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Old 03-05-2015, 06:10 PM
 
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My 17 year old daughter was just in bra, sitting on the computer and being on camera with a boy. I wasnt at home. When I entered the house, I heard yelling and went to her room, my father was lecturing her. I stepped in and told him that I will take care of the situation and told him to leave the room. Now, my father is that type of a guy who always was so traditional and old school, but its not an excuse for what he did. Anyway, he didnt listen to me and didnt leave her room when I asked him to do so, but he kept scolding her, so she mouthed off to him and disrespected him, then he took out his belt and hit her legs and slapped her cheek. I was shocked, but pushed my father out of the room and got back, trying to calm her down, but she just kept crying. Eventually she stopped but she was just laying in her room, didnt even want to eat or drink water and she usually loves eating with me.
Im out of mind, I am so mad at him, but I dont know what to do and how to solve this problem. He is not living with us, neither does her mother. She doesnt know what happend. Should I even tell her? Im the legal guardian of my daughter. I dont even know how to address the camera problem, should I even punish her after this? I dont support corporal punishment, I am at my wits end with my father. What should I do?
Not to be an ass, but maybe the reason why your 17 year old daughter is getting undressed online is precisely because you don't support corporal punishment.
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Old 03-05-2015, 06:12 PM
 
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Your daughter should decide to file or not; she is 17. If a minor in your state then you have a duty under law to report abuse. Also her k mother has a right to know about it if a minor. Since he doesn't live with you no thing there to consider .I will admit if my daughter was sitting with bra only talking on skype or whatever I'd also be upset with her.
That wasn't abuse, that was discipline.

When the word abuse gets thrown around so often, it loses meaning. Read about Ethan Ali and countless other children tortured to death by their parents. They were abused. She was disciplined because the father is too weak willed to do it.

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Not to be an ass, but maybe the reason why your 17 year old daughter is getting undressed online is precisely because you don't support corporal punishment.
He sounds like one of those "I want to be your friend, please like me" kind of parents. Their kids always seem to become self absorbed and narcissistic.
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Texas
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That wasn't abuse, that was discipline.

When the word abuse gets thrown around so often, it loses meaning. Read about Ethan Ali and countless other children tortured to death by their parents. They were abused. She was disciplined because the father is too weak willed to do it.



He sounds like one of those "I want to be your friend, please like me" kind of parents. Their kids always seem to become self absorbed and narcissistic.
Outside of self-defense, no one has the right to hit another person.

Having to resort to hitting a 17 year old girl demonstrates a lack of control and maturity. Grandpa is a jackass.
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:09 PM
 
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Outside of self-defense, no one has the right to hit another person.

Having to resort to hitting a 17 year old girl demonstrates a lack of control and maturity. Grandpa is a jackass.
Grandpa is part of a generation where spanking your children for disrespect is acceptable. Unfortunately, based on the comments provided here, people seem more concerned with that than the fact that a minor was getting undressed on the internet for God-knows who else to see. Never mind the fact that the boy on the other end could himself get charged with child pornography had she kept taking her clothes off.

Sounds like Grandpa is the only sane person in this scenario. This is why western society is crumbling around us.
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:14 PM
 
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That wasn't abuse, that was discipline.

When the word abuse gets thrown around so often, it loses meaning. Read about Ethan Ali and countless other children tortured to death by their parents. They were abused. She was disciplined because the father is too weak willed to do it.
That's exactly right. And I suspect Grandpa had been biting his tongue for a long time before this, and just finally blew up. This likely wasn't the first time she mouthed off and disrespected him. And this automatic reaction from so many to "CALL THE POLICE" is about the worst advice one could give.
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He sounds like one of those "I want to be your friend, please like me" kind of parents. Their kids always seem to become self absorbed and narcissistic.
Yup, only he doesn't see it. He's furious at his father for spanking his daughter(who deserved it), but he's "not sure" if he should punish her. After all, she's "sad"...
Hey Dad, it's your job to teach your daughter what is appropriate behavior for a 17 year old. She's not learning.
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:25 PM
 
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Isnt that a bit far, involving the police?


I went to the bathroom to wash my hands and it escalated that fast.
She does not have good relationship with her mother. Her mother is trying, but they dont get along too good. Im not sure if punishing my daughter is a good idea after this, because.. I tried talking with her, she just refuses and stays in her room. I really dont know how to aproach her about this. She is deeply hurt, seems like. I havent talked with my father neither yet, but I doubt he would apologize. She would not neither, thats for sure.

TROLL ALERT.


Are you going to say there is an argument going on between your father and your daughter and you just leave the room to "wash your hands" ? GIve me a break.

Your OP has all the salacious details of a good, soft-porn troll post.... 17 year old girl sitting in a bra and video chatting with a boy. You're a single father and your father is there also. (I'm sure a 17 year old girl would leave her door wide open while sitting in her bra video chatting). Your father whips her with a belt.... then slaps her face.....

IF this is true (and it's not), you should have pushed your father out of the room, out of the house, and kicked his ass in the driveway and sent him on his way. Simple. Case closed.


Since this isn't a real story, why not take your stories elsewhere.... maybe to a porn site where you and your ilk can get off on stories about teen girls.
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:29 PM
 
Location: sumter
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Honesty, I don't think he was out of line at all. Skyping naked or semi nude with a boy then mouthing off to your grandfather? You becha I would have belted her as well.

I am shocked that people are actually thinking the grandfather was at fault here.
I agree with you this .
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Old 03-05-2015, 07:45 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Grandpa is part of a generation where spanking your children for disrespect is acceptable. Unfortunately, based on the comments provided here, people seem more concerned with that than the fact that a minor was getting undressed on the internet for God-knows who else to see. Never mind the fact that the boy on the other end could himself get charged with child pornography had she kept taking her clothes off.

Sounds like Grandpa is the only sane person in this scenario. This is why western society is crumbling around us.
I don't know where you are getting the idea that MOST of the people on here aren't bothered by the teenager.
I myself would have brought the hammer, bit not in the arcane, neanderthal, I don't have the tools/brain power/authority/credibility to discipline without violence way.

Besides, guess what? Ain't grandpa's house, ain't grandpa's kid, and her parent had called him off.
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Old 03-05-2015, 08:01 PM
 
Location: NC
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Oh hell no. My father would be out the door and we would probably never see him again.

Forget your father - focus on your daughter who is clearly making bad choices and needs help - and attention from you. I'd take her computer to start with and get her into therapy. You have a lot of parenting to do.
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Old 03-05-2015, 08:13 PM
 
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Oh hell no. My father would be out the door and we would probably never see him again.

Forget your father - focus on your daughter who is clearly making bad choices and needs help - and attention from you. I'd take her computer to start with and get her into therapy. You have a lot of parenting to do.
But she's sad, isn't that punishment enough?
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