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Old 03-01-2016, 06:57 PM
 
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Hi. I was wanting some opinions on this matter. I am a (almost) 24 year old and was raised by a single mum. I have never met my "Father" (and don't want to) or any of his family. My mother was going to send a letter to his mother when I was a child to inform her that I existed, but this never happened. I heard about 5 years ago that his father had died and it made me feel a bit strange that a relative of mine had died without knowing about me. So here's the big question...


Should I send a letter to my (technically) grandmother?

Thanks
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Old 03-01-2016, 09:16 PM
 
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Since you don't want to meet your father, I don't think you should contact your grandmother. I would certainly want to know if I had an unknown grandchild, but if that grandchild wanted nothing to do with my child, than I would see no point in forming a relationship with him/her.
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Old 03-02-2016, 09:45 PM
 
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You need to ask why you would do this. Are you interested in your paternal family? But just not interested in your dad?

Does your grandmother know you exist?

Why don't you sit down with a counselor or trusted friend and hash out what you hope to accomplish by sending a letter to your grandmother. Imagine the possible consequences. Imagine the possible good things that might come of it. Think it over thoroughly, and then decide what you want to do.
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Old 03-19-2016, 08:43 AM
 
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Thanks for the replies. I sent her a letter and she wants to meet.
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Old 06-02-2016, 07:30 AM
 
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Hope it all turned out good....hope your family on your fathers side proved to be good people.
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Old 06-06-2016, 12:27 PM
 
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Hi. I was wanting some opinions on this matter. I am a (almost) 24 year old and was raised by a single mum. I have never met my "Father" (and don't want to) or any of his family. My mother was going to send a letter to his mother when I was a child to inform her that I existed, but this never happened. I heard about 5 years ago that his father had died and it made me feel a bit strange that a relative of mine had died without knowing about me. So here's the big question...


Should I send a letter to my (technically) grandmother?

Thanks

You should meet your dad you've never met first .. at least hear his side of the story, not just your mothers side..

his version of how things went down may be a little different than your mother led you to believe ...
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Old 06-06-2016, 06:41 PM
 
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Thanks for the replies. I sent her a letter and she wants to meet.
OP How did it go?
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