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Old 06-26-2012, 07:17 AM
 
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Barbara sounds like a very good friend. No one knows exactly how you feel, but I'm glad you have someone who's comfortable talking about it.

Go easy on yourself. Hasn't even been 3 years yet. You survived that first year, though, and wrote that this year has been better. You're doing this! Enjoy having your son around, and thanks for sharing your story. Sounds like your husband was a fun guy!
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Old 07-02-2012, 04:57 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Today would have been 38 for us. It's odd, now it's just a date on the calendar. What I missed the most was looking for a special gift/card/letter and actually keeping it secret till the big day. I have to get a certified copy of our marriage certificate to claim some stuff H owned. I guess it's only appropriate I should do it today.
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Old 07-02-2012, 08:26 PM
 
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So far birthday's have been tough. I lost my twin brother and now my birthday is something I have to tough through. I've had two without him so far and they've been days of mourning.
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Old 07-04-2012, 09:57 AM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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So far birthday's have been tough. I lost my twin brother and now my birthday is something I have to tough through. I've had two without him so far and they've been days of mourning.
That sounds difficult Braunwyn, a twin.

July 6 would have been my brother's birthday. He is gone six years now. I will think of him on Friday and still miss him terribly. He was next oldest ahead of me. What's weird are memories, especially from childhood, that only he and I shared. Now there is no one else who remembers certain things.
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Old 07-04-2012, 01:30 PM
 
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That sounds difficult Braunwyn, a twin.

July 6 would have been my brother's birthday. He is gone six years now. I will think of him on Friday and still miss him terribly. He was next oldest ahead of me. What's weird are memories, especially from childhood, that only he and I shared. Now there is no one else who remembers certain things.
I'm sorry for your loss, MQ. Losing a close sibling is like losing a part of yourself.
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Old 07-04-2012, 07:23 PM
 
Location: The heart of Cascadia
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Only close one I've lost is my grandma, I think about her on her birthday but I don't really commemorate the day she died.
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Old 07-04-2012, 07:48 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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This is my first 4th of July alone but remembered how hubby used to sit on the roof and watch and freak people out! LOL. No tears, just happy memories. Tears will probably come when I go to bed. Even they sometimes aren't so much either.
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Old 07-04-2012, 10:00 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss, MQ. Losing a close sibling is like losing a part of yourself.
Thank you, and I am sorry for yours. Yes, there is a special suckiness to losing a sibling that is different from the loss of a parent or a friend. It looks as though one of my sisters will not be here much longer, either. My heart is breaking for my mother at 83 to have to bury another child.
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Old 07-05-2012, 06:08 AM
 
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Thank you, and I am sorry for yours. Yes, there is a special suckiness to losing a sibling that is different from the loss of a parent or a friend. It looks as though one of my sisters will not be here much longer, either. My heart is breaking for my mother at 83 to have to bury another child.
Oh wow. Life can really dish it out. Hugs to you and well wishes to your family.
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Old 07-05-2012, 09:32 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Yay, no tears yesterday.

MQ, I'm so sorry to her that another sibling may go soon. I feel bad for your poor Mom. It's such a shame when folks outlive their children.

Brauwyn, losing a twin must be like losing yourself. I can't imagine the closeness you have lost.
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