, I say NoVA for overall comfort level and satisfaction. Cost of living is outrageous, and we're considering moving back to Pittsburgh in a few years. I'm not one to rule out an area because it may be uncomfortable, especially when the potential to make it better exists. But I can safely say I'll wait for the Neo-Nazi steam to die down a little before returning.
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Old 03-13-2007, 02:21 PM
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please do not tell me you're afraid of neo-nazis. that is their whole point and you fell for it.
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Old 03-13-2007, 11:07 PM
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The topic about black women being mad at black men dating outside their race, I feel that it isn't about intentionally selling out, more or less than it is about other factors. From my experience, many black females, especially during their youth, tend to go for the posers, gangsters, and "players" for love and sexual attraction. The only time when they look for a good black man is when they're done partying (as well as done w/ their sexlife). Feeling abandoned, the more intellectual black men will eventually feel forced to find feminine solace in other places (and other races). Not to say that this is how all black females are (and how all intellectual black males are either), but from my experience, I can definitely say this has proven fact in my life so far.

As for the original poster, I second on NoVA being an interracial haven (or better said, heaven) for ALL combinations, not just the ones that are accustomed by society (asian fem-white male, latina fem-black male). As for the other suggeestions, especially the list of best cities for IR couples, I'd definitely recommend all of those cities.
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Old 03-14-2007, 12:12 AM
Location: NC
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I have to third NoVA...I haven't seen many places as I haven't had the opportunity to do much traveling, but I just visited the area over the weekend and I was amazed at the diversity not only in Washington, DC, but the entire metro area. Most of my trip was concentrated in NoVA and I saw quite a bit of interracial couples out there.

I live in metro Charlotte and am in an interracial relationship and while no one's made mention of it (or even cares for that matter, at least to my knowledge), you don't see that many couples around. I know they're out there in hiding! But in metro DC, I saw a lot of hand holding and these couples were of all racial backgrounds.
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