New to board-what regions of US favor single women? (Atlanta: new house, school)

[smoky_topaz]

Hi, ya'll, I'm new to this board, just signed up after reading a few posts and think this is a good way to make new friends.

I jsut got out of a bad relationship a few months ago,was living in South Georgia and hated the dreary provincialism of the location, except for Columbus. I'm a die-hard city slicker.you could say. Actually I prefer a large or medium sized town of 20,000-50,000. I live in Griffin which is a half hour south of Faytteville, a suburb on the outskirts of Atlanta. I'm not ready to date again, but when I am, I'd like to know what my options are. My experience is that the singles scene in Georgia is always limited to teenagers and the middle-aged. Atlanta doesn't appeal to me in this regard. I hear that the single men in Atlanta are "in demand" and they know it.

I'm actually interested in leaving the Southeast in genreal. I have never lived outside of Georgia, yet at the same time crave culture and sophistication, but people with class who lack pretension. Southerners are notorious for their pretentious, insincere attitudes. Socially, they are insular and cliquish. They only seem to associate with people who are in their famly or they have known for 20 years. No offense, guys, this is just my expereince. I'd like to go out West : Im interested in the Midwest, the Plains States, the Southwest-anywhere, actually besides the Southeast and Northeast.

I seek someone with a lot of different interests and hunting and fishing won't cut it for me.

I'm considering giving up dating in general until I can leave the South. I am fairly decent looking, you'd like my personality if you saw it, yet, I must get asked out no more than twice a year. The only difference is when I dated online. I've dated some and had relationships that didn't work out. But I have never been popular with men. It's a dismal scene down here and I don't think the problem is me. I feel like the guys who marry women outside the US or are holding out to marry women outside the US. They wouldn't let demographics hold them back. What do you recommend for single women 30 and up, thank you for your input, trust me, you won'e hurt my feelings.

[DisgustaTruth]

Sounds like metro Atlanta is where you would like to be..it has one of the best singles scenes of any major metropolitan area in the US.

[FlourChild]

Wow. Good luck to you, sweetie. I hope it doesn't come as a shock when you find that people EVERYWHERE have "pretentious, insincere attitudes". You might try Los Angeles. Those folks are really down-home and sincere.

[LovinDecatur]

Originally Posted by FlourChild

Wow. Good luck to you, sweetie. I hope it doesn't come as a shock when you find that people EVERYWHERE have "pretentious, insincere attitudes". You might try Los Angeles. Those folks are really down-home and sincere.

ZING!!

My thought is that moving to a different region of the country ain't gonna solve your problem, especially if you carry your attitude with you. I've been surrounded by southerners my whole life, and haven't detected an abnormal amount of pretention and insincerity...in fact, I really haven't noticed it anywhere.
I've known other people that believed that a change of venue would improve their life. Never works. Change comes from within.

[PecanPie]

Originally Posted by FlourChild

Wow. Good luck to you, sweetie. I hope it doesn't come as a shock when you find that people EVERYWHERE have "pretentious, insincere attitudes". You might try Los Angeles. Those folks are really down-home and sincere.

Being from the Los Angeles area myself, I had wanted to say something about it too, but refrained. Glad someone else said it. I just came from a quick visit to GA and found the people to be enormously friendly; perhaps I was predisposed to think that. And people have told me what the OP said, that it is a shallow, insincere friendliness, pretentious -- basically I think that all comes down to who you choose to associate with, any place you go. I'm always saying those things about Southern CA, but truth is, I know lots of really nice, friendly completely down to earth people here. Do I know where to find all the pretentious, trendy, clique-ish snobs? You betcha, and I stay away.

True, places are different somewhat one to the other (some fast paced or slow, populous or quiet, etc.), but in the final analysis, they are ALL what you make of them, as the previous poster wrote.

[FlourChild]

My response wasn't even really meant to be a zinger; I just meant that leaving the south to get away from pretentious, insincere attitudes is a lot like that urban legend about the vengeful ex who sews rotten shrimp into her rival's curtains; the rival and hubby move to a new house, taking the curtains with them.

That made sense in my head.

[smoky_topaz]

I never said that Southern gentleman do not exist. I'm just saying that in the 20s and 30s, they definetely DO NOT exist.

I notice that Southern people tend to marry pretty early. Almost at a very unrealistically young age, like 16-18. I'm more interested in someone between 25 and 37. Also, with the exception of my ex, who WAS from SoCal and very arrogant, most non-Southern men I've gone out with, I've liked better. I don't know if it's because I'm not interested in NASCAR, fishing, and deer hunting. I'd prefer a Midwesterner. Westerner, Plains state transplant, for that reason.

[smoky_topaz]

P>S> To the person who suggested that I'd like Metro ATL-
no I probably would NOT. The only reason I'd see to live there is to go to art school. Oh, and b/c I could get around town on a bike and not have to worry about car expenses. But other than the crime, the feeling like a white minority, and the fact that single women outnumber single men 7-1...I'm not that interested. Thanks anyway.

[city_data_poster]

I've lived in quite a few states in the midwest and there are good people and bad people (and stuck up people) everywhere you go.

I think you have to find a place (and a job) you love....and then focus on the dating scene.

True, demographics do matter....like the median age and the single-to-married ratio of any given city/town/area.....but for the most part you kinda have to search for a city that appeals to you (in terms of what it has to offer and its natural beauty/surroundings).....then locate a job.....and then hopefully after you move there you'll meet a nice single guy!

Hey!, that reminds me......I'm a single guy living in beautiful Kentucky....if you're ever up this way....I'd go out with you! lol

Kentucky's a beautiful state, by the way!

[capri man]

Originally Posted by city_data_poster

Hey!, that reminds me......I'm a single guy living in beautiful Kentucky....if you're ever up this way....I'd go out with you! lol

Kentucky's a beautiful state, by the way!

i dont think she would be worth the effort city!! i think she is her biggest problem!