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Wow, I feel really bad for you. Like everyone already said. The grandparents have the right to know and the father also have a responsibility to his child. How can he ask you to be his friend and then ignore his own child.
^^^^^Friends do NOT do things like this to their "friends". They just don't! He's not a friend. He's a pig. I think the guy's had ample time to break the news to his parents....nearly 11 months, right? Yeah....I'd just break the ice and let them know.
Best of luck to you. The next several weeks or even months are likely to be quite stressful, but I wholeheartedly believe that in the long run, you are doing the right thing and your child will benefit from it.
You don't really know anything about these people at all. Suppose they turn out to be real low lifes - the type that you would never, ever want your child to be around?
I think you should listen to your lawyer and once you've got paternity and child support established, maybe you could talk to this father about whether or not his parents should be informed about their grandchild. Ideally, he would be the one to tell them because he is the one with the relationship with them.
Well, I didn't get brave enough to tell his parents. I did, however, fill out the application to establish paternity with the attorney general. I'm so nervous! He is going to be so angry!!
Well, I didn't get brave enough to tell his parents. I did, however, fill out the application to establish paternity with the attorney general. I'm so nervous! He is going to be so angry!!
I think you have done the right thing. Get all the paternity and financial issues out of the way FIRST. Then, if his parents are not the same type of individuals as their son is, you may consider telling them.
To my knowledge grandparents have no legal rights whatsoever where grandchildren are concerned, and despite the bleeding heart advice you have received about their "need" to know, that is sentimental BS. The last thing you need is two grandparents like their bum son sniffing around your kids. Once you open that can of worms, you won't be able to close it!!! Stick it out for you and your kids, you are the one with the rights, you are the one with the needs.
Well, I didn't get brave enough to tell his parents. I did, however, fill out the application to establish paternity with the attorney general. I'm so nervous! He is going to be so angry!!
Good for you!! You know SBK, it takes two to tango. It took two people to create that sweet baby. If he had been practicing safe sex, he would have worn a condom, regardless of whether or not you'd had your tubes tied. If he was actually a real friend of yours, he wouldn't have been or BE behaving like he is. Let's face it, clearly, you were simply a gullible booty call for him and he was not your friend. Let him be angry! Who cares? Seriously, he has shown a complete and total disregard for both you and his child. Let him be angry! Consequence has reared its ugly head for him, hasn't it? Good for you girl!
Well, I didn't get brave enough to tell his parents. I did, however, fill out the application to establish paternity with the attorney general. I'm so nervous! He is going to be so angry!!
You should tell his parents as well SweetBabyKate, they might be really nice people and they might be thrilled to have a grand daughter....If I were you I'd not look at any texts from him, nor answer any more of his calls...he's not your friend SBK, your baby is more of a friend to you than he is,...I'd be devastated as a grandparent to find out I had a grandchild that I've not had a chance to get to know, or to at least buy some of the things she might need.
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