U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting > Grandparents
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Old 06-08-2012, 06:40 AM
Location: Simmering in DFW
6,947 posts, read 18,041,393 times
Reputation: 7141


His step mother is my (former) step daughter but he has grown up totally living in her home. I was her stepmom for 18 years until I was widiwed from her Dad 12 years ago. We stay in touch mostly thru email, facebook, etc. and I see this young man about once a year but have known him since he was 3. I am financially comfortable but I don't want to "show up" his real grandparents. I have been wavering between $50 and $100, but my DH says the right amount is $200 and that $50 is like your decrepit grandmom giving you $20 in our time

Seeking monetary amount suggestions....the gift will be money. He will be going to college in the Fall on student loans
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

Old 06-09-2012, 10:39 AM
Location: Summerville, SC
1,149 posts, read 3,649,852 times
Reputation: 1117
If you can comfortably afford $200, that would be a nice amount. In this day and age, that *might* cover books for two of his classes in the fall.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-10-2012, 09:55 AM
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
1,280 posts, read 3,921,193 times
Reputation: 1204
I think it depends on where you live. Here, grandparents tend to give $100-$150, and more distant relatives such as aunts or family like you would give $50.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-10-2012, 12:05 PM
Location: Wisconsin
15,063 posts, read 14,358,408 times
Reputation: 34070
It also depends on the family. We have small graduation parties with just relatives and we don't give gifts at all (although, I think that is somewhat unusual).

But. my children have mentioned friends collecting (what I would consider) large amounts of money at their large parties like $1,000 to $2,000 total.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-12-2012, 12:04 PM
Location: Huntsville, AL
486 posts, read 349,993 times
Reputation: 641
We just gave my nephew (he's also grandchild #1) $250. I believe he collected a total of around $1,800.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-15-2012, 06:21 AM
Location: The Hall of Justice
25,907 posts, read 33,817,761 times
Reputation: 42278
I think whatever you can afford is fine. It's a gift! I would estimate that $50 is birthday present level. This boy will only graduate high school once, so I'd say it's a more special occasion, but not as special as graduating college or getting married. I'd say $100 for graduation since you can afford it, and you can step it up for later, even more momentous occasions if you want to. You are not direct, immediate bloodline to this boy, so I think $100 is very sweet and generous.

However, if your husband is adamant, a bigger gift would be welcome, I'm sure. But I doubt anybody is expecting such an amount.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.

Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting > Grandparents
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2017, Advameg, Inc.

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32 - Top