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It seems to me you just can't please some people, anyone experienced grief when they were just trying to be polite? I was raised to say 'mam' and at 23 I appreciate it when others call me mam, but people in their 40s and even 50s seem to take offense to it some times, like you're saying they're old or something. 'Miss' seems to go over better with them. My husband and I both say 'not a problem' or 'anytime' instead of 'your welcome' sometimes which doesn't go over well either with some people. My husband said he heard someone respond to this 'so if it was a problem you wouldn't do it?' Other times women take offense to having the door held, I appreciate this and find it goes with both sexes, it is not implying you are incapable of opening a door, it is just a nice gesture. What is the deal? What manners do you mind?
It seems to me you just can't please some people, anyone experienced grief when they were just trying to be polite? I was raised to say 'mam' and at 23 I appreciate it when others call me mam, but people in their 40s and even 50s seem to take offense to it some times, like you're saying they're old or something. 'Miss' seems to go over better with them. My husband and I both say 'not a problem' or 'anytime' instead of 'your welcome' sometimes which doesn't go over well either with some people. My husband said he heard someone respond to this 'so if it was a problem you wouldn't do it?' Other times women take offense to having the door held, I appreciate this and find it goes with both sexes, it is not implying you are incapable of opening a door, it is just a nice gesture. What is the deal? What manners do you mind?
I never had any problem with anyone who had manners and am not offended by any shown.
I don't know if this qualifies but I moved from Key West to Chicago (don't live there now) and I found that it was often like speaking an entirely different language to people. I found that many people were quite brusque. I would often think that they were being quite rude when they thought that they were being polite.
It seems to me you just can't please some people, anyone experienced grief when they were just trying to be polite? I was raised to say 'mam' and at 23 I appreciate it when others call me mam, but people in their 40s and even 50s seem to take offense to it some times, like you're saying they're old or something. 'Miss' seems to go over better with them. My husband and I both say 'not a problem' or 'anytime' instead of 'your welcome' sometimes which doesn't go over well either with some people. My husband said he heard someone respond to this 'so if it was a problem you wouldn't do it?' Other times women take offense to having the door held, I appreciate this and find it goes with both sexes, it is not implying you are incapable of opening a door, it is just a nice gesture. What is the deal? What manners do you mind?
I remember I had a sexual harrasment course at a plant I used to work at. They told us not to open doors for women, because it was demeaning, and pointed out that they were women.
I feel this kind of attitude is totally ridculous.
The ma'am thing I've seen before to. Some women just don't want to be called ma'am, I'm guessing because it makes them feel old. However, I call most women ma'am, I've even caught myself calling my neices ma'am on occasion.
To much political correctness in the world for me right now.
Well that's good. Yea it is strange how somethings are a compliment and meant to be nice in some places but seen as rude in others. I remember a Hispanic lady telling me how strange it was that women in America take such offense when Hispanic men say something to them, like 'oohhh hola senorita!' and whistle or something when in Mexico, women smile to this, and here, typically we get angry (I admit I think it is inappropriate). Last time I was on the highway a Hispanic guy started blowing kisses to me through the window so I blew them back for sh*#s and giggles, lol. My sister said I shouldn't be encouraging cr*p like that though. I guess she has a point.
I remember I had a sexual harrasment course at a plant I used to work at. They told us not to open doors for women, because it was demeaning, and pointed out that they were women.
I feel this kind of attitude is totally ridculous.
The ma'am thing I've seen before to. Some women just don't want to be called ma'am, I'm guessing because it makes them feel old. However, I call most women ma'am, I've even caught myself calling my neices ma'am on occasion.
To much political correctness in the world for me right now.
It seems to me you just can't please some people, anyone experienced grief when they were just trying to be polite? I was raised to say 'mam' and at 23 I appreciate it when others call me mam, but people in their 40s and even 50s seem to take offense to it some times, like you're saying they're old or something. 'Miss' seems to go over better with them. My husband and I both say 'not a problem' or 'anytime' instead of 'your welcome' sometimes which doesn't go over well either with some people. My husband said he heard someone respond to this 'so if it was a problem you wouldn't do it?' Other times women take offense to having the door held, I appreciate this and find it goes with both sexes, it is not implying you are incapable of opening a door, it is just a nice gesture. What is the deal? What manners do you mind?
I'll hold the door open for men or women. Makes no difference to me. It just seems like the courteous thing to do.
That said, some people just want to have something to be mad about. And they'll always find it.
They told us not to open doors for women, because it was demeaning
I think you should hold doors for anyone because it's polite. I do it for both men and women. Some people are going to take offense at anything, but that's not a good reason to stop being kind and respectful.
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