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Irene Vilar worries that her self-described "abortion addiction" will be misunderstood, twisted by the pro-life movement to deny women the right to choose.
Her book, "Impossible Motherhood," which will be released by Other Press on Oct. 6, chronicles her own dark choices: 15 abortions in 16 years, much of it as a married woman.
It doesn't sound like "abortion addiction", but stupidity and lack of responsibility. That is really sickening. If she doesn't want children, get her tubes tied instead of killing baby after baby that doesn't ask to be conceived and then aborted.
No offense but I have no sympathy. In a society where contraception is so prevalent and obtainable, these women should know better. I see no victim here other than the fetuses that had to exist to appease these women's vanity.
This does not belong in parenting. It belongs in debates or mental health. Despite the concept raised about society being obsessed with motherhood and at the same time pressuring women to be professional and sexy and not motherly, this is more about this woman's psychological illness - suicidal ideation, self-injury, and likely a host of other things like depression.
I certainly hope she is receiving continuing psychiatric treatment. From the article she sounds like she was walking the edge between sanity and insanity for a long time.
"But by her very admission, she is a psychologically disturbed woman."
I read the three pages of the article. Some things really stood out that she said & show an amazing ability to twist things to fit her need & the need to BLAME "But Vilar blames much of her poor choices..."
Also seems odd that she is worried about her safety,being labeled & it effecting her children....yet she has written a book, gone on closed book tours, and allowed her picture to be on the website with this article...
As Lisdol wrote, this is a mental health issue, not a parenting issue.
As gore as this article may sound, I applaud the environment in North America where anything and everything can be talked about. Not many countries in the world would have women willing to go public with such confessions. And if there were such women, no publishing house would do that. Some things taboo are still taboo in other countries.
How could it help other women? Just the way any other mental issue, formerly taboo, would help. It wasn't very long ago that depression started to be talked about by the sufferers (Tipper Gore), or anorexia.
Abortion used to the 'birth control method' of choice in the Soviet Union.
I remember reading about this and being horrified but it was a matter of course for them.
I don't know how someone could have REPEATED abortions. Get some condoms or some other form of b/c or just freaking stop having sex. She's Puerto Rican? Is she Catholic too??
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