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Old 03-23-2018, 02:04 PM
 
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Well people it has happen, DIL walked out, guess what that happen over 2 years ago. We just founded out, could not sleep for awhile thinking about our son. She took the triplet (age 6) to her parents over 1200 miles away from their father. He try to reason with her (no yelling, quiet calm voice) to come back home. The worst part they were getting help from state for the triplets and was looking for her, problem they stop quickly. The whole thing is sad in a way because our son live in a loveless marriage. He tried very hard to make her happy, but he was not. Over the years we seen things like him building a place for himself in a shack in the back yard. We could just cry, but we had to keep our mouth to our self. My DIL has a ME attitude and just me. Hell with everyone else, she is right no matter what. You can not disagree with her because she thinks you are yelling at her.
We decided she is mentally unstable. Now our son asked her for a divorce and she wants everything. My son try to work so it was 60/40 but no from her. Now he is getting a lawyer and asking for custody of his triplets. We are hoping he does get it all.
We pray he does because we do not want our grand children growing up with her attitude.

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Old 03-23-2018, 02:26 PM
 
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Children need both parents as much as you hate her but my advice to you is if your son does get custody (my advice to the dil is the same) if one side of the family tried to poison children against the other parent (subltly or not) the children’s lives will be destroyed.

I’d hope a judge or family court do everything in their power to arrange co parenting, with family counseling, and that the children are spared the family hostility.
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Old 03-26-2018, 03:12 AM
 
Location: Mill Boulevard, yes that's right!
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Wow, lots of nasty bashing of the woman. Unless you were actually there for the marriage, keep in mind that you're only getting one side of the story.

Mentally unstable? Just from this post, I wouldn't want them growing up with your attitude, to be honest.
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Old 03-26-2018, 10:35 AM
 
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She left with the kids 2 years ago and you're just now finding out? How did that happen?
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Old 03-26-2018, 03:42 PM
 
Location: NY to NJ
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Well people it has happen, DIL walked out, guess what that happen over 2 years ago. We just founded out, could not sleep for awhile thinking about our son. She took the triplet (age 6) to her parents over 1200 miles away from their father. He try to reason with her (no yelling, quiet calm voice) to come back home. The worst part they were getting help from state for the triplets and was looking for her, problem they stop quickly. The whole thing is sad in a way because our son live in a loveless marriage. He tried very hard to make her happy, but he was not. Over the years we seen things like him building a place for himself in a shack in the back yard. We could just cry, but we had to keep our mouth to our self. My DIL has a ME attitude and just me. Hell with everyone else, she is right no matter what. You can not disagree with her because she thinks you are yelling at her.
We decided she is mentally unstable. Now our son asked her for a divorce and she wants everything. My son try to work so it was 60/40 but no from her. Now he is getting a lawyer and asking for custody of his triplets. We are hoping he does get it all.
We pray he does because we do not want our grand children growing up with her attitude.

WOULD YOU?
Were you married to this woman? No, therefore you are hearing 1 side of the story, but it seems like parents always side with their child anyway. More like you don't like her now bc she's divorcing your baby boy. And apparently your son liked "that attitude" to marry her
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Wow, lots of nasty bashing of the woman. Unless you were actually there for the marriage, keep in mind that you're only getting one side of the story.

Mentally unstable? Just from this post, I wouldn't want them growing up with your attitude, to be honest.


I have to agree!


You stated he worked so hard 60/40? Do you honestly think raising triplets is not work? This is all one sided. You have NO idea how your son treated her and what actually went on in their marriage. Not fair to bash her and say she's a terrible mother unless you have physically seen her abuse the children.


At any rate, your son can file for sole custody, but it's not that easy. The judge will take many things into account. If you're going to help him I suggest being neutral and NOT bashing the mother of his children. It could come back to bite you! Looks like if you were REALLY part of your son's life you would have known immediately what was going on, not two yeas later! Have you not seen your grandkids in two years??
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:58 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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WAIT A MINUTE...............according to your other threads (which are all about bashing your DIL) your son and DIL were together this past Christmas 2017????? If that's true, this thread is bogus!




Forgotten again
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Old 03-27-2018, 10:58 PM
 
Location: NY to NJ
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WAIT A MINUTE...............according to your other threads (which are all about bashing your DIL) your son and DIL were together this past Christmas 2017????? If that's true, this thread is bogus!




Forgotten again
Good detective work
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