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I am worried about my grandchild. I think his parents are using marijuana around him even to the point of having it in the car when he is with them. Is it true in cases like this that he will go to a foster home and we cannot have access to him or get him? I heard that they would not allow a family member access to the child at all and he would stay in foster care? Very concerned about my grandson. We live in NC.
I am worried about my grandchild. I think his parents are using marijuana around him even to the point of having it in the car when he is with them. Is it true in cases like this that he will go to a foster home and we cannot have access to him or get him? I heard that they would not allow a family member access to the child at all and he would stay in foster care? Very concerned about my grandson. We live in NC.
Unless your grand-child's parents are riding around with amounts large enough to indicate they are dealing you don't have to be so worried about foster care.
When a child is considered "endangered" the system usually looks for a stable relative to place the child with. Oh sure, the child may go into emergency foster care for 24-48 hours until a proper relative is located, but it sure would not be permanent okay?
Can you not confront your child and the spouse on this issue? Stand your ground and speak up for your grandchild!
I am worried about my grandchild. I think his parents are using marijuana around him even to the point of having it in the car when he is with them.
You're not clear. Is this a worry of what might happen or have they been arrested? Or are you thinking of turning them in and you're trying to make sure you get access to the child if you do? Having personal use amount of marijuana in their possession is much different than using marijuana in front of him.
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Originally Posted by concernedgranny
Is it true in cases like this that he will go to a foster home and we cannot have access to him or get him? I heard that they would not allow a family member access to the child at all and he would stay in foster care? Very concerned about my grandson. We live in NC.
That doesn't make sense. The foster care system usually tries to place children with family members.
Thank you all for replying. No they are not dealing. I honestly thought the use had stopped since becoming parents but it has come to my attention that is not the case. I am trying to decide what to do but yes I have confronted and all I got was No and denial and how crazy I am for thinking that of her or him. Which tells me it may be a bigger problem than I realized. I have watched for a while and all the signs are there. A concerned family member is the one that told me they were driving while impaired from the drug and while my grandson was with them then continued to tell me about their friend that was in a similar situation and none of the family was allowed to have contact with that child nor could they get custody. Neither parent has been caught except the Father but that was a couple of years before my grandson was even born. Anyway when the family member told me this my world fell apart and I don't know what to do but if they are denying it is my greatest fear of what will happen to my grandson but also my child.
Oh they do smoke cigarettes and I already fuss at them about that. My grandson has had tubes put in his ears and has allergies. The family member also told me that they go to the bedroom to smoke it without my grandson in there but he still goes in there to play in that same room and he also sleeps in that same room with them he has a toddler bed in there. The same family member brought him to me last night because they were at their house and they were getting ready to leave the mother was also leaving but went outside with my grandson smoked marijuana and was going to take him with her but the family member told her they were coming to my house and talked her into letting them bring my grandson to me instead of her taking him.
I suggest you talk with an attorney in N.C. rather than trying to get legal advice from strangers on the internet. Each case is different and if you complain to somebody like DFACS the child might be taken away from them and I doubt you would be allowed to see him again once the parents get him back. i certainly don't advocate smoking of anything around children but if every adult who smoked pot around their children was arrested and lost their kids we would have a big bunch of parentless kids around.
Oh they do smoke cigarettes and I already fuss at them about that. My grandson has had tubes put in his ears and has allergies. The family member also told me that they go to the bedroom to smoke it without my grandson in there but he still goes in there to play in that same room and he also sleeps in that same room with them he has a toddler bed in there. The same family member brought him to me last night because they were at their house and they were getting ready to leave the mother was also leaving but went outside with my grandson smoked marijuana and was going to take him with her but the family member told her they were coming to my house and talked her into letting them bring my grandson to me instead of her taking him.
And the parents have no idea that their behavior is harming the baby's health.
Oh they do smoke cigarettes and I already fuss at them about that. My grandson has had tubes put in his ears and has allergies. The family member also told me that they go to the bedroom to smoke it without my grandson in there but he still goes in there to play in that same room and he also sleeps in that same room with them he has a toddler bed in there. The same family member brought him to me last night because they were at their house and they were getting ready to leave the mother was also leaving but went outside with my grandson smoked marijuana and was going to take him with her but the family member told her they were coming to my house and talked her into letting them bring my grandson to me instead of her taking him.
We all know how addictive tobacco can be, and how second hand tobacco smoke is also damaging. How about suggesting that they try vaporizer pens that contain nicotine? That would eliminate that threat to their child. It would be much easier for them to use a substitute like vaporizing than to quit.
In regard to their marijuana smoking, same thing. There are vaporizers that use liquid extracts and also those that use the dry flowers and leaves. Marijuana is no more addicting than caffeine, so if they continue to use it in the same space as their child, it is because they don't see or aren't acknowledging the issue for a child with breathing problems, not because they have to as a result of addiction.
You can't dictate their lives, and you really don't want to create a situation where the child has to grow up without their parents, which the child will resent you for when they get older, but what you might be able to do is suggest they mitigate the harm they may be doing by using a safer approach.
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How about trying to suggest harm reduction?
