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Old 07-22-2012, 12:54 AM
 
Location: 900 miles from my home in 80814
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I have been following your story and I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I believe your mother knew you loved her, and now that she's gone, she sees the beauty and love in your heart. She will always be with you, loving you, guiding you. Bob will probably die a lonely, bitter old man. There is such a thing as karma...
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Old 07-22-2012, 01:44 AM
 
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My god that's horrible.

I thought that immediate family is legally allowed to visit and they can't keep you away though?
Yes thats what i thought also!!!!!!

Wow,i am so sorry for your loss ..... THIS IS HORRIBLE


Peace and love to you my friend
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Old 07-22-2012, 08:29 AM
 
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Ulysses, I am so sorry it ended this way. Hopefully compassion will prevail at your mother's services. May you find comfort knowing you did all you could to reach your mom. I am convinced she knows now, too.
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Old 07-22-2012, 10:55 PM
 
Location: Ostend,Belgium....
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sorry for your loss, it's sad the living are left "holding to the bag" so to speak...but that can't be changed, I hope you find some peace in this "rollercoaster of emotions" time in your life
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Old 07-23-2012, 08:26 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Ulysses, I am so sorry for your loss. Like I said before, Mom knows now. She will be waiting for you at the end of The Light.
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Old 07-23-2012, 12:22 PM
 
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My mother died this morning at 2:15 am, so the question is now moot. She was in a coma the last 4 days and recognized no one. So this has made her passing "easier" (heavy quotations!) for me. I did not see her and Bob made it plain to my brother, who was present the last 7 days, that I was unwelcome.

It is what it is. I will write my mother a heartfelt letter and go to the funeral home before the services and place it in her casket.

I guess in a perfect world "it takes two to maintain a conflict." I emphatically dissent. Did Poland want a conflict with Germany in 1939? Did the US seek war with Japan in 1941? Did Holland want war with Germany in 1940?

The answer to all of these questions is a simple "no." War can be brought to bear on an innocent victim.

In my world, the last 21 years I was always polite to this miserable old bastard and he fought me tooth and nail. When you're up against a psychopath, you're not going to win.
I'm sorry, Ulysses. I wish you could have seen your mother before she died. At least you no longer have to deal with that man and your mother is also free (she may have just as much wanted to get to you and wasn't allowed). I'm sure she knew/knows how much you love her and that you fought to see her. You showed her your love by being there when you were allowed to be.
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Old 07-23-2012, 02:42 PM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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Ulysses: we ALL are so sorry this happened to you. Please be sure we meant no harm with our comments. We truly wish you peace now that this has come to pass.
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Old 07-23-2012, 03:14 PM
 
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My heart goes out to you, Ulysses. Take good care of yourself.
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Old 07-23-2012, 10:03 PM
 
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My mother died this morning at 2:15 am, so the question is now moot. She was in a coma the last 4 days and recognized no one. So this has made her passing "easier" (heavy quotations!) for me. I did not see her and Bob made it plain to my brother, who was present the last 7 days, that I was unwelcome.

It is what it is. I will write my mother a heartfelt letter and go to the funeral home before the services and place it in her casket.

I guess in a perfect world "it takes two to maintain a conflict." I emphatically dissent. Did Poland want a conflict with Germany in 1939? Did the US seek war with Japan in 1941? Did Holland want war with Germany in 1940?

The answer to all of these questions is a simple "no." War can be brought to bear on an innocent victim.

In my world, the last 21 years I was always polite to this miserable old bastard and he fought me tooth and nail. When you're up against a psychopath, you're not going to win.

I'm very sorry you had to endure this from people who are supposed to be "family." I can relate as I had a similar experience with a sibling. Your letter to your mother is exactly what I would have done. If there is a silver lining to this tragedy, it's that you won't ever have see that rat-bastard (sorry) ever again. I will never understand what makes people so hateful and vicious. Be well. Take time to heal and know that your mother loved you very much.
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Old 07-24-2012, 01:07 AM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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I doubt it, there's all kinds of elderly creeps out there that want daughters and sons out of the way so they can manipulate estates and wills to their advantage.
And vice versa!

My sister was the favored, pampered princess in my family, and after decades, I'm wondering if the resentment will ever, ever go away!!!

The other family members not running interference? Hmmm..........
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