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I have a 25 year old son with a 2year old. he decides to plan a trip to las vegas with his baby's mother and ask me to pick up my grandchild from daycare while he is gone. In your opinion do you think he should be asking me to this or should he be planning a vacation including is child? i have mixed feelings and don't want to come across as mean but I am a working mother with a child myself and a teenager.
there really isn't enough info in your post to answer the question. There was a thread recently in the parenting forum with all different opinions on whether or not people should vacation without their kids. There were as many opinions as there were posters. I'm assuming your son is asking you to do more than just "pick up from daycare" I would assume you'd also be responsible for feeding, bathing, dressing, etc the child and taking him back to day care each day. Do you normally spend time with the child? Are you close? How long is the proposed trip? What is it about this that is bothering you?
I have a 25 year old son with a 2year old. he decides to plan a trip to las vegas with his baby's mother and ask me to pick up my grandchild from daycare while he is gone. In your opinion do you think he should be asking me to this or should he be planning a vacation including is child? i have mixed feelings and don't want to come across as mean but I am a working mother with a child myself and a teenager.
Like RKB there are more questions to ask.
I have no problem watching my grandchildren if my son and his wife want to go away for the occasional weekend.
I don't care where it was.
Now if it was a continual thing where they don't spend ANY or hardly any weekend with their child then I would say put a stop to it.
But parents also need their alone time and if you're willing to watch the child then I say there's nothing wrong with it.
Don't make it about his choices - don't make it based on whether you think he should take his baby with him or not. He's an adult and it's his life and his business. His vacation, his baby, his life, his choice.
All that's for you to decide is if you want to pick up / care for your grandchild while he's away. Don't feel guilty if you don't. Grandmother doesn't automatically mean babysitter. Don't allow him to guilt-trip you if you refuse. Let him know you love him and your grandbaby but that you have enough on your plate as it is, and you don't want to take on more for the moment. If he can't respect that, then that's his choice, too. Don't let him bother or emotionally bully you into doing something you don't want to do. It's not fair to you or your grandbaby if he tries to do that.
My wife and I try to take two vacations a year, one with the kids and one with out. When we plan something without the kids it is usually just a long weekend and we plan months in advance to make sure we have our babysitting lined up. You have to do what you have to do in this case. However, if your only reason for saying no is that they aren't taking the child, than I think that's not a very good reason. Regardless, he should have checked with you before he even started looking for hotel rooms.
I would not recommend taking a child to Vegas! And I don't think there is anything wrong with parents who feel comfortable taking an adults-only vacation. But if you feel your plate is too full to do what they have asked, then just say no. That makes more sense to me, than giving them grief and judgement over their parenting decisions.
I would not recommend taking a child to Vegas! And I don't think there is anything wrong with parents who feel comfortable taking an adults-only vacation. But if you feel your plate is too full to do what they have asked, then just say no. That makes more sense to me, than giving them grief and judgement over their parenting decisions.
We take our kids to Vegas. We always have a fun time. The pools are great and there are lots of things for families to do. If you're going to drink and gamble your money away, then that probably wouldn't be very fun for the kids. But if you're just going to have fun in a healthy way, Vegas is really fun with the kids. Our kids love Vegas. Even the simple things they talk about again and again... like having gelatto in the Venetian or sitting and watching the storms pass over the "sky" (ceiling) in the Desert Passage (Aladdin)... The Bellagio fountains and the volcano's at the Mirage... even the botanical gardens at the Bellagio impressed them. And lots of that stuff is free, too, which can make it a very affordable vacation for families, too.
Anyway - sorry to go off-topic... but just wanted to respond to that. Vegas isn't all trash and smut. It just depends on what you seek out while you're there.
We take our kids to Vegas. We always have a fun time. The pools are great and there are lots of things for families to do. If you're going to drink and gamble your money away, then that probably wouldn't be very fun for the kids. But if you're just going to have fun in a healthy way, Vegas is really fun with the kids. Our kids love Vegas. Even the simple things they talk about again and again... like having gelatto in the Venetian or sitting and watching the storms pass over the "sky" (ceiling) in the Desert Passage (Aladdin)... The Bellagio fountains and the volcano's at the Mirage... even the botanical gardens at the Bellagio impressed them. And lots of that stuff is free, too, which can make it a very affordable vacation for families, too.
Anyway - sorry to go off-topic... but just wanted to respond to that. Vegas isn't all trash and smut. It just depends on what you seek out while you're there.
I personally never vacationed without my kids....but each set of parents is different..If his request is going to prove difficult or inconveniant to you, just flat out tell him NO, but don't wait too long, so he can make other plans, and not be upset.
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