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Old 04-05-2012, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Why do people fear (and resist) change?...For starters I think we may have unconscious and deep-seated fears about becoming "extinct." Will we cease to exist if we give-up all that we "are" and all that we've "been" and "known?"...How can I admit that I might be wrong about beliefs that I've cherished and "held onto" all through my life? How can I question my culture and lifestyle?...If I find out that I was wrong about everything then what? Doesn't this make me appear "stupid?" And "who will I be" if I let-go of everything that I've held "near and dear" all through my life?...Do I have the ability to start over from "scratch" and form a brand new identity?...What will my friends and family members say when I tell them I'm not the "same" anymore? Will I be criticized or "shunned" for daring to step outside the "box" and "group-think?"... Will everyone tell me that I'm "crazy?" Will I have any support or understanding? Or will I have to go through a "void" and "go it alone" until I find people who share my new beliefs and views about life?...What are your thoughts about all of this? Why do you think people fear (and resist) change? Thanks!
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Old 04-05-2012, 10:27 AM
 
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I think you asked the wrong question. People fear change because they fear the unknown.

Your question, after reading all your viewpoints, should be "How can I be honest with myself about what I believe?" Or, "which is the most important, being honest with myself, or telling others what I think they want to hear?"

Do you fear honesty?
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Old 04-05-2012, 11:18 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Padgett22..I ask myself some pretty tough questions at times. Guess you could call it "confronting myself!"...If I say I want and hope to make some changes in my life but I don't see myself "doing much" about it I want to know "why!"...What are some of my hidden fears? I agree that we usually fear the "unknown." But what else might be going-on that needs to be "uncovered" and brought-up to the "surface?"...I've been more of a loner throughout my life. So I'm not entrenched in "groups." And don't have family all around me (to consider) like some people do...It's no "big-deal" if I decide to change my beliefs or pick-up and move to a new area etc..But I'm human and I still have fears to examine when I decide to make major changes in my life..What do I fear and "why?"
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Old 04-05-2012, 12:12 PM
 
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..But I'm human and I still have fears to examine when I decide to make major changes in my life..What do I fear and "why?"
The "why" is an easy one to answer. It's because you are human and you fear the thing that most of us fear......that of making a mistake.

We never know ahead of time what the "mistake" will be, but we dread it. Maybe it will be a terrible big one....and one that we can't go back and undo. Even if it's a small, unavoidable one, we won't like it and we will wish that we had done something differently...or not at all.

It's Human Nature to worry about making a big mistake. But don't let Worry always govern your life.

You know the old saying,...either p___ or get off the pot...? Think about it. Do Something. Even if it's wrong, it will be an action.

In my opinion, which may suit only me, I'd rather be wrong than just lock myself in my personal ego closet and do nothing.
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Old 04-05-2012, 01:10 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Padgett2...I agree with what you wrote. I don't think it's really good or healthy to keep ourselves "stuck in limbo" for long periods of time. It can really wear us down and zap the "life" out of us!...I think we can get stuck in the "yes but" game where we name a million excuses about why we can't make changes in our life. And all of our energy is "wasted" on defending our excuses versus trying to find solutions to our probems. (So we can make the changes "happen" and create a new reality for ourselves.).. Thanks for your input and the discussion.
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:04 PM
 
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There is nothing more characteristic of human nature than its resistence to change. There is a strong preference to the familiar; and old habits, however bad, are hard to break - they persist in the face of perversity. Jefferson observed in the Declaration of Independence that mankind was more disposed to suffer evil than abolish its accustomed forms. But to change requires more than just independence of mind or spirit, it requires courage; for there is no action that is more deliberate or more daring.
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Old 04-06-2012, 10:03 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Sometimes we realize that we need to make some changes in ourselves or in our lives. (For various reasons.) But this is just the "first step."...It might take quite awhile to actually put out any effort towards making the changes. Have you noticed this? This is where our fears may step-in and block and "paralyze us" for awhile...Denial can set-in too. We might try to convince ourselves that things "really aren't so bad." Or we may tell ourselves that we're "okay the way we are" etc...There have been times in my life where I "put-off" or procrastinated about making changes. Then "fate" stepped-in and created some "turmoil" and unexpected events in my life. And I literally got "pushed" into making the very changes I'd been resisting for so long...Has this ever happened to you?
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Old 04-06-2012, 10:59 PM
 
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People who are confortable with their lifes always dislike chnage really. Why would they want to chnage what they like and are confortable with. At the same times mnay who are successful are open to business change and ideas. Mostly it those who are unconfortable who want chnage hoping it changes their lifes some how. At least that is my experience at 64 .
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Old 04-08-2012, 10:13 PM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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No one fears change..we are in a state of change every second of the day- It's normal. We do resent and fear being forced to change into something that we know is not good for us...we are told that we can not discriminate about what is good for us and what is not. If the so-called "change" involves losing my freedom...then you can keep that change.....and change for change sake is called politics...utterly a useless change for no good reason.
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Old 04-09-2012, 04:17 PM
 
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People change if they want to change. Most people value tradition. Like I do. I really hate change. I only get out of my comfort zone if it's for something I absolutely have to do to get to a place I want to be. Just like my career. It's going to change my life and take me away from everything and everyone I know to another place. I'm absolutely prepared for it because I want the change. But as for other areas of my life, I'm totally traditional and don't want it any other way.
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