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View Poll Results: Do you think living in a big city can make you a bad or mean person?
Yea 18 30.00%
Nay 42 70.00%
Voters: 60. You may not vote on this poll

 
 
Old 11-09-2008, 11:32 AM
 
Location: hopefully NYC one day :D
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If so, why do you think big city people are meaner and what can be done about this? Do you think a higher density could make people even meaner? I've never heard that people in Chicago or San Francisco, which are dense places, are mean. Maybe it is a fast paced culture that can make people more rude. I heard people in CA are nice and layed back. I have always heard that New Yorkers were mean but when I went there this summer, people were SO nice! I heard that 9/11 changed people from being mean to nice.
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Old 11-09-2008, 11:57 AM
 
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People are just more blunt and don't spend time projecting "happy" and saying hi to random strangers. I think that makes a place seem much "nicer". City people are nice, but there's way too many people to acknowledge everyone they see. It might come off as more mean if you're use to it.

I know city people get really freaked out if they're in a smaller place and lots of random people on the street or at a store says hi to them or starts talking..
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Old 11-09-2008, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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I went ahead and marked 'yes' because if you reside in an area of the city where you don't 'fit in', or live amongst violence (especially if you weren't raised in that environment), then you could become very bitter. When I lived in Texas back in the 70's (Austin, which was not a big city, really) I experienced this very thing. For many reasons I did not "fit in", and found that I began to hate 'Texans' in general, which was not right. But I did the right thing a few years later, moved away from Texas, and have never looked back.

Big city living isn't for everybody.

However, there are some mighty mean people in small towns, too.
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Old 11-09-2008, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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I grew up in Brooklyn, NYC and I don't think it necessarily made me a mean guy its made me a little more aware of my surroundings and of different cultures.
The density causes people to respect eachothers space.
9/11 did cause alot of togetherness that I had never seen before in NY, but since Obama's victory, everyone has been so happy, strangers have been smiling at eachother, everyone looks like they are floating with joy and pride. On tuesday night, people came together.
So no the city doesn't make someone mean, the meaness is often misunderstood as an adaptation to cope with density.
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Old 11-09-2008, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Houston
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People in small towns can be just as mean and rude as people in the big city, just for different reasons.
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Old 11-09-2008, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I put yes, but I don't actually believe so.
It might change you attitude, you might become more brusque.
But it really shouldn't change your core morals too much.
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Old 11-09-2008, 12:56 PM
 
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People in small towns can be just as mean and rude as people in the big city, just for different reasons.
100% true. The whole idea that small towns are generally filled with friendly, happy-go-lucky people is false.
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Old 11-09-2008, 02:06 PM
 
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100% true. The whole idea that small towns are generally filled with friendly, happy-go-lucky people is false
From my personal experiences, it has never been false. The coldest/meanest/rudest people I have ever met were the residents of Detroit, a city with a population of over 900,000 people.
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Old 11-09-2008, 05:18 PM
 
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I went ahead and marked 'yes' because if you reside in an area of the city where you don't 'fit in', or live amongst violence (especially if you weren't raised in that environment), then you could become very bitter. When I lived in Texas back in the 70's (Austin, which was not a big city, really) I experienced this very thing. For many reasons I did not "fit in", and found that I began to hate 'Texans' in general, which was not right. But I did the right thing a few years later, moved away from Texas, and have never looked back.

Big city living isn't for everybody.

Good Post, I agree one hundred percent. I have lived all over and I have found this to be the case at times in my life.
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Old 11-09-2008, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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Absolutely not! One could be just as bad or mean coming from a small town. Big cities might have a reputation, but peoples' behavior is no different than anywhere else in the country.
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