Does Anyone in Their 20's-30's NOT Have Kids?!? (crimes, home)

[ga2email]

Originally Posted by dezyssi

My husband and I are in our late 20's with no children so please included us in this question =). We will be moving from Yosemite National Park to the Greenville area at the end of the year and we are curious to get someones perspective who is close to our age range. We picked Greenville because of the location and would like to get some insider advice on the city and surrounding areas. We love to camp and hike and feel that we are quite spontanteous as well. Do you feel that Greenville offers a suitable atmosphere for these activities? What is the best and worst things about the area? Any help is greatly appreciated and we wish you luck on finding other couples/people out there. Thanks

the camping and hiking here can't compare to the hiking and camping in Yosemite. It's nice though in my opinion. People tend to have kids here young. They are big on family values around here, but it's not a bad thing.

[Sonrise]

Originally Posted by Skyliner

Money cannot purchase the immeasurable pleasure of a sincerely close-knit family. Money can, however, destroy the family relationship. The bond and growth of a family offers many unique opportunities to develop humility and selflessness - character traits that temporal wealth rarely affords its beneficiaries.

Man, if i didn't know better that sounded like a Proverb. lol

[Sonrise]

Originally Posted by BulldogFred

You hit the nail on the head. It seems as though anytime we meet someone they'll ask if we have kids and when we say no it's all about when are we going to have them or why haven't we had them yet. As though life is not complete without kids. We've only been married almost 2 years now (anniversary later this month) and are still young and enjoying life. We might have kids later, we might not...but I agree that just because their decision was to have kids was best for them it doesn't mean that our decision not to have kids is worst for us. Our pets are our kids at this stage in the game (actually had to get up just a minute ago to separate them b/c the dog was chasing the cat..haha). We just know what we want right now and we're not going to compromise that because everyone else thinks they know what is best for us. Our original intention was to somewhat vent, but mainly to see if there are like-minded people around the area.

As the father of a 20 month old little girl, I can assure you it's not. Mrs. Sonrise and I moved here from Los Angeles (the narcissistic capitol of the country) a little over two years ago. We were in the entertainment industry, where no one had kids, and if they did a nanny raised them because they were too self absorbed to even entertain the notion that there is something more important then themselves.

Having my little girl run into my arms when I come home from work with an ear to ear grin, and the word "Dada" flying out of her mouth with an equal mixture of adulation, joy and contentment is worth more then any education, or materialistic possession in the world. Ten years ago, I mocked those that embraced the two kids and a white picket ideal, now I am one of them and I wouldn't change it for the world.

[dlk33]

Sonrise...
I apprecited reading what you had to say about how important your children are to you! I wish all parents saw it that way!

[kinkytoes]

What? I thought the thread was for ppl who don't have kids... I'm in my thirties and I don't have any!!! Woo hoo. I may be a little chunky now but I think I have avoided some major physical damage because of my decision to use birth control. I decided not to have children because I didn't have the resources to support them. I'm actually pretty scared of childbirth at this point, but I were younger and had gotten pregnant, I wouldn't think twice.

Unf my therapist is talks about her 4 kids non stop. Whoopt dee doo. I'm sure here husband makes a fortune, so what's the big deal. Having a big family would be great..if I could afford it? Sadly housing and education in MD are still too darned expensive.

I expressed no interest in her children, but she continues to go on and on and on about them. I can't wait to leave the office. I suspect that many ppl without kids are too broke to afford them, single or are physically unable to have children. I personally don't want to hear about other people's children. esp not for HOURS.

Give it a break.

(ranting hee hee)

[sois]

Originally Posted by kinkytoes

I suspect that many ppl without kids are too broke to afford them, single or are physically unable to have children.

Um no.
On the contrary, too many people have kids without respect to how much they cost.
Too many people use public schools as a day care.
Too many people have kids for vanity. "Who cares if there are starving kids, the world needs my DNA!"

I'm not broke, single or narrow-urethra'd. 'm part of the solution

[Greenville]

Originally Posted by sois

Um no.
On the contrary, too many people have kids without respect to how much they cost.
Too many people use public schools as a day care.
Too many people have kids for vanity. "Who cares if there are starving kids, the world needs my DNA!"

I'm not broke, single or narrow-urethra'd. 'm part of the solution

I love this!

Many people seem to have kids because "it's the thing to do," and not because they have actually considered whether they, their marriage, their finances, and their interests are in a position to have children. Just because a couple wants to have children, or likes the idea of being parents, does not mean that they are ready. Just my $.02.

[skaternum]

Originally Posted by Sonrise

As the father of a 20 month old little girl, I can assure you it's not. <snip> Ten years ago, I mocked those that embraced the two kids and a white picket ideal, now I am one of them and I wouldn't change it for the world.

Thank you for sharing your own personal experience. But what is true for you is not necessarily true for others. It just isn't, so please stop trying to sound like my former mother-in-law. Not everyone is fulfilled by having children.

ETA: It's sad that this thread has become yet another manifestation of one of the things that caused the OP to post. Those of us without kids are held suspect and accused of not knowing ourselves or being selfish and materialistic. <sigh>

[MT Man]

Originally Posted by skaternum

Thank you for sharing your own personal experience. But what is true for you is not necessarily true for others. It just isn't, so please stop trying to sound like my former mother-in-law. Not everyone is fulfilled by having children.

ETA: It's sad that this thread has become yet another manifestation of one of the things that caused the OP to post. Those of us without kids are held suspect and accused of not knowing ourselves or being selfish and materialistic. <sigh>

Wow, that's deep. I thought the OP was just wondering if there were any cool places around the Greenville area where DINKS tended to hang out?

[shamrocker]

Just as a note, I recently met the OP and his wife and they're great people to hang out with! My wife and I want kids, but it hasn't happened yet. In the meantime, we need to connect with people our age that can stay out past 9 and have more things to talk about than children Like skaternum said, we don't need to be told why it's so great to have kids, just tell us where to find some nice folks to hang out with!