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Old 03-30-2019, 04:25 PM
 
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If your grandchild of almost 4 told you my mommy (daughter in law) does like you would you believe it? I tend to think yes.
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Old 03-30-2019, 04:53 PM
 
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Huh? Does or doesn’t . Since things can be taken out of context I’d wonder what a 4 year old is basing like or dislike on, unless the mother specifically stated to the child who she likes or doesn’t like.
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Old 03-30-2019, 04:59 PM
 
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Sorry I meant doesn’t lol. I would think that was something that was either told or the child heard.
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Old 03-30-2019, 05:20 PM
 
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I think I’d ask the 4 year more questions without giving her the third degree , because she could have misheard,or taken it out of context. I’d also look at the relationship with dil and even if there was a semblance of truth be glad it isn’t impacting your time with your grandchild.

It’s hurtful to hear something like that but I’m not sure what you can do . To share this with your son who in turn will share it with your dil is a recipe for trouble.
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Old 03-30-2019, 09:17 PM
 
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A 4yr old could be completely mistaken about what they think they heard. Forget it and don’t say anything about it. You are asking for trouble if you just don’t let it go.
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Old 03-31-2019, 12:18 PM
 
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Ouch! I know that stung.

So, was it a complete surprise and bewilderment to you that this could even be possible? Relationship with DIL is solid?

Or, was it darn, DIL and I have had some negative interactions and now my granddaughter has caught wind of it?
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Old 03-31-2019, 02:03 PM
 
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A 4yr old could be completely mistaken about what they think they heard. Forget it and donít say anything about it. You are asking for trouble if you just donít let it go.
I agree.
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Old 03-31-2019, 03:00 PM
 
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Ouch! I know that stung

Or, was it darn, DIL and I have had some negative interactions and now my granddaughter has caught wind of it?
No negative interactions but fairly sure this is something that was heard. Kids donít lie so Iím guessing it was said.
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Old 03-31-2019, 05:19 PM
 
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No negative interactions but fairly sure this is something that was heard. Kids donít lie so Iím guessing it was said.
Ok, good! Then I think it is very possible the little one may have heard PART of what was said and didn't quite get the whole point.

Perhaps DIL was venting about something you do that is better than how she does it.

"Oh Honey, I hate how much better your Mother's meatloaf is than mine!" or "Ugh! I hate how your Mother makes keeping an immaculate house look so easy!

I don't think it's anything serious to worry about.
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Old 04-03-2019, 08:42 AM
 
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Four years old - or in this case "almost 4" - is quite young to fully understand "doesn't like". It could be some misunderstanding.

Try to get as much information as you can from older children and surrounding adults to get a clearer view, and then take it from there in a loving and non-confrontation way. Ultimately though, we can't make everyone like us.
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