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Trust is key, absolutely!
We now live in a society where women such as myself feel the need to take these measures because of the various dangers we face. I would say half of men got very agitated about background checks and the other half were perfectly fine with it. I also offered my background check to be fair.
See the thing is, I don't think we live in a society that's more dangerous than ever. Yes, there's more crime on tv, and yes, we're most certainly more afraid, but has it really gotten more dangerous?
You got to wonder, when some "locals" adviced me not to go to certain neighbourhoods of Dallas, TX because "They sell drugs there at night". What could possibly be so dangerous about that? What's the one thing a drug dealer won't attract?
I'll be the first to say that I think abuse of women is a massive problem and one that needs to be taken very seriously, but I also think the increased focus on it in the last 20 years is a sign that things are happening, not that they're getting worse. There are (at least where I live) massive programs being set in place and a huge focus put on stopping crime against women (abuse of any sort) and the results have been staggering, and it's only just started.
My point is really just this: I really don't think women have been safer at any point in history, but media saturation and increased focus, including (possibly) rising statistics because more crime is reported, gives a scewed view of reality.
Use your instincts, your gut feeling and if something's off, walk away. I'm pretty sure you'll end up scaring off a lot of good men with something like that. And when it comes to spousal abusers, a fair amount of them won't have a record anyway, and as such it might provide a false sense of security.
Anywho, that's my opinion.
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Originally Posted by 007.5
REPLY: With 1 in 4 women being sexually assaulted sometime during their life (not including physical abuse / severe emotional abuse)...I commend any woman for doing a thorough background check on a man . It is getting increasingly dangerous to be a female in an out of control sex saturated society where boys/young men are being daily groomed to exploit women .
Actually it's getting safer, there's just far more media attention to it, which primarily is a good thing, the downside is that it spreads a lot of unfounded fear.
I'd like to know the definition of sexual assault used with those numbers because it's a vague term, but if you honestly think that women are more sexually abused now than they were in the past, you are sorely mistaken.
Use your instincts, your gut feeling and if something's off, walk away. I'm pretty sure you'll end up scaring off a lot of good men with something like that. And when it comes to spousal abusers, a fair amount of them won't have a record anyway, and as such it might provide a false sense of security.
I'm married but I scared off the jerks with this when I dated. A nice guy understood why I felt this way. It used to be you could meet someone and you could easily figure out the guy's background (his family, where he worked, etc.) because our population was smaller then. Now folks are moving across the country to look for better opportunities in education and employment so its more difficult to meet his family.
Why consunsual sex is considered immoral? What two or more people do with or to each other that does not result in hospital bills is only relevant to the people involved. Why such a fuss?
Very simple . :
1. It is immoral because the Creator said it is absolutely wrong to do ; not because some lust filled people say it isnt .
2. It affects MORE than just the couple ; sexual immorality affects other individuals much of the time and certainly a nation as a whole . When moral degradation runs rampant, then an entire nation feels the after-effects.
3. Sexual hedonism leads to 4,400 per day developing Americans while in the womb being terminated by having their bodies sucked into a nearby sink while 'mom' sits patiently by so she can continue with her sexually immoral escapades that coming weekend. Its wrong , always wrong, to kill a human being regardless of the size and location.
4. It scars the people involved because there isnt a lifetlong love commitment and it soon ends once one or both find another set of genitals for a new titilating adventure.
5. It causes 33 current STD's of which some are deadly like HIV and HPV , some lead to cervical cancer, most are permanent, and condoms dont stop all of them . Many people have died from STD's.
6. There is emotional damage resulting from sexual immorality such as the repercussions from being used, being lied to, and from the sharing of one anothers very Soul because its not just a physical act.
7. Because it violates the Creators moral mandate, then there is no emotional protection available when its committed. It harms a persons spiritual relationship with God as well , and often makes the person (usually the women) feel cheap after the other walks out.
8 . The Participants know full well its wrong, but they are willing to suppress their knowledge of it being wrong for a few minutes of using another for a mere copulation. Thus, it is self deciet .
9. For those that do get pregnant and have thier child, its too easy for 'dad' the sperm donor , to abandon all responsibility so oftentimes the child grows up without a father around . The best chance for a childs emotional wellbeing, is to have BOTH parents living in the same household .
10 . It increases the propensity toward other sexual perversion from being out of control , and, pretending there is no God so one can live as he/she likes.
So please, dont come up with the mantra that 'so long as nobody gets hurt, we can do whatever we feel like doing' because that is just a scapegoat excuse to live irresponsibly endangering yourself and other sexual participants . Live for God and have no worries about the above ; do your own thing in life and watch the devastation that you eventually recieve. Regards.
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The wise wait. The not so wise oftentimes end up getting one of over 33 circulating STD's of which many have died from or they have them for the rest of thier life as a sad reminder. Stop paying attention to the highly immoral sexualized culture we live in, because, it doesnt care about what happens to you. Millions have found that out the hard way.
I wanted to get off the immigration and such for awhile.
So here it goes, my daughter is 19-20 in December-and is still a virgin. Now the debate is did I pound into her too much that it is the one thing that boys want after a date or its because it is the only thing you can truely give your husband that noone else has. I don't know if I have done right by her, she has yet to keep a boyfriend over 6 months. I know she is young, but I was married by her age.
Opinions do matter here.
Your daughter should wait for marriage.Period.
More about read here:
The Importance of Human Virginity in the Bible (http://leonidasconstable.org/theimportanceofhumanvirginityinthebible.aspx - broken link)
Would that be your creator 007.5, and why should I listen to him?
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