From the Midwest or the south, do you notice a harshness in the people in the URBAN Northeast (living in, eat)

[Refugee56]

I would like to hear from the people who are from the American South or Midwest who have moved or visit the Urban Northeast Cities (the Washington Dc to Boston route). Have you noticed like me that many of the people who live in this northeast zone are just plain harsh?

Yes, I know there are many nice people who live in that area of the country but I still notice a certain coldness and harshness in many of its people. I notice a lack of manners and more of a dog eat dog culture. You are more invisible there. Its a "you talking to me?" mentality?

Agree or disagree?

[At1WithNature]

Agree...i think it's because that area revolves around a human concrete jungle in NYC. the northeast is just used to the worst of the worst so many of them just naturally become rude and brass.

[Ben Around]

Disagree. Have you approached them on a 1:1 basis, or are you judging from watching crowds and reaffic?

[GraniteStater]

Not really... Most people around by area are friendly and reserved. However, I live a little over an hour away from the urbanized I-95 corridor. I like the fact that the people seem more "real" here instead of the more common fake+plastic type of people found in the sunbelt.

[GloryB]

I doubt this is true on a one to one basis, but on the job when we have to contact people the N.E. portion of the country, it is always a groaner. California is also considered a tough area. There is a distinct difference between them and the south or the mid western states. They do seem to have less patience and a real no-nonsense attitude.

Southern larger cities are getting the same way. Maybe one can only deal with so much road rage.....and the gentleness of life is lost.

[Spade]

The major Southern cities are getting that way especially Miami and Houston. But I've seen many times in the DC area. Makes me sick sometimes. Beautiful area but many people are very rude. I didn't see alot of rudeness and harshness in Philly though.

[j33]

Not at all. I've got loads of family from the urban northeast and they are and were all lovely.

[RuralGuy]

I would say there's a corridor along the coast from Northern New Jersey to Boston in which population density and the sheer hustle and bustle of day to day life might cause the people to seem more "harsh." I don't think it's a matter of rudeness; it's really more a reflection of the stress and impatience that comes from dealing with the grind every day. My experience is that once you do something unexpectedly friendly for folks in that region (open a door, say hello to a random stranger you pass on the street, etc.), you'll be surprised by the positive reaction you get.

Once you get to Upstate NY, central MA, VT, NH, and Maine, the people are pretty chill, IMO. In a lot of ways, Mainers remind me of Kentuckians, but with a funny accent.

[18Montclair]

I didnt really notice that when I was living in Manhattan. They didnt seem all to different from people back in CA.

[jluke65780]

People in the south are harsh to people from the Northest too as well. Many northener come to the midwest and south with negative thoughs and full of stereotypes. They come here expecting farms,cows,horses,chickens,etc and when they get here there shocked and surprised by what they see.