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Old 07-09-2012, 05:53 AM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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I was reading about Clark Gable.. whos wife Carole Lomabard was killed in a plane crash during WW2.. both her and Clark had made arrangements to be buried together.. Caroles mother was also killed with her so both Carole and her mum went into wall crypts more or close to each other.... Clark remarried but his wife made sure that when he died in the 60s he was put in the space he had asked for next to Carole... thats fine but then she the new Mrs Gable gets herself put in a tomb to the left hand side of Gable.. I just wondered if this has happend a lot...
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Old 07-09-2012, 08:48 AM
 
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Many families keep married couples together, only including children if they die before marrying. There's no rule about this, though. Everyone gets to choose for themselves, and you should share this decision with more than one person. Otherwise, anything can happen!

Make your wishes known, or you might end up rooming with your MIL for all eternity

Can you imagine how much angst could be avoided if we all just laid it out in proper legal form?
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Old 07-14-2012, 08:49 AM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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When my mother-in-law was dying, she wanted to be cremated, but my SIL balked at the idea, telling her mother that she would rather have a grave to visit (I thought this was completely selfish but it wasn't my conversation to have.) So, finally my MIL said, OK, bury me, but just whatever you do, don't bury me next to your father! He's in NJ and she's in Florida, so that part worked out well, but now I wonder, 21 years later, if the sister-in-law even ever visits the grave anyway. She moved to a different part of the state years ago and is probably 5 hours away.
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Old 07-14-2012, 09:01 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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I just found out that even if you are cremated, you can be buried in a grave. Your MIL could have had both wishes done.
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Old 07-14-2012, 11:18 AM
 
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I just found out that even if you are cremated, you can be buried in a grave. Your MIL could have had both wishes done.
----" JUST FOUND OUT "...

what caused you to believe otherwise ?
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Old 07-14-2012, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Well... I didn't always know that. Why should everyone be expected to know everything all of the time?
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Old 07-14-2012, 03:28 PM
 
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When my mother-in-law was dying, she wanted to be cremated, but my SIL balked at the idea, telling her mother that she would rather have a grave to visit (I thought this was completely selfish but it wasn't my conversation to have.) So, finally my MIL said, OK, bury me, but just whatever you do, don't bury me next to your father! He's in NJ and she's in Florida, so that part worked out well, but now I wonder, 21 years later, if the sister-in-law even ever visits the grave anyway. She moved to a different part of the state years ago and is probably 5 hours away.
Can't you have a grave even when cremated? I had an uncle who wished to be cremated and his family respected his wish after his death. His ashes were then buried in his wife's grave, who had died a few years before.

EDIT: Sorry, just read the above posts, but anyway.
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Old 07-14-2012, 07:27 PM
 
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It's also possible to have the urn with the ashes placed above the casket in the first grave. The headstone would then have to be redone. I think it's a great idea, especially when space may be at a premium.
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Old 07-14-2012, 07:43 PM
 
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At my church's cemetery, purchasing one grave site allows you to have 2 cremation burials or 1 cremation and 1 vault burial per lot.

Two vault burials require two lots.
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Old 07-15-2012, 01:25 AM
 
Location: 900 miles from my home in 80814
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My parents bought a double headstone in a church cemetary in Connecticut because they thought that's where they'd live until they died. They were in their 40's at the time. My mom died unexpectedly a couple of years later, and my dad buried her in their plot. A few years later, my dad remarried, and his company moved their entire corporate headquarters from NYC to Denver. When my dad died, he and my step-mom were cremated and their ashes scattered in the mountains as they had asked. The headstone in CT has my mom's information on it, but the other half is empty.

My dh wanted his ashes scattered in the mountains after he died, but when I got the urn from the mortuary, the lid was glued shut and I couldn't open it, so I didn't honor his wishes. After bringing his urn to AZ, the lid came loose, and I could scatter his ashes, but I don't know how I'd get the ashes back to CO unless I drove there, but that seems like a long way to go to scatter ashes and come right back to AZ....I want my ashes scattered in the channel between Maui and the Big Island off the rocks at Kaupo (it's in my will)...wonder if dh would want to go with me? :-)
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