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Old 04-22-2009, 06:22 PM
 
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I currently live in California in a city about 20 miles north of LA and I just can't take it anymore! There is so much emphasis placed on what kind of car I'm driving, how big my house is, how ripped I am, or what brand of clothes I wear. I even refuse to work out at the gym now because I can't stand being around all those shallow noobs. And the worst part is I've been stuck here so long now that I can feel myself starting to become more like them and think how they think!!!

I absolutely love the southern California weather, surfing the good waves here, and the beautiful girls. But I need more character, stlye, brains, and personality in my city/friends/lovers! To complicate things, I have a good job in LA, my family all lives within an hour driving distance, and I do have a couple good friends locally. But I just can't see myself spending the rest of my life here in such a fake place!

Has anyone ever felt this way and moved to a city that was less superficial? Is San Diego any better? I would like to stay as close to my family as possible but we'll see. I'm young and single so hopefully someone can factor that into the solution as well. And don't get me wrong...I'm not against all the beautiful girls down here in SoCal...I'm just against their culture of materialism, looks, and arrogance.

Note: Yes I know I generalized in my above statement several times. Ofcourse there are some people who don't fit into my above statements but I am referring to the culture and vibe at large.
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Old 04-22-2009, 06:43 PM
 
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Sadly, I think that is how most places can be (Not just LA). It's mostly the people, not the place. I live in Ohio and there are people here who are just as shallow/stuckup/superficial. It all really depends on how you react or who you surround yourself with. I refuse to talk about any of that or to speak about that stuff when I socialize with anyone like that. I am sure LA is worse than most areas when it comes to that, but you also have to realize that most people who are so concerned with all of that sometimes tend to be the people who can't afford it/are in debt/or should be living more conservatively. I have noticed that a lot of people who can easily afford the finer things in life tend to be a little more conservative about it, and those who can't afford it but choose to live the fine life are the ones who brag.

All in all, I would not necessarily let the people be what drives you to move.
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Old 04-22-2009, 06:54 PM
 
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Since it sounds like you have a lot going for you where you are, why don't you just find somewhere else in the LA area? I've lived in several places in the LA region - Hollywood and South Pasadena - and was able to avoid superficial people. I didn't have a big house (rented a small one in South Pas), am not ripped, don't buy flashy clothes, don't drive at all, and was fine with all of that. Maybe a change of scenery through a move to a new neighborhood with less annoying neighbors will be enough of a new start.

I think stupidbicylyist is right that it's the people and not the place. You'll find that attitude everywhere, although some neighborhoods or areas within a city/metro area are going to have it worse than others.
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Old 04-22-2009, 06:55 PM
 
Location: Jersey
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Why do you care what other people think or what they do? Live your life.
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Old 04-22-2009, 06:57 PM
 
Location: West Coast
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Why do you care what other people think or what they do? Live your life.
Seriously.
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Old 04-22-2009, 07:00 PM
 
Location: roaming gnome
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Your neighbor to the north in SF... superficial as much as any big city... but more laid back than most either...more accepting of lots of different things.... still you have yuppies, but so does any big city...

Hard to have your cake and eat it too...
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Old 04-22-2009, 07:44 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia,New Jersey, NYC!
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lol
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Old 04-22-2009, 07:49 PM
 
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Stay away from Kansas City and especially Johnson County suburbs. This place is nothing more than a miniature version of So Cal.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:44 PM
 
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Hold the phone who said I care about what those people think of me? Clearly I have been "living my life." I just don't want to be around them anymore and desire a place where I can relate more to the poeple around me. To all those who like the kind of vibe in my city, to each his own, but it's just not for me and I want out.
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Old 04-22-2009, 09:54 PM
 
Location: Omaha
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Hold the phone who said I care about what those people think of me? Clearly I have been "living my life." I just don't want to be around them anymore and desire a place where I can relate more to the poeple around me. To all those who like the kind of vibe in my city, to each his own, but it's just not for me and I want out.
Man, I completely know where you are coming from. You are just tired of being in the middle of the douche race. You want to be around down-to-Earth people which you can hold a meaningful conversation with.

In other words, avoid these guys...not the girls though!

















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