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Old 11-21-2018, 06:44 AM
 
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Here in the Denver area, when my kids were in high school about 10 years ago, it was considered cool for boys to wear shorts in very cold weather and even in snow, and, conversely, many kids would wear black jeans and hoodies in 85 degree weather). I was "taught" that experience is that the best teacher and should let it go, and the kids would learn on their own that such choices would eventually bring their own misery, but that never happened.
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Old 11-21-2018, 09:10 AM
 
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Here in the Denver area, when my kids were in high school about 10 years ago, it was considered cool for boys to wear shorts in very cold weather and even in snow, and, conversely, many kids would wear black jeans and hoodies in 85 degree weather). I was "taught" that experience is that the best teacher and should let it go, and the kids would learn on their own that such choices would eventually bring their own misery, but that never happened.
It probably did, unless your kids now in their late 20s are still wearing shorts in the snow and hoodies in the summer.
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Old 11-23-2018, 09:32 PM
 
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Most young people think most old people are uncool.

Unless it is cold enough to actually cause skin damage, I stopped making my teen dress in warm clothes. If he's uncomfortably cold, that's his own fault and his own problem. We got him a puffy packable coat so he can shove it in his backpack when he gets to school, if he wears it.
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Old 11-23-2018, 09:33 PM
 
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Also, you don't get sick from being cold. Unless you live in Alaska, snow pants are overkill.
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Old 11-23-2018, 09:42 PM
 
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I don't have grand kids, I have grand dogs.


Regarding my own grandfather...
I never really thought of him as "uncool", although he always wore khakis, never blue jeans. Then, he told me some stories from his youth.


His first car was a Ford model T. It was well-used and the engine threw a rod every few hundred miles - he learned to repair the engine himself.


The cool thing was...he painted the T's fenders pink to appeal to the ladies. He was a genuine hot-rodder in the '20s. That was cool.
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Old 11-24-2018, 08:58 PM
 
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Parents and grandparents, by virtue of the fact that they are older than the kids doing the judging, just aren't cool. That's the only power the kids have, since adults are the ones in charge.
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Old 11-24-2018, 11:42 PM
 
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You are walking your 13 year old grandchild to school? Is this necessary? And you insist on bundling her up like the Michelin Man? I don’t know. Snow pants? What a pain to take on and off in school. Why not just wear jeans?

Notice what other kids wear to school for cues about whether you are allowing her to dress appropriately. Obviously you want her to be warm and modest, but if she looks too different fron the other girls she could feel embarrassed.

When I was 13, I walked to school on a narrow shoulder of a busy road every morning. I figured out how to stay warm by trial and error. It was roughly a 15 minute walk. If your neighborhood is not unsafe, I don’t know why you would need to walk her to school. Do you walk her home too?
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Old 11-25-2018, 12:42 AM
 
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Just wanted to chime in that you are cool in my book!
To invest in her health and care..that's a plus!

You bet I bundled up in my teens. I hated the chills then and still do...today! I recall the so called 'cool' kids walking to the bus stop with wet sopping hair. Ohh what rebels they were with just a Jean jacket and their sneaker foot ware. (Yes they wore jeans). Most of the winter they'd be sneezing and hacking up stuff. I refuse to believe you can catch a cold on a sunny 80 degree day...but by golly every cold I incurred was from cold...damp...windy ..rainy ..snowy days!

So as one lady who raised her boys to bundle up...they are healthy and still wear a hat and gloves when out shoveling or traveling to work.
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Old 11-25-2018, 09:21 PM
 
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I missed that you are walking her to and from school. You need to lighten up. Unless there are circumstances we're not aware of, a 13 year old (7th or 8th grade?) does NOT need to be walked to and from school. Unless you live in Alaska, she does not need to bundle up like that. I live in Colorado, and adults don't even dress like that in the dead of winter, unless there is a blizzard going on, and even then, they'd be driving, not walking, so still not necessary. I've only seen adults bundle up that much if it is very cold/snowing, and whatever they are doing requires spending an extended period of time outside.
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Old 11-25-2018, 09:27 PM
 
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Just wanted to chime in that you are cool in my book!
To invest in her health and care..that's a plus!

You bet I bundled up in my teens. I hated the chills then and still do...today! I recall the so called 'cool' kids walking to the bus stop with wet sopping hair. Ohh what rebels they were with just a Jean jacket and their sneaker foot ware. (Yes they wore jeans). Most of the winter they'd be sneezing and hacking up stuff. I refuse to believe you can catch a cold on a sunny 80 degree day...but by golly every cold I incurred was from cold...damp...windy ..rainy ..snowy days!

So as one lady who raised her boys to bundle up...they are healthy and still wear a hat and gloves when out shoveling or traveling to work.
Colds come from germs. Germs are spread by people not weather. We tend to get them more in the winter when people are inside more, in close contact with other people. This has nothing to do with health, just an overly controlling care-giver.

https://www.healthline.com/health/do...-sick#outdoors
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