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My one son & dil are coming home for the weekend of Feb 13-15th
They would like to get together for dinner with us and my other two sons and thier wives.
I'm supposed to make dinner reservations. the 1 DIL I assumed was going to have her parents or sister babysit the baby, 6 months old..yikes we are meeting for drinks and then were going to have dinner around 7-7:30..she wants to bring the baby!!!
I emailed her to see if she was still going to bring baby as it would decide where we are going to eat..I think she's miffed because she said she doesn't see why bringing the baby would alter my choice of restaurants..HELLO...I don't want other people glaring at us if the munchkin get fussy..hubbie says if she shows up with the baby we are going to McDonalds...lol
Her parents & sister are always willing to babysit...should I just grit my teeth and grin & bear it...maybe I'll fein illnes and stay home
I love my grandbaby but I don't think this is the time or place for baby to come with us
#1 the baby will be a real doll and won't make a bit of trouble.
#2 the evening will be a disaster and she will have learned a lesson (we hope).
And you won't be the mean old mother-in-law.
I would say listen to what she is saying to you, and make whatever reservation you want to make. The plus is, you're not the baby's mother, so if dirty looks are given they will be at your DIL not you. . Truthfully, at that time of night, the baby might just sleep through dinner. Mine is 8 months and she would just sleep in her carrier. Is this their first baby? She'll learn . Have a couple drinks, enjoy your night out, and be glad that you won't be the one to have to eat a cold dinner if the baby needs to be fed.
I would say listen to what she is saying to you, and make whatever reservation you want to make. The plus is, you're not the baby's mother, so if dirty looks are given they will be at your DIL not you. . Truthfully, at that time of night, the baby might just sleep through dinner. Mine is 8 months and she would just sleep in her carrier. Is this their first baby? She'll learn . Have a couple drinks, enjoy your night out, and be glad that you won't be the one to have to eat a cold dinner if the baby needs to be fed.
yes it is the first child...BUT..the bolded part she will let the baby cry if other people are around and say quote unquote " You can pick him up" urgh!!
Ok I'll grin & bear it..hopefully he will sleep if he doesn't & gets fussy..well I know my husband we will be getting our dinner in to go boxes and leaving
#1 the baby will be a real doll and won't make a bit of trouble.
#2 the evening will be a disaster and she will have learned a lesson (we hope).
And you won't be the mean old mother-in-law.
yes it is the first child...BUT..the bolded part she will let the baby cry if other people are around and say quote unquote " You can pick him up" urgh!!
Ok I'll grin & bear it..hopefully he will sleep if he doesn't & gets fussy..well I know my husband we will be getting our dinner in to go boxes and leaving
Serious??? I mean no disrespect, but I never understand people like that. LOL. I'm partly jealous that I am just not able to do that!! I hope you have a nice dinner. So where are you going to go?
Serious??? I mean no disrespect, but I never understand people like that. LOL. I'm partly jealous that I am just not able to do that!! I hope you have a nice dinner. So where are you going to go?
Not sure..we live in North Jersey & hubbie is fond of this little Portuguese restaurant in Hopatcong called the Ridgewood..they also have your usual steaks & chops too
Either way you go you lose here. If you protest and the baby don't fuss..you are mean.
If you protest and the baby does fuss..then your hubby won't be happy nor will anyone else.
All you can hope for is that she will learn.
Your other alternative would be to have drinks and a nice dinner catered "to go" from most restaurants at home. Say you didn't feel like going out or something. But that will keep you at home and baby won't be a problem.
My one son & dil are coming home for the weekend of Feb 13-15th
They would like to get together for dinner with us and my other two sons and thier wives.
I'm supposed to make dinner reservations. the 1 DIL I assumed was going to have her parents or sister babysit the baby, 6 months old..yikes we are meeting for drinks and then were going to have dinner around 7-7:30..she wants to bring the baby!!!
I emailed her to see if she was still going to bring baby as it would decide where we are going to eat..I think she's miffed because she said she doesn't see why bringing the baby would alter my choice of restaurants..HELLO...I don't want other people glaring at us if the munchkin get fussy..hubbie says if she shows up with the baby we are going to McDonalds...lol
Her parents & sister are always willing to babysit...should I just grit my teeth and grin & bear it...maybe I'll fein illnes and stay home
It's her prerogative if she wants to bring the baby because then she will take care of the baby appropriately. It is not her prerogative to assume someone will babysit before it's been agreed.
I love my grandbaby but I don't think this is the time or place for baby to come with us
It's her prerogative if she wants to bring the baby because then she will take care of the baby appropriately. It is not her prerogative to assume someone will babysit before it's been agreed.
[quote=Aylalou;7321628]It's her prerogative if she wants to bring the baby because then she will take care of the baby appropriately. It is not her prerogative to assume someone will babysit before it's been agreed.
Ah very true but this started out as an ADULT night out for 8 adults..she could have declined..lord knows I sure did when my were wee ones and I didn't feel it was appropiate for them to be somewhere..we are meeting at a BAR @ 6 for cocktails first..sorry but don't think a BAR is a place for a baby
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. Have a couple drinks, enjoy your night out, and be glad that you won't be the one to have to eat a cold dinner if the baby needs to be fed.
