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I get paid to be live-in Grandmother to my two young grandsons. I help care for them, do laundry and some housecleaning. My situation is not without complications and I have nobody to talk to about the relinquishment of independence, lack of control, lifestyle adjustment and expectations put upon me. I'm sure my situation is much more pleasant than many other grandparents' but I still need advice and words of wisdom from others. Thank you!
I separated and moved your post so that you would get more answers. I think you'll find that many of us grands are here to be supportive in whatever ways we can, and that you'll be able to discuss your situation openly.
Welcome to the forum, Igetaround I hope we can help you..We we felt the need to have a forum to discuss the many issues of grandparenting today..I hope you will take time to read some of the posts and get to know us ..If we can help in any way we will do our best...Your situation sounds like you need some input and encouragement..We are good listeners
It sounds like a good set up to me if you agreed on the "job" before moving in. Are you expected to do more than agreed on before you moved in?
It would be extreemly hard for me to give up my independance and live with someone else in someone elses house. If it is not working out for you, could you just move out? Life is to short to be miserable. There is just not enough information to get a handle on what is going on.
Do you have any off time? Get to do what you want, go where you want or are you on call 24/7?
I get paid to be live-in Grandmother to my two young grandsons. I help care for them, do laundry and some housecleaning. My situation is not without complications and I have nobody to talk to about the relinquishment of independence, lack of control, lifestyle adjustment and expectations put upon me. I'm sure my situation is much more pleasant than many other grandparents' but I still need advice and words of wisdom from others. Thank you!
Perhaps if you gave a little more detail about your situation, we could be of help. Your post is a little vague. It can't be easy having to move in with family after living an independent life. But how is your family taking advantage of you exactly? At least that's how I am perceiving your post.
Open communication is always the key to everyone being on the same page. I would tell your kids that you need to sit down and get some things out in the open with them - if it's bothering you. As in a regular job, ask them to set some hours for you so you can schedule appointments, "me"-time, etc. Tell them you really need some time to yourself to rest so you can be a more patient, stress-free grandmother. Maybe getting everything out in the open and maybe even in writing will improve your living situation. If not, I would consider other living options. Good luck!
I get paid to be live-in Grandmother to my two young grandsons. I help care for them, do laundry and some housecleaning. My situation is not without complications and I have nobody to talk to about the relinquishment of independence, lack of control, lifestyle adjustment and expectations put upon me. I'm sure my situation is much more pleasant than many other grandparents' but I still need advice and words of wisdom from others. Thank you!
Hello. I was doing that for several years, but I was paying rent, and not asked to participate in household duties. the mother wanted nothing from me but money and often i would babysit at their convenience. I wanted to do more but it was very strained situation. I feel for you as even at best I know this is a difficult situation. How is it going?
Hey chinooka....did you know that this thread is a good 3 years gone??..I don't know why its not been deleted myself.
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I hope we can help you..We we felt the need to have a forum to discuss the many issues of grandparenting today..I hope you will take time to read some of the posts and get to know us ..If we can help in any way we will do our best...Your situation sounds like you need some input and encouragement..We are good listeners
