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Old 05-10-2012, 09:14 PM
 
Location: the bluegrass state
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Situation: I grew up with their son.. and from day one of knowing their son of course as girls would I had my first crush but as time went on me my family his family all became like honestly one big family and just grew up.. about 3 years ago the father died.. I got married soon after anywho you know most the time when something like that happens people just soon forget someone if their is no real connection their I find myself thinking about that person who passed quiet often .. this may sound like a dumb question but why is this???
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Old 05-10-2012, 11:15 PM
 
Location: Orlando, Florida
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This is a real interesting article you may want to read:
How We Misinterpret Grief | Psychology Today

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Old 05-10-2012, 11:55 PM
 
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Thank you Glory B- good article
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Old 05-11-2012, 01:36 PM
 
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I'd say there WAS a connection there lady_independant....that's why you won't soon, if ever forget....I too, sometimes think of those no longer here....the closer I was to them....the more I remember and think of them.
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Old 05-11-2012, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Somewhere over the rainbow in "OZ "
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It takes time... don't rush it. It's a part of your life...savor the good times and the bad times..it's your memories. Good or Bad... time heals... but time never forgets..
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Old 05-13-2012, 11:30 AM
 
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Even though it was long after the relationship ended, I went to my first boyfriend's father's funeral. He was a good man and a very kind man to me. It really had nothing to do with the boyfriend; the father was just a good person who had been in my life and I also was close to his mom who I had tremendous sympathy for.

He is burried in this hidden cemetary up this hill that overlooks a river and you'd never know it was there and I often visit his gravesite, particularly on father's day.

Some people just leave a significant impact in your life.
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Old 05-14-2012, 09:10 AM
 
Location: Somewhere over the rainbow in "OZ "
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Even though it was long after the relationship ended, I went to my first boyfriend's father's funeral. He was a good man and a very kind man to me. It really had nothing to do with the boyfriend; the father was just a good person who had been in my life and I also was close to his mom who I had tremendous sympathy for.

He is burried in this hidden cemetary up this hill that overlooks a river and you'd never know it was there and I often visit his gravesite, particularly on father's day.

Some people just leave a significant impact in your life.
O'yes !!
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Old 05-14-2012, 09:25 PM
 
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Situation: I grew up with their son.. and from day one of knowing their son of course as girls would I had my first crush but as time went on me my family his family all became like honestly one big family and just grew up.. about 3 years ago the father died.. I got married soon after anywho you know most the time when something like that happens people just soon forget someone if their is no real connection their I find myself thinking about that person who passed quiet often .. this may sound like a dumb question but why is this???
I don't think that "most of the time people soon forget." Nope, I think that most of the time people remember those that were connected in a pleasant way.

For that reason, I think that you are doing what a good many of us would do....remember the good times.
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Old 06-03-2012, 09:19 AM
 
Location: West Michigan
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I don't think that "most of the time people soon forget." Nope, I think that most of the time people remember those that were connected in a pleasant way.

For that reason, I think that you are doing what a good many of us would do....remember the good times.
I agree. I think people perceive not talking about a deceased person as "people soon forget" but that's not true by any stretch of the imagination. It's normal to have memories triggered. Our lives are interwoven with other people and just because someone is gone doesn't mean we're gone too. When we remember someone else, we're also remembering how and who we were when our paths crossed.
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