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Old 10-21-2008, 11:05 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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As some already know, I am a Southerner. I have left the South once in my lifetime ( 5th grade, went for a week to visit a cousin)
My boyfriend is in the Navy, and I know that if I marry him someday I'll end up at some time in either somewhere in a Northern state (NY probably) or in California.

Quite frankly, this possibility scares me more than a little bit ( culture shock, etc).

So for future reference, what are some do's and dont's about living in a Northern state, or in California?

Ive been told that in the North, eye contact with a stranger isnt common.

I KNOW there's no sweet tea...or grits, or collards, or decent fried chicken, or sweet 'tater pie...or cobbler...

But..thats about it. So...enlighten me ya'll.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:10 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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You'll be just fine no matter where you end up. There are nice people everywhere.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Chicago, Illinois
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places like philly, Chicago, new york, etc. have millions of people living in a tiny area you tend to live rushed lives and don't have much time, tact, manners, or respect for others (strangers) because everyone is on the move and there are simply too many people to smile at or stop and talk to on the sidewalk or wave at, etc.

so whatever you do, don't take offense to people seeming crude or rude to you. they just don't know you and have things to do and a limited time to do them. the change of pace is what will shock you. just don't take things personally and observe. walk/act with confidence and a purpose and you will fit right in.

Good Luck to you.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:29 AM
 
Location: yeah
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Cut back on use of the N word.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:32 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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Cut back on use of the N word.
Um..care to elaborate?
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:33 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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places like philly, Chicago, new york, etc. have millions of people living in a tiny area you tend to live rushed lives and don't have much time, tact, manners, or respect for others (strangers) because everyone is on the move and there are simply too many people to smile at or stop and talk to on the sidewalk or wave at, etc.

so whatever you do, don't take offense to people seeming crude or rude to you. they just don't know you and have things to do and a limited time to do them. the change of pace is what will shock you. just don't take things personally and observe. walk/act with confidence and a purpose and you will fit right in.

Good Luck to you.
I can see it now..I'll come home hopping mad 'cause somebody's shoved me or Ive gotten into a cussing match with someone...
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:34 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Cut back on use of the N word.
I'd be giving you negative rep right now if I could.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Chicago, Illinois
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I can see it now..I'll come home hopping mad 'cause somebody's shoved me or Ive gotten into a cussing match with someone...
no, you'll be fine. especially with the guys. although i know you are spoken for. just going from point A to point B, i wouldn't even engage in a conversation with someone (stranger) unless you are somewhere like standing in line to pay for something, in an elevator, etc. and you just start with the standard "hello" and take it from there.

you never know if you're going to run into a crazy or not! plus, i don't know how the homeless populations are down south but in places like new york and chicago they tend to be very high and most of them have some sort of mental problem or drug problem.

someone gave you the advice "not to look strangers in the eye" is kind of spot on but you should be able to judge the character of the person first (most of the time) by their disposition, the way in which they carry themselves, the way they are dressed, etc. i know you don't judge a book by a cover but the ones that will give you the ole "Crazy eye" are easily judged by their cover.

you should be fine. just don't worry about it and enjoy the move with your loved one.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:46 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I'd be giving you negative rep right now if I could.
If its the N word Im thinking of, Ive never used it, and it isnt common amongst those I associate with.

Besides, you can get yourself shot down here by using that word.
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Old 10-21-2008, 11:47 AM
 
Location: West Michigan
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As some already know, I am a Southerner. I have left the South once in my lifetime ( 5th grade, went for a week to visit a cousin)
My boyfriend is in the Navy, and I know that if I marry him someday I'll end up at some time in either somewhere in a Northern state (NY probably) or in California.

Quite frankly, this possibility scares me more than a little bit ( culture shock, etc).

So for future reference, what are some do's and dont's about living in a Northern state, or in California?

Ive been told that in the North, eye contact with a stranger isnt common.

I KNOW there's no sweet tea...or grits, or collards, or decent fried chicken, or sweet 'tater pie...or cobbler...

But..thats about it. So...enlighten me ya'll.
You may be surprised at what you will find. Sweet 'tater pie, make em' all the time. Sweet tea is to be had as well. Eye contact with strangers isn't common? Who told you that? Around here (West Michigan) and up in Maine where I was it is very common.

Grits and Collard greens are going to be a bit harder to find, and don't expect them on a menu. Just like black eyed peas. In this area, black eyed peas are pig food (no joke, I about died laughing the first time I went someplace in Texas and they served them.)

Fried chicken on the other hand is all over, and just as good as I ever had in the South. In this area we have regular fried chicken and most places have "broasted" chicken as well. Think fried chicken, except moister on the inside and crispier on the outside. And cobbler... All over. Depends on what the area grows for fresh fruit as to that areas "specialty" cobbler. In this area apple and peach are the two biggest. Come on up without worries. Some foods will not be here, but there are others to make up for the ones that are missing. Some others might surprise you that we have. I just finished an original moon pie and RC cola from my trip into town this morning.

Don't expect too spicy as a rule. "Hot" is more like mild, and "mild" is more like bland.
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