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Old 05-30-2014, 10:36 AM
 
Location: NYC
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The only reason I could see having a grandma baby shower is if the baby and its mom were planning on living with the grandma or if grandma is going to be the main caregiver. In this day and age there are a lot of grandparents who are raising their grandkids.
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Old 05-30-2014, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Richmond, VA
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When I went to my best friend's baby shower a few months ago, I thought it was a nice touch that next to her seat was the 'grandmas-to-be'. They each were sort of like the guest of honor on both sides of the mom-to-be.

The center of attention wasn't focused on just them, but they were certainly included a large deal, helping her open gifts, holding gifts while the mom-to-be went for more, etc. I thought it was nice. I'm not sure how I would feel about grandma-to-be wearing the sash and stealing the thunder though lol
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Old 05-30-2014, 11:38 AM
 
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I think it's a great idea. I think I'll throw one for a friend of mine. She is so excited about her coming grandbaby and we all love an excuse to get together for afternoon tea. Would be perfect.

As to it being a gift grab, well so be it. There are a lot of things that baby needs and we're all well able to afford a baby gift. Most of us would give one anyway. This way we get to do it together too. What fun.

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Old 05-30-2014, 02:07 PM
 
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Interesting article.

Been to a few baby showers for the mother at work but never heard about a grandma shower before.

https://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/gr...164324128.html

Many grandparents willingly help take care of their grandchildren....and they need a set of things for their home as well. 20 years ago my mother didn't have a shower when her granddaughter was born, but her best friend gifted her a carseat and a few office mates brought her cute baby towels and such to celebrate. All things that came in handy when the kiddo was over there.

(Funny, they are close to this day....said grandchild is home after her first year at college, and spending 2 weeks with grandma still...which they are both enjoying greatly.)
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Old 05-30-2014, 02:08 PM
 
Location: Sudcaroland
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As to it being a gift grab, well so be it. There are a lot of things that baby needs and we're all well able to afford a baby gift. Most of us would give one anyway. This way we get to do it together too. What fun.
Except that the presents are not for the grandma...
Giving her a gift for the baby, in private, if you don't know the parents or live far from them is one thing, she can then give those gifts to the parents at their baby shower or whenever she sees them. But throwing a party for that... honestly...
Having a little get together just for fun is one thing, but giving presents then is another thing..
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Old 05-30-2014, 02:11 PM
 
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Except that the presents are not for the grandma...
Giving her a gift for the baby, in private, if you don't know the parents or live far from them is one thing, she can then give those gifts to the parents at their baby shower or whenever she sees them. But throwing a party for that... honestly...
Having a little get together just for fun is one thing, but giving presents then is another thing..
If you don't want to give a present...then don't. It's really not that hard.
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Old 05-30-2014, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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Many grandparents willingly help take care of their grandchildren....and they need a set of things for their home as well. 20 years ago my mother didn't have a shower when her granddaughter was born, but her best friend gifted her a carseat and a few office mates brought her cute baby towels and such to celebrate. All things that came in handy when the kiddo was over there.

(Funny, they are close to this day....said grandchild is home after her first year at college, and spending 2 weeks with grandma still...which they are both enjoying greatly.)
True that, but I'm not sure why grandma's friends/family should be footing the bill for all the equipment. A car seat can cost $100+ these days; I don't think I'd ask my friends to pay for that. I can see taking a friend out to lunch, or having a tea party or such to celebrate, but I'd draw the line there myself. OTOH, if someone wants to give a gift, who am I to say they shouldn't? I do know a lot of grandmas pass stuff around to their friends for visiting grandchildren.
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Old 05-30-2014, 02:20 PM
 
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A cash grab and disgusting. I hate showers to begin with and only attend coed (women only to me are sexist and demeaning)but a grandma one would say "gimme". No thanks I'll pass.
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Old 05-30-2014, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Dallas
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If grandma needs some baby items because she is going to be taking care of the baby, she should either buy them herself, or have the parents provide it.

My son and daughter in law gave me some "duplicates" of gifts they got from their baby shower, bought the first car seat and swing, and I took care of the rest. No way would I expect my friends to spend their money on gifts for a grandchild, unless they wanted to. It doesn't seem right to have a shower where gifts are expected.
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Old 05-30-2014, 04:55 PM
 
Location: Greenville, SC
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I would not feel comfortable with this. It feels like a gift grab to me.
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