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Old 06-11-2012, 02:01 PM
 
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^^^^ Exactly.. I wore mine for a while but then I took them off. I have his and mine in a heart shaped container. There is no right or wrong answer. You do what is right for you.
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Old 06-11-2012, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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If anything ever happened to my wife, I would continue to wear my ring, and would never remarry, and Im not even 31 years old yet.
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Old 06-11-2012, 02:31 PM
 
Location: San Francisco
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According to the etiquette books, it is perfectly all right to continue wearing your wedding ring for as long as you wish after the death of a spouse. It signals to the world that you still consider yourself married and you are not interested in dating. However if you should feel receptive to meeting a new partner, then you should remove the ring as a signal that you are available.
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Old 06-11-2012, 02:44 PM
 
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Neither of my grandmothers ever removed their rings before their own deaths though their husbands passed decades before they themselves did. Neither of them were interested in remarriage or even entertaining other men.

My father wore his for a couple of years following my mother's death and when he removed it I knew he was dating again. When he died his last wife had moved her ring by the day of the funeral. No doubt she is hunting for very wealthy old men in Vero Beach this very moment.
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Old 06-11-2012, 03:37 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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txyankee....my sympathies.

WW, you always know the right things to say! Will you be my mother for awhile?

No, I don't think anyone here is in denial about their spouse's death. We are just "comparing notes", if you will. I am finding this forum to be a nice place to be, even though we are talking about such a painful subject. You all are helping me heal and I hope I've been of some help/comfort to you all also.
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Old 06-11-2012, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Olympia, WA
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Default Thanks for the replies

Thank you all for your views on this subject. I think most of us will continue to wear our rings. Everyone has to do what they feel is right for them. I agree that my DH's death is all around me.

My sympathies and condolences to each and every one of you that are suffering a loss. I find myself coming to this forum first and, like others, find comfort and support from all of you.

Let's continue to help each other out with anything that is important to us. You'll never know how much you are helping me, and I hope I am doing the same.
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Old 06-16-2012, 06:36 PM
 
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I lost my wife 2.5 weeks ago after a 21 year long marriage - I have ZERO intention of taking my ring off - ever - I've had the most incredible woman in the universe, and I still feel her presence!

Regarding marriage - the marriage vows were written by man - so I've rewritten mine - "till the end of time itself." Period. Don't care if someone else likes it or not. It is a matter of belief. She is still with me, and there will NEVER be anyone for me again but her.

I can't wait until I can join her!
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Old 06-16-2012, 07:02 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I lost my wife 2.5 weeks ago after a 21 year long marriage - I have ZERO intention of taking my ring off - ever - I've had the most incredible woman in the universe, and I still feel her presence!

Regarding marriage - the marriage vows were written by man - so I've rewritten mine - "till the end of time itself." Period. Don't care if someone else likes it or not. It is a matter of belief. She is still with me, and there will NEVER be anyone for me again but her.

I can't wait until I can join her!
My deepest sympathies, lost. OMG, 2 1/2 weeks ago? How fresh and raw your feeling are. I'd suggest reading through some of the threads that you feel pertains to you and when you feel like posting, please, do so. We are all here on the same journey.
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Old 06-17-2012, 09:43 AM
 
Location: WA
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My sympathies, prayers go out to you. As with the Poster above, please Post here or anywhere you feel comfortable.
This Forum, this website, has been a tremendous comfort to me.
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Old 06-17-2012, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Table Rock Lake
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lostwithouther:

My sympathies, prayers go out to you. As with the Poster above, please Post here or anywhere you feel comfortable.
This Forum, this website, has been a tremendous comfort to me.
It has ben four years since my wife went on before me and I still wear my ring remembering she put it on my finger 57 1/2 years ago. I suppose I will wear it until she takes it off!
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