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Old 03-13-2013, 02:08 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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Sorry for your loss, nicoleg.
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Old 03-14-2013, 05:49 PM
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I know what you mean. My father passed away in August and I still can't believe he's gone. I tear up at the slightest thought of him; even the title of your post got to me. It's so hard losing a parent. (((HUGS))) to you.
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Old 03-14-2013, 10:31 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I know what you mean. My father passed away in August and I still can't believe he's gone. I tear up at the slightest thought of him; even the title of your post got to me. It's so hard losing a parent. (((HUGS))) to you.
It will get better, GPC but you will always cry for your mother. My mom once in a while cried for my Nana even though Nana had been dead 30 years. It's been 19 years for Mom and 9 years for Dad now and though it's not an everyday/minute thing like it used to be, I still will start to cry occasionally over both of them. Parent, child, spouse....that love and sadness will never disappear. Just calms down and you learn to live with it.

Peace.
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Old 03-15-2013, 11:43 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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I feel for all of you!! I losses my dad 8 months ago. He was very active, healthy and me and my familys Rock!! Valentines day 2012 they told me and him in an office not so expected, that he had cancer. Multiple myeloma and he needed to immediately be transported from ambulance to emergency surgery 60 miles away to remove one if the bigger tumors growing in and around his spine! In utter shock I was speechless, looked at my dad, he smirked and shes a slight rear as he said, " so, kiddo change of plans huh?".. Shopping was out! "sorry u had to hear that honey, ... No one lives forever"
After surgery, countless chemo & radiation, he lossed feeling in his bottom half anyways.. Wheel chair bound, dependent and struggling with it all being a very prideful man .. After being told we had AT LEAST 5 years with him.. For him to be able to see his first grandson grow up a little (he was only 2 months then).. My father losses his battle after only 4 MONTHS 12 DAYS!!!!!
I'm SOOO confused!! I also have 2 daughters who we're raised with my dad acting as their dad too. Grandpa was the father figure for my girls as they transitioned thru my divorce . They are 12 & 15.. Seeing them NOT dealing or mourning the loss of their favorite person is hard and it hurts ! I feel maybe this is why I mourn or DON'T mourn .. I emotionally and physically can't! my son was 6 months still breastfeeding when he passed, and my girls had shut it out! They we're in the room as he took his last breath, as our whole family was.. But since then.. To "deal" with the actual loss isn't happening. My oldest has since acted totally defiant , in a complete not her way. My baby knows pictures and my middle daughter shuts down completely. I'm a total ANGRY mess at this point. I'm sad, mad, confused, and lossed!
I kno everyone grieves their own way, but I don't think this is healthy!! I just want him back!
I also want my dad back. I miss going bowling and shooting pool with him.
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Old 03-15-2013, 05:03 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I also want my dad back. I miss going bowling and shooting pool with him.
Me too, I miss my Daddy. I miss his nightly phone calls to say hi. I miss his knowledge about things too.
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Old 03-15-2013, 11:23 PM
 
Location: Stephenville, Texas
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My maternal Grandmother died almost 25 years ago on my 30th birthday. I still think of her on my birthday. I think of spending a week or two there with my grandparents during the Summer as a teenager. I even remember the smells of the old farm house, and smelling bacon she was cooking for breakfast. She kept scrapbooks of every card and letter any grandchild or family member ever sent her. It was always fun to look through those scrapbooks and remember the cards or letter you had sent her...because they were all in there. I'm glad to have the good memories of all my grandparents. Don't ever forget the good memories. Peace to you, and remember, we've all lost someone we were close to in life. Please feel free to share your memories here, we will listen.
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Old 03-16-2013, 01:08 AM
 
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It will get better, GPC but you will always cry for your mother. My mom once in a while cried for my Nana even though Nana had been dead 30 years. It's been 19 years for Mom and 9 years for Dad now and though it's not an everyday/minute thing like it used to be, I still will start to cry occasionally over both of them. Parent, child, spouse....that love and sadness will never disappear. Just calms down and you learn to live with it.

Peace.


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We look before and after, and pine for what is not;
Our sincerest laughter with some pain is fraught
Our sweetest songs are those that tells of saddest thoughts

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Old 03-16-2013, 05:54 AM
 
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We look before and after, and pine for what is not;
Our sincerest laughter with some pain is fraught
Our sweetest songs are those that tells of saddest thoughts

Anon
Thank you.
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Old 03-16-2013, 10:23 AM
 
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Missing my Dad too. Oct 30, 2002 he passed.

Irony is my sister who tangled with him the most is the one trying most to immulate (sp?) him. She is trying to remember what he taught her and is seeking to do things the way he did. she made a garden, her finances, etc.

He is gone but he is still here.
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Old 03-18-2013, 10:13 AM
 
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I agree with almost everything said here. I also lost my dad in 1992, and not a day goes by where I do not think about him.

Some days, especially the frustrating ones, I would have given all that I owned to just have five minutes with him. But five minutes would not have been enough. The first 40 years I had him was not enough.

I am sorry for your loss, Tony. Good men are hard to find and you will heal. That does not mean the memories will go away or even fade. It just takes time.
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