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03-31-2011, 09:15 PM
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Location: HOllywood
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Does the perfect family with the white picket fence exist or has it ever existed?
Hello to all!!
I am just wondering has the perfect white picket fence family ever existed or does it exist now, today?
If so please tell me. Please tell me some examples you know of.
Does the perfect family with mom and dad who love each other deeply and their children exist? Does the perfect family exist free of such abuses as:
alcoholism,
drug addiction,
adultery,
battery,
molestation,
etc.
Do you know of such that exists free from the evils of society?
Free from any horrible deaths (such as mother dying while child young, etc.).
It just seems that something is so perfect and then all the sudden something so horrible happens and shatters it. Is this a hard reality that I am now facing about life? That the perfect white picket fence family never existed and never will.
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03-31-2011, 09:58 PM
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Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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If Leave it to Beaver truly mirrored real life as it was back then, here's what the character descriptions might look like:
Ward Cleaver: Alcoholic, workaholic, beats his sons with a belt. Bones his secretary on the side. His country club won't allow minorities or Jews to be members. The neighborhood where he bought his home is deed-restricted to white Anglo-Saxon protestant homeowners only. Drives drunk.
June Cleaver: Pops prescription Nembutal (see Mother's Little Helper by the Rolling Stones), and has an unlimited refills script for amphetamine-based diet pills. Her woman's club membership restrictions mirror her husband's country club. Drives high.
Wally Cleaver: Pretends to like girls because of what he faces from family, friends, church and community if he were to be outed.
Beaver Cleaver: As the baby of the family, he's spoiled rotten. Wally resents him and makes his life as miserable as he can. Beaver has been regularly sexually abused by his pastor and little league coach since he was 5, but is afraid to say anything lest his abusers carry out their threats of killing his parents.
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03-31-2011, 10:16 PM
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The most dysfunctional families that I know of compare then selves to that Norman Rockwell ideal.
There is usually a dark undercurrent of something going on there.
The happiest families that I know of compare their lives to indie movies and Mayberry. Leave It to Beaver and Norman Rockwell are thought of with tongue firmly in cheek, if at all.
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03-31-2011, 10:16 PM
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Sure, not every home consists of what you've mentioned. I like to think I have a nearly perfect family our fence is just brown not white 
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03-31-2011, 11:02 PM
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I have never seen a 'perfect' family. Every family has some issues they deal with. The only question is frequency and how they handle it. I think the happiest couples/families don't allow life's bumps in the road to define them. They accept that life isn't perfect and that sometimes even solutions are imperfect at best. They keep things moving forward no matter what and realize that just because life isn't perfect doesn't mean it isn't beautiful and meaningful.
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04-01-2011, 12:06 AM
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Location: The Bay and Maryland
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When I was growing up, my family was pretty perfect. My parents were married and loved my brother, sister and I. My parents never fought or cheated on each other and they were both highly intelligent, hard-working college educated professionals and they didn't drink, smoke or do drugs.
However, my family didn't always have the white picket fence. We started out with a rusty chain link fence and thick steel bars on the windows and doors. When I was a kid, we lived in the middle of the ghetto in San Francisco. But as crazy as it may seem, my siblings and I didn't even know that we lived in the ghetto when we were kids and we were old enough to know at age 10-12 that we lived in a dangerous high crime area. We couldn't play in the streets let alone even walk down the block when I was growing up because we literally lived only a few feet away from one of the epicenters of open air dealing of hard drugs like crack and heroin, homicides and armed robberies with wild pitbulls with a taste for blood roaming the streets in San Francisco in the 80's and early 90's. There was a ghetto bulletproof liquor store at the end of our block where thugs from the projects a block away used to get drunk and loiter in front of day and night. I remember asking my mother "Why can't I go to the liquor store?" at eight years old. My mother lied to me and said it was the "licorice store" and it wasn't a place for kids; this reasoning made no sense. This is a detailed article about the rough place we called "home":
OCEAN VIEW / Neighborhood reclaims its mean streets - SFGate
But honestly, even though we lived right in the middle of one of the most dangerous inner city neighborhoods on the West Coast, my family was happy and normal. We were cautious of our neighborhood and not really scared of it. Other than junkies breaking into my father's car and stealing an expensive camera from the trunk on one occasion, nobody ever bothered us. The fact that our family foundation was so strong and sturdy made the ghetto warzone outside of our front door almost nonexistent.
Once my father completed his post-graduate education and got a great job offer on the other side of the country, my family relocated to the suburbs on the East Coast. The transition between the inner city and the cozy upscale white picket fence suburbs of Maryland wasn't a tough adjustment because I had a happy normal middle class upbringing even though we were raised in the hood. I get pissed off when outsiders think my family has always had the picket fence though because those same folks would not dare step foot in the ghetto that we used to live in when it was bad like it was when we were there.
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04-01-2011, 09:39 AM
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Location: El Paso, TX
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Quote:
Originally Posted by mading6
Hello to all!!
I am just wondering has the perfect white picket fence family ever existed or does it exist now, today?
If so please tell me. Please tell me some examples you know of.
Does the perfect family with mom and dad who love each other deeply and their children exist? Does the perfect family exist free of such abuses as:
alcoholism,
drug addiction,
adultery,
battery,
molestation,
etc.
Do you know of such that exists free from the evils of society?
Free from any horrible deaths (such as mother dying while child young, etc.).
It just seems that something is so perfect and then all the sudden something so horrible happens and shatters it. Is this a hard reality that I am now facing about life? That the perfect white picket fence family never existed and never will.
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If you mean perfect family with no problems, no I do not they exist or ever existed. To me a happy family is more like it. You can even have a happy family that had to deal with some of those types of problems.
A happy family can be happy and suddenly they deal with such issues but later they resolve them and stay happy. Why? Because there may be love, honesty, commitment, care, etc. Those things help families deal with the storms.
Some families never dealt with loosing a child or a parent dying young when the children are young. In that sense those families may exist.
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04-01-2011, 09:55 AM
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Location: 30% Brighton--60% Grand Rapids 10% on the road
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Quote:
Originally Posted by mading6
Hello to all!!
I am just wondering has the perfect white picket fence family ever existed or does it exist now, today?
If so please tell me. Please tell me some examples you know of.
Does the perfect family with mom and dad who love each other deeply and their children exist? Does the perfect family exist free of such abuses as:
alcoholism,
drug addiction,
adultery,
battery,
molestation,
etc.
Do you know of such that exists free from the evils of society?
Free from any horrible deaths (such as mother dying while child young, etc.).
It just seems that something is so perfect and then all the sudden something so horrible happens and shatters it. Is this a hard reality that I am now facing about life? That the perfect white picket fence family never existed and never will.
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It's in FORECLOSURE... |
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04-01-2011, 10:19 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by mading6
Hello to all!!
I am just wondering has the perfect white picket fence family ever existed or does it exist now, today?
If so please tell me. Please tell me some examples you know of.
Does the perfect family with mom and dad who love each other deeply and their children exist? Does the perfect family exist free of such abuses as:
alcoholism,
drug addiction,
adultery,
battery,
molestation,
etc.
Do you know of such that exists free from the evils of society?
Free from any horrible deaths (such as mother dying while child young, etc.).
It just seems that something is so perfect and then all the sudden something so horrible happens and shatters it. Is this a hard reality that I am now facing about life? That the perfect white picket fence family never existed and never will.
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Where you live do most of the kids have a father who is prison and a mother who smokes crack ? Are you from the projects or the trailer parks ? |
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04-01-2011, 10:50 AM
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Location: Austin
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Finding a perfect family is as common as finding Prince Charming. Fairy tales are for kids. I know some wonderful, loving families, but all have had difficulties along the way because families are made up of imperfect people.
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