Take one day at a time, you never know what the next day brings

[tngirl205]

To all my fellow CD forum friends who know a little about me and my husband, I wanted to let you know that he passed away last night.

He suffered from COPD & severe emphysema, only 10% lung function. He has struggled with this for the last 6 years. It has been terribly difficult to see him suffer like he has. I am at peace knowing that he is in a better place and free from suffering.

I have anticipated this day for years, but when the time actually came, it came as a shock and I have been feeling all sorts of emotions. I have had non-stop company all day from friends and neighbors, and it has been good for me to be surrounded by supportive people.

I know this may not be appropriate to post his passing, but it reminds me that life is short and you never know what tomorrow brings. If you have a goal, whether in retirement or just life in general, go for it.

If I am not on here for a while, you'll know why. I'll try to get back into the swing of things in a bit.

[Moonlady]

My deepest condolences to you. Good to know you have lots of support....it's a difficult time and your emotions will be all over the place for awhile. I have recommended a book to many of my friends who have lost loved ones. It's called "Don't Take My Grief Away" by Doug Manning. It helped me tremendously when my first husband passed away. Try to find it if you can...or order online. {{{Hugs}}}

[Dollydo]

I am so very sorry for your loss...My Dad always said "Each new day is a gift, treat it as such."

[Weedsnake]

Originally Posted by Moonlady

My deepest condolences to you. Good to know you have lots of support....it's a difficult time and your emotions will be all over the place for awhile. I have recommended a book to many of my friends who have lost loved ones. It's called "Don't Take My Grief Away" by Doug Manning. It helped me tremendously when my first husband passed away. Try to find it if you can...or order online. {{{Hugs}}}

I agree with all the above. My wife of 44 years passed on of pulmonary fibrosis about a year and a half ago. A couple of observations along with my deepest sympathy. Keep your friends close, but reserve alone time. Don't be pressured to make important life altering decisions too soon. The cited book is very good and highly recommended.

[Escort Rider]

Originally Posted by tngirl205

I have anticipated this day for years, but when the time actually came, it came as a shock and I have been feeling all sorts of emotions. I have had non-stop company all day from friends and neighbors, and it has been good for me to be surrounded by supportive people.

I know this may not be appropriate to post his passing, but it reminds me that life is short and you never know what tomorrow brings. If you have a goal, whether in retirement or just life in general, go for it.

If I am not on here for a while, you'll know why. I'll try to get back into the swing of things in a bit.

I believe it is completely appropriate to post your husband's passing here. For us who are of retirement age, the loss of friends and loved ones becomes more common. And I hope you feel surrounded by supportive anonymous people here online just as you felt surrounded by real people in the flesh. Take your time.

[StealthRabbit]

tngirl205

Been following your struggle, and appreciate the news and reflections. Our thoughts, prayers, and condolences are with you and family. Tho I have attended many good friends and family in hospice, losing a spouse or child would be a new and very difficult event.

I'm glad for the 'miles' you had together, and trust for your healing, endurance, and peace through-out the next days, weeks / month's, and years.

Thanks for considering us 'Family' enough to inform. We can all grow through your experience, and are grateful for you sharing with us.

[Huckleberry3911948]

i regret your loss. i attend lots of funerals of late, many younger than me.

[Curmudgeon]

My sincere condolences. I can't even begin to conceive of losing my wife and the empty spot such a loss must leave. I hope yours can be filled with the love of friends, family and the best wishes of others like us.

[Caladium]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers are with you. I'm not good with words, but I hope you feel the love and support being sent your way.

[newenglandgirl]

Dear TnGirl,

My heart is heavy for you, and heavy too for my dear oldest friend who is passing away now. I go to say goodbye to her in about an hour. Life is precious and short, and within this earthly life you and your DH have worked hard. May God bless you as you take the steps into a different life, with the love of family and friends.