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Old 10-26-2011, 02:27 PM
 
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It definitely matters where you live, but it's all dependant on what each person values in life.

Personally I need to be in a large dense city, it's just what works for me. Does that mean that a dense huge city is better than anywhere else? Of course not. It's all personal pref.

NYC is often seen as being the #1 city in the country and the top dog, and I'm certainly not saying it isn't. Some people get this thought though that EVERYONE must want to live there, and that people who don't live in NYC are missing out or are even lesser people in their lives because they never lived there. Obviously a large majority of the country does not want to live in NYC and wouldn't be happy living there. It doesn't mean they can't cut it, it's just not what they're looking for in their life. I get annoyed when people always say "oh, well he just couldn't cut it". Maybe they couldn't cut it - or maybe they just didn't want to stay.

I have a really good friend from Iowa who moved to Chicago for 5 years, then moved down to Florida. She ended up just hating Florida. The weather, the traffic, the job scene, costs. Almost everything about it made her miserable. So she moved back. That's a case where it really does matter where you live.

Anyway, I wasn't trying to single out NYC at all, just an example of what people say about big or small places all over the country. Some people would never want to move out of a small mountain town in Montana. Some people would die before moving out of San Fran.

It matter to individual people where they live, but I don't see how one place is just plain BETTER than anywhere else. I do certainly think most people are a product of their environments though. I was born in the Midwest and the region holds a very close place in my heart. It's defined who I am and how I see our country and the world. I could never see myself ever moving down south, but when I think about it there's probably someone exactly like me down south saying the exact same thing about the Midwest. No reason to hate on anyone else for living their lives.
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Old 10-26-2011, 04:01 PM
 
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Chicago60614, you are pretentious!!!How dare you want to make a better life for yourself with more opportunity :/
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Old 10-28-2011, 08:28 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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It definitely matters where you live, but it's all dependant on what each person values in life.

Personally I need to be in a large dense city, it's just what works for me. Does that mean that a dense huge city is better than anywhere else? Of course not. It's all personal pref.

NYC is often seen as being the #1 city in the country and the top dog, and I'm certainly not saying it isn't. Some people get this thought though that EVERYONE must want to live there, and that people who don't live in NYC are missing out or are even lesser people in their lives because they never lived there. Obviously a large majority of the country does not want to live in NYC and wouldn't be happy living there. It doesn't mean they can't cut it, it's just not what they're looking for in their life. I get annoyed when people always say "oh, well he just couldn't cut it". Maybe they couldn't cut it - or maybe they just didn't want to stay.

I have a really good friend from Iowa who moved to Chicago for 5 years, then moved down to Florida. She ended up just hating Florida. The weather, the traffic, the job scene, costs. Almost everything about it made her miserable. So she moved back. That's a case where it really does matter where you live.

Anyway, I wasn't trying to single out NYC at all, just an example of what people say about big or small places all over the country. Some people would never want to move out of a small mountain town in Montana. Some people would die before moving out of San Fran.

It matter to individual people where they live, but I don't see how one place is just plain BETTER than anywhere else. I do certainly think most people are a product of their environments though. I was born in the Midwest and the region holds a very close place in my heart. It's defined who I am and how I see our country and the world. I could never see myself ever moving down south, but when I think about it there's probably someone exactly like me down south saying the exact same thing about the Midwest. No reason to hate on anyone else for living their lives.
I couldn't have said it better myself. I love living in Chicago and couldn't picture myself living anywhere else. I do hate it when people from New York City look at people even in Chicago as those who just can't cut it in NYC.

Also as you have said so many people project on to other people their own preferences, I have seen it on here. If someone starts a thread "Is Chicago a good place to live?", the people who love big city living will say yes and those from small towns will say "no it is way too crowded there", etc. assuming that the OP has the same preferences as them. When you read threads about the largest cities people often talk as if NYC, LA, Chicago and a few others are the only places that are true cities and every other place is like a small town. On the other hand people from rural areas and like small town living will think that even cities like Milwaukee, Indianapolis and Saint Louis are way too big and crowded and noisy for them. There are people who think Manhattan is the pinnacle of existence and would rather be dead than anywhere else even the other boroughs of NYC. It is all RELATIVE like almost every other thing in life, people just need to accept there are people very different from themselves and that doesn't somehow make them abnormal just different.
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Old 10-25-2017, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Renton, WA
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Question How could one hate Colorado?

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Do you think that it matters where you live? Does the quality of your life change whether you live in place A or place B?

Or will a person who is happy in A also be happy in B, while an unhappy person will be still unhappy in both?
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I have been very fortunate to have lived in many different places in my life. I can tell you that I was infinitely happier in some places than others. I hated Colorado, I loved Texas.

20yrsinBranson
Why did you hate Colorado? That would appear to me to be one of the best states to live, due to the abundance of mountains, great scenery, and outdoor recreation opportunities.
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Old 10-25-2017, 03:50 PM
 
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It matters in the same way it matters who you marry. While to be happy takes work and a willingness to compromise and stay open minded, a person will also need to click with a place like with a significant other.

I found that work, personal history and relationships are much more important factors in deciding how content a person is.
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Old 10-25-2017, 09:26 PM
 
Location: North Dakota
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It would matter where I live because my most basic requirements need to be met. I need to have a good enough salary for necessities and some entertainment. I need to be someplace where the people aren't jerks, weirdos, or have other unsavory characteristics.
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Old 10-25-2017, 11:00 PM
 
Location: Clemson, SC by way of Tyler,TX
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Can't run from your problems and a great attitude will work anywhere, but all in all, yes, where you live is important. I need to be around an accepting culture.
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Old 10-26-2017, 03:14 AM
 
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I think the biggest factors in happiness is not the weather, or the urbanity, your PT options or the politics of the surrounding region but rather your family and friends circle, career, and then followed by you having the basic income/wealth to put a roof over your head, food in your belly, and some other basic creature comforts.
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Old 10-26-2017, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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It mattered for me. When I was living in a city that was growing by leaps and bounds way too expensive for me, I laid awake nights wondering how I was going to survive. Then I relocated to another city where the COL was within my means. Now I sleep just fine with a little spare change left over.

The reasons why someone chooses in one city rather than another can definitely matter.
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Old 10-26-2017, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Mars City
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I've started to learn to be less location-oriented. I really don't like where I currently live, but now see that there are benefits in trying to be okay (or even happy with) a location, even when it seems so off and so wrong. It can be beneficial to experience that, for a good mental adjustment (I'm starting to think that's why it all happened in the first place).

If you can find a way to be happy anywhere, you're sort of transcended mind over matter. And if you move on/back to a place where you love, you'll likely be doubly happy and appreciative.
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