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I think the other grandma just does the boy's nails when she does his sister's nails. He asked her to do it and now it has become a regular thing apparently.
Do you think the 5 year old has any signs of being transgender, etc? Does he insist he's a girl, etc? If he is not showing any of these signs I think grandma #1 needs to stop. Not sure if Grandma #2 is uncomfortable, or is she concerned the boy will be teased or bullied?
At the end of the day, the mother is allowing her mother to do this to her son. Totally ridiculous for a 5 year old boy. Kids don't have to call the shots, that's what parents are for.
Grandma #2 should buy a dress for the boy for the holidays and a monster truck toy for the girl. Would love to see what the Mom of the boy would say then. Maybe it wouldn't be so cute. LOL
Do you think the 5 year old has any signs of being transgender, etc? Does he insist he's a girl, etc? If he is not showing any of these signs I think grandma #1 needs to stop. Not sure if Grandma #2 is uncomfortable, or is she concerned the boy will be teased or bullied?
At the end of the day, the mother is allowing her mother to do this to her son. Totally ridiculous for a 5 year old boy. Kids don't have to call the shots, that's what parents are for.
Grandma #2 should buy a dress for the boy for the holidays and a monster truck toy for the girl. Would love to see what the Mom of the boy would say then. Maybe it wouldn't be so cute. LOL
No signs of being transgender. He seems like just a normal boy- no one has mentioned anything like that. It sounds like the other grandma paints her own nails, his sister's, and now does his too like it is their thing they do when with her. Yes, my mother is mainly worried he could get bullied or made fun of- that's her main concern.
I live in a complete backwater and even here other boys don't care about boys wearing nail polish these days. It's 2020, not 1985. And this generation is also pretty mellow about LGBTQ+ stuff so even if the polish has "implications," meh. If he's not gay or whatever, nail polish isn't going to make him gay, and if he is gay, that's fine.
In summary, Grandma should chill.
As far as bullying goes, my observation is that it's more like if a kid is a bully's target, they'll find something to make fun of about him - doesn't matter how hard he tries to conform or be cool. If a kid isn't a bully's target, wearing something unusual isn't going to turn him into one.
It's not about your grandma, it's about the little boy and his family. Yes, it's an old fashioned and out of touch attitude, time to drag your mother into the modern world.
Just like she should be dragged into respecting his parents wishes, her wishes/opinion can also be respected.
No signs of being transgender. He seems like just a normal boy- no one has mentioned anything like that. It sounds like the other grandma paints her own nails, his sister's, and now does his too like it is their thing they do when with her. Yes, my mother is mainly worried he could get bullied or made fun of- that's her main concern.
A totally normal and loving fear for a grandma. She doesnt want him hurt. Some reassurance and acknowledgement may ease her fears.
Not unless she's raising him. One set of grandparents don't trump the other, it's what the parents say that goes.
Jesus, I SAID respecting...which doesn't necessarily mean going against the parents! They can ease her fears through a conversation about it and probably squelch most of the issue.
This whole super dramatic "DRAG Grandma into the modern world!" nonsense is exactly that- DRAMATIC.
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into respecting his parents wishes, her wishes/opinion can also be respected.
