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Old 06-06-2012, 10:42 AM
Location: chester, UNITED KINGDOM
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hello to all of you out there i would really like to know how you can all stay so calm paintence when you have lost your father in a car crash that you have never met before while your mother was pregnant with you all.

my name is ashton i would like to know if there is any help avaliable out there in the world to anyone who has lost there father in a car crash and your self too.

i am only 20 years old and living with my mother, my mother has told me so much about him but now i really want to start a charity from me to him and to everyone who this has been affected to in the own life to join in this cause, just how will i get this started and running up can anyone please tell me how it just might work please thankyou for your time for reading this.
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Old 06-06-2012, 11:20 AM
Location: Southern New Hampshire
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I lost my father when I was not quite 2 years old so have no conscious memory of him at all. I had two different stepfathers when I was growing up, both of whom were good, decent men, but not having known my biological dad made me romanticize him, especially when I was a teenager -- as in, "Oh, my life would have been so much better if I had grown up with him." The reality is that it likely would not have been much different, certainly not "much better."

I don't mean to minimize what you're going through, but there is no way to change the fact that you never knew your biological father. At some point you have to just accept that and move on. Counseling may help with that.

As for "starting a charity" -- no advice on that, and the cynical part of me is wondering exactly what you're looking for there?
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Old 06-06-2012, 12:16 PM
Location: West Michigan
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I agree with what Karen above is saying. In addition maybe instead of starting a charity you might better find an already established cause that relates to something that was important to your father or to the way he died---get involved with that group in your father's name. For example, if the car crash was alcohol related then a "teens against drunk driving" kind of group would be a good fit for you. If he was a runner, then find a charity sponsored by runners and to donate some time to them. If your father loved animals, donate some time to shelter in his name. Etc., etc.
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