Originally Posted by no kudzu
It is also very cultural. In Asia it is not uncommon for parents to depend on their parents to take in kids while they may even go to another country for work. I try not to judge.
I think this is or was true in many cultures and societies including our own until recently. Parents had to work longer hours, all day often weekends whether that was plowing, factories or tending the gardening, canning, sewing clothes, washing clothese by hand, everything was harder and took more time etc.
Grandparents who could no longer do the heavy lifting took care of the lighter jobs including baby care till the kids were old enough to do chores or go to school.
I think its a good model actually. Younger parents are biologically better suited to bear healthy children but aren't as patient or wise and are also physically/mentally better suited for work. Grandparents tend to be more patient, understand kids etc.
Social expectations may have changed with the new/sudden affluence, ability to mass produce food and govt programs of the post WWII era but the human realities remain the same.
The constant drum beat is "FAMILY IS EVERYTHING". What is that but blood pulling together? Why do people think this is an issue?