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Old 09-26-2008, 01:20 PM
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Okay, here's my situation, i'm currently in the 11th grade in High School, and have plans with my significant other, whom is over in the UK, to move over there after I graduate next year.

She plans to come here next year and stay with me from the beginning of Summer to the end of my school year, and then we both together move overseas to the UK where i'll live with only her, or with her and her family, while I go to college there.

That is mainly out plans...

And yes folks, this started as an online relationship, we've seen eachother on webcam and talked on voicechat and such, but can't really do that anymore since i've changed to Satellite (....Hate....) so next summer when she comes here it'll be the first time we meet in person.

That summer she'll be living with me and my family at our house, and she'll be getting a job to pay for her stay mainly out of kindness to my parents.

So...question is, is there really anything I need to prepare for with moving to the U.K? Straight out of High School?

Thank you for your time.
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Old 09-26-2008, 01:38 PM
Location: Zurich, Switzerland/ Piedmont, CA
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You seem awfully young to be making such a big commitment.

Why not go and visit first to see if you like it.
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Old 09-26-2008, 03:27 PM
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I'm fine with this commitment though, main thing I saw the year staying with me was to see if we would work, and such.

and I can't visit because, well I can't leave until I'm 19 says my parents.

and now the whole plan is pretty much shot because my dad dislikes the idea and thinks the relationship is pointless to even have, that and he doesnt want me to become a brit.
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Old 09-27-2008, 03:30 PM
Location: Crossville TN
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I do agree you are both pretty young, but this is neither here nor there for a guarantee that it'll work out.

On the other side thou I find it quite a good expierence while still young to travel the world and life, work, school in different places, I done it and sometimes that meant a lot of stress but I don't regret a single day.

For your parents you really need to know that all they worry / want for you is the very best. If you were in their shoes, without having the feelings to the girl you have, you'd react the same way. Doesn't make it easier but its very understandable.

As for generally living in Europe being young...It'll be hard and you'll have to become very open minded once you hit the ground here and really know your differences in life between good/ bad. In essence meaning you can make it work yes, but it can also put you down the drain QUICK. So plan it out WELL not fast.
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Old 09-28-2008, 06:27 AM
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Well first you need to make sure that this is even legally possible with visas and such, particularly her coming to stay with you. For you, it shouldn't be too difficult to get a student visa and study over there but you do need to be aware that it can be difficult to get a visa to live and work in the States legally. Have you looked into all this?

Immigrant Visas U.S. Embassy London

Students (INF 5)

Assuming you are granted entry clearance, the important thing to remember is that you may speak the same language but the countries are very, very different. I don't know how adaptable or independent you are but as someone young who has never lived outside your parents home, moving so far from them and putting yourself in a very different culture means being prepared for some major adaption.
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