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Old 01-21-2009, 10:12 AM
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How did you actually settle in and make new friends? I am interested in success stories of people who moved without any friends or family to a new area and what they did to get new friends/adapt/and stay somewhere long term.

It would be inspirational to those of us who live in places without a support system.

Thanks for sharing! And, let us know how long you live(d) in that area.
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Old 01-21-2009, 03:26 PM
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I grew up in New Orleans and moved to Memphis the day I got married. It was a bit of a culture shock and I didn't know a soul here, but being 20 and immediately going to work and going back to college made it easy to learn my way around and meet people.

I have to say that shortly after moving here I met someone from home whose husband had also been transferred here and from day one she made up her mind that she was miserable, hated it, couldn't wait to leave, and pestered him until he was transferred back. I missed my family terribly, cried some tears, wrote a lot of letters, made long distance calls, and put a lot of miles on my car back and forth, but it never occurred to me to do anything but settle in and make the most of it. It hasn't always been the easiest (went through a divorce) or the greatest (Memphis has its issues), but that was 35 years ago!

I've since remarried. DH recently retired, I hope to retire in a couple of years, and the plan is to pick up and start over somewhere else (more remote, totally different) at that time. I don't expect it to be as easy as before since we won't be as young, we're not as social, and we won't be meeting people through work, but we're looking forward to the adventure. So, we've been researching, traveling, and religiously following a few of the state forums on city-data trying to make a final decision. Can't wait!
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