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Old 02-18-2018, 01:06 AM
 
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My daughter is a single mother and works to provide for her two children. I care for them when they're not in school and I'm happy to do it. I'm not sure why it's anyone's business who cares for the children as long as they are being cared for properly. Do you pay their bills or maintain the family in any way? MYOB and let families care for the children in a way that works for them.
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Old 02-19-2018, 05:26 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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It happens a lot these days, mostly because of drugs. My granddaughter was raised by her maternal grandparents for five years and they also raised another daughter's child.
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Old 02-19-2018, 02:15 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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In the cases I know about, during my adult lifetime, grandparents became parents because their kid was into drugs, or alcohol, and was not responsible.

Of course, other, tragic things can split families. But in my observation it is usually addiction issues that cause most of what the OP is posting about.

I am sure that grandparents step up because of love and a sense of duty
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Old 02-19-2018, 02:22 PM
 
Location: Texas
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At my child's school, we see more grandparents than parents, attending functions, dropping the children off & picking them up, staying with them on the playground. The parents seem to be completely out of the picture. I think it's sad and I also don't think it's the grandparent's responsibility to literally raise their grandchildren. While it's great they can play a role in the child's life, it must be a huge burden on them at their age, to be raising small kids.
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Old 02-23-2018, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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At my child's school, we see more grandparents than parents, attending functions, dropping the children off & picking them up, staying with them on the playground. The parents seem to be completely out of the picture. I think it's sad and I also don't think it's the grandparent's responsibility to literally raise their grandchildren. While it's great they can play a role in the child's life, it must be a huge burden on them at their age, to be raising small kids.
As grands who pick up the grandkids one day a week, I think you are making an unwarranted assumption. Grandparents are probably picking up grandkids because mom and dad are working long hours. I do see some grandparents picking up kids, along with us. I also see some kids riding the bus, or being picked up by a parent or sitter. I do seldom see kids walking home by themselves.
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Old 02-24-2018, 12:46 PM
 
Location: Michigan
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The parents should predominately raise their children. Our children are raising our seven grandchildren very well but if they didn't and started failing we would take them.
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Old 06-04-2018, 11:42 AM
 
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Well even back in the supposedly perfect 50's, out of 28 in our class there were 2 who lived full time with their grandparents. There were 5 that I knew of who were cared for after school by their grandparents until the parents got home from work. Most of the rest of us just went home and took care of ourselves, starting in about 3rd-4th grade anyway. This was a working class area in Los Angeles.
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